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Ninety nine percent of people will never figure

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this out. They'll they'll go their whole lives, and they'll say, man, I wonder why that guy's got all these why is he so disciplined? Why is he so good? How can this guy do this? How can that person do that? I wish I had that. The reason they have that is because they made a conscious decision at some point in time to not let external circumstances dictate the outcome of their life,

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and you have to make that decision. One thing that every individual that's done something extraordinary,

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I'm talking about from writing books to poetry to businesses to sport, they all had one thing in common. At some point, they all wanted to quit, and they didn't.

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What is up, guys? It's Andy Purcella, and you are listening to the show for the realists. Say goodbye to the lies, the fakeness, delusions of modern society, and welcome to mother reality. Guys, today,

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we have q and a f. That's where you submit the questions, and we give you the answers. DJ,

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how can they submit their questions? Yeah, guys. You can email your questions in to askAndy@AndyFurcella.com.

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You can also click the link in the description below and submit them there, or just drop them in the comment section of the q and a f videos

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on the YouTube. Now the questions could be about anything, man, but typically,

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we like to keep them around how to win. Alright? Personal development, how to build your business, how to kick ass.

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Those are the things we like to talk about here on this show.

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If this is your first time listening, we have shows within the show. Alright? Today, you're gonna hear Q and AF like we talked about. And then other times, you're gonna hear CTI. That's cruise the Internet. That's where we put topics on the screen. We speculate on what's going on. We talk about it.

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We talk about, uh, you know, how ridiculous some of this shit is, and then we, uh, we we

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talk about how we, the people, have to solve these problems going on in the world. Other times, we're gonna have real talk. Real talk is just five to twenty minutes of me giving you some real talk.

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And then other times, we're gonna have what's called 75 hard versus. That's where somebody who's completed the 75 hard program comes on the show. They talk about how they were before, how they are now, and how they use the 75 hard program to transform their lives. If you're unfamiliar with 75 hard, it is the initial phase of the live hard program, which is the world's most famous mental transformation program

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ever. And you get it for free at episode two zero eight on the audio feed. Again, that's two zero eight on the audio feed only. It is not on YouTube.

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You can also go to andyfercella.com,

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and there's a book called the book on mental toughness.

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And you can, uh,

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buy that book. It is not free, and it will give you the entire LIVE HARD program plus a whole bunch of other information on mental toughness,

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why it's important, how to use it in your life. And one of the things we do different here in this show is that we don't run ads on the show. Alright? We're the biggest show in the world that does not run ads. And the reason we don't run ads is because I don't wanna be told what I can and can't say by somebody who's paying me money. So

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I can guarantee you that anything that I say here is of my own free will,

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which is more than I can say for most of the people out there. So

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we ask very simply

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that you do us a solid. If you like the show, if it makes you think, if it makes you laugh, it gives you new information,

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it helps you get better.

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Don't be a hoe. Share the show. Alright. What's up, dude? Good Morgan.

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Yeah.

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What's going on? Good Morgan. Yes.

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Get some somebody Morgan's good. Yeah. Cool. What's going on, bro? Nothing, dude. Yeah? I'm, um, you 're looking a little beat over there. Dude, I'm exhausted. Yeah. I'm not gonna lie. Yeah. Did the Murph today.

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You did? Dude, I I was literally writing up a caption for my IG post. I that is something that I've avoided for six fucking years. Yeah? And they got done today. Yeah. You know? And Then now are you gonna do it again? Next year. Oh. Yeah. Yeah. It's once it's a once a year. I mean, listen, we're gonna prep for it. You know? I'm gonna beat my my time, you know, set my my standard, and it will get beat next year. Well, speaking of the book on mental toughness, we have mister Tim Grover here with us who, uh, wrote the forward for the book. I couldn't think of anybody better to write it. I got some good ones for for both of you. Oh, you got some good ones. Some really really good Get

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ahead of yourself. Yeah. Now let's get back to

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you Mhmm.

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Looking like you just got your ass beat. Yeah. Yeah. I did. Yeah? I did. I I beat my own ass. Yeah. Yep. It's better than beating your own meat. I

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don't know about I mean, it's it's good though. He asked for that one. No, dude. It's it feels good, though, man. You know? I'm sore. It feels good. You're already sore? Bro, listen, I was sore when I had to run that second mile. Like, I was already I'm like, alright. You know? But but, no, dude. I'm I'm You wanna explain to the audience what actually you did that they don't What the Murph is? Yes. What the Murph is. Yeah. It's a it's a Memorial Day challenge

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in honor of Michael Murray Murphy, lieutenant Michael Murphy.

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You start off with a mile run,

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then it's a 100 pull ups, 200 push ups, and then 300 air squats, and then another one mile run.

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And you can do it weighted. I think that's like what's recommended. I did a I think I used wheels, so I think it was like a 20 pound.

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Did you do it in that succession or did you do little rotations? No. I did rotations. I broke it up. So I did my mile first and then I did 20 rep rounds, basically, of five pull ups,

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10 push ups, and then 15 air squats. Yeah. I did 20 of those rounds. Now I know you didn't do clean pull ups. How'd you that? Absolutely not. No. I mean, was assisted. Scaled it out. Yeah. Just scaled it out. You know? That's alright. But, you know I was just curious. Yeah. It's your mark. Listen, dude.

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That's like I mean, that's a goal. You know what saying? Bro. I'm a fellow fat dude. I know what pull ups are all about. Yeah. It's like when you're in grade school and they put you up on the pull up bar and you just hang there. That's right. That's right. That's right. Like, that's what it's like. And then you're like, alright. You kinda like, and then you get off. Yeah. No. But but the standard has been set. And then your short is off and if I could see Yeah. Oh, yeah. It's We've all been there, all three of us. Yeah. It's the worst, bro. Yeah, man. No. It feels good though, man. I'm, you know, got it down. The standard has been set. Good. So Good. Feels good, though, man. Um, Yeah. How are you doing? You good? Yeah. I'm good, man. Yeah. You look good, man. Just doing a thing. I like you with the glasses. Oh, do you? Yeah. I do. Wow.

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Like, the it's just it's giving something, man. It's it's giving. Just something. I think that's what the the youngster states. You guys gotta be careful. You talk about beating meat, I come on lighting them with the glasses. Where where are we going here? I'm getting ready to step out, man. Get

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out to our stage. Hey, Tim. How are you doing, man? How

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are doing, Tim? What's new with you? I'm excellent. I'm

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know, I am excellent. I'm sitting here with

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individuals I truly admire. You know, DJ, we've been on you Yeah. For a long time, and I come in here, and I just the results that you have the transformation has been exceptional, man. I know we pissed you off a lot of times,

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but you saw the result. And until,

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like Andrew said,

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when you made the decision, that's when every that's when everything happened. And we're we're both extremely proud of you, and just

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keep just keep going. Yeah. What he's saying is don't get fucking Yeah. Yeah. That's right. Just keep going because listen.

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That fat when you go home,

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that fur that fat person is waiting for you. Oh, yeah. He's standing right outside the pocket. He's in

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there. Sits

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in he's he's he sits in the car. They go to sleep every every every single every single day. He's just waiting. They're just they're just they're just Waiting to whisper in your ear. Yeah. Chinese

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buffet. That's right. Sam, you know?

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Pizza.

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Tapping tapping you on her tapping you on her shoulder. Yeah, man. Yeah. That goes for all of us. Oh, bro. Listen. The only reason I know that is because he's still in there talking to me every day. Oh, mine hasn't paid rent in so long, but he's been living there. Yeah.

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Yeah, man. No, man. It's awesome. It's a it's a great day to get better today. It is. Um, and in honor of having Tim on, I got some really, really good questions for, uh, for everybody here. So let's make some people better, shall we? Let's do it. Guys, Andy, Tim, question number one.

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Andy, I'm 24,

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and I honestly think comfort

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has become my biggest enemy.

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Anytime life gets hard, I instantly look for distractions,

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like food or my phone or sleep, anything to avoid discomfort.

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I know discipline matters.

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But how do you train yourself to stop running from hard things when your brain is wired to avoid them? Well, I don't know. How do you get muscles?

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You lift heavy shit.

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Okay? Like, how do you how do you be able to run 20 miles?

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You start trying to run.

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Alright? You gotta understand that your discipline is a skill set that has to be cultivated

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and trained in order for it to work.

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So

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when you say,

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well, I know discipline is important. No.

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Discipline is fucking everything.

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Mhmm. It will

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decide

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whether or not you actually become what you wanna become or not. It will dictate your physique. It will dictate your income. It will dictate your spouse. It will dictate your family. It will dictate every

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single thing

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in your life.

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The problem isn't that people don't know what to do. It's that they lack the ability to do it. It's the ability to adhere to a plan.

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And

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you could get any recipe for anything out of a book and literally read it

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and make the best possible version of that if you follow the directions. It's it's not that the plan is not out there. It's that you can't follow the fucking plan. Alright? And that's what you have to understand.

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And instead of looking at discipline as if it's some sort of mystical force like all of us did at some point in our life,

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you have the opportunity as a very young person to figure out that this is a perishable skill set that needs to be trained on a regular basis.

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So that would be my first thing to say to you is that you have to understand

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that you have to invest in this. You have to train it, and you have to train it by

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making the hard decisions

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that

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feel very hard for you right now

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over and over and over again. And as you make those decisions and as you do the thing that is required

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instead of the thing that makes you more comfortable,

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you gain strength. That muscle, that disciplined muscle begins to develop. It gets stronger. It gets bigger. It gets more capable of making the right decisions.

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And

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that's going to require you

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with a very weak discipline muscle

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to do and make decisions

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around things that seem to be very hard.

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But once

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you develop that muscle and once you develop that ability,

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the decisions that you're struggling with now become almost automatic down the road.

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Alright? No different than when you first go into a gym and you start to lift some weights and those weights feel very heavy, You have to continue to lift those little weights

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and look stupid and feel stupid

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before you can get to the big weights. And then once you get to the big weights, you go back to lift the little weights, and it's very easy. Mhmm. So these decisions that you're struggling with,

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while they seem very hard to you,

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they're only hard because you lack the skill set

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of discipline that you haven't built yet. Yeah. Yeah. And you you described this before too, you know, because I know we talked about this on CTI, but, like, I mean, these young kids now with social media, their phones, like, all of these things, they are inundated with it. Right? Like, it's a trillion dollar industry that's being pumped to them. And you've described

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discipline before.

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It was like the pizza or the food is this, like, inanimate object

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not having power over you. Yeah. Now can you dive into like, because maybe, like, this is Well, it's very simple. Are you literally gonna give up your entire fucking life because something

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sits in front of you that has no no

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not a single thing in it has control over anything? Yeah. And you're gonna look at that thing, whether it be alcohol or food or

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whatever it may be,

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and you're going to allow this inanimate object to fucking beat you,

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what is fucking weaker than that? Yeah. That is the weakest shit.

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When you say it like that, that is the weakest fucking shit.

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You are literally losing to something

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that it that has no fucking power. It's like, it's not even alive. It's not even a real thing. You're losing to yourself,

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and that's what you have to understand.

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DJ, read the first part of the question again. Uh, I'm 24, and I'm on and I honestly think comfort has become my biggest enemy. Okay. Keep going.

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Anytime life gets hard Alright. Stop right there.

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24 and life is hard.

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I mean Uncle Tim's here, baby. Yeah, bro. That's the that you know, I get that.

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But, you know, you don't know what you don't know. Right? Like, you don't know that it keeps getting fucking hard. That's what she's gonna say. I'm like,

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dude, you can't even rent a car yet.

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Yeah. I I and, Lily,

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look,

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you have to go this person has to go back to the way he was brought up. And

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somewhere down the line,

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you'll know exactly why you are the way you are. And on when you recognize that and you're willing to deal with that, this will this will start to change. Otherwise, you're gonna be sitting here. You're gonna be asking the same question at thirty, thirty five, forty, forty five. You're just gonna keep doing the same thing over and over and over again.

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Alright?

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Deal with what made you this way.

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Whether it was your upbringing,

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whether it's something that something that happened, or everything was just everything was just everything was just handed to you. You never had to work for anything. You're addicted to you're you have an you have an addiction you don't wanna deal with.

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It starts and ends

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with you. And then when you're gonna when when Andrew talks about the discipline stuff,

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everyone you have to master everyone tries to discipline themselves into multiple things. Discipline yourself in one thing, master it.

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Then discipline yourself in the other thing, master it. You know, everybody wants to go from one thing to the other to the other to the other. And the other thing listen, dude. You stop making fucking excuses. Alright? This is like, you know, I it's everybody. Yeah. You know what? The brain is designed for comfort. The brain is designed for relaxation. But everything you want and everything you look at on your phone all day, you say, man, how how are they doing? It's not a secret.

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It's not a secret. He just gave you the he just gave you the solution in in five minutes. Literally, in five minutes.

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And like he said, the recipe is out there. You're looking at you're looking

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yeah. You know what?

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Start the 75 hard. That's why we built the program. It's not a physical program. Start the start the are you gonna fail? Absolutely, you're gonna fucking fail. Absolutely, you're gonna fail. But you're gonna fail at something you actually put some fucking effort into it. Dude, the thing is with 75 hard is the you know, people are like, oh, I gotta get to day 50 and start to fuck over. Yeah. That's how fucking life works, bro. Okay?

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You don't fail and then get to take a fucking vacation and be who you used to be. If you really wanna fucking change it, like you really wanna change it, and at 24 years old, I dude, I would being exactly where you are right now, being exactly where I am right now. I don't have to know shit about you. I would fucking trade places with you in one second because

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you are aware enough to understand that you lack the discipline. I was not until I was 36 years old. Okay? That's twelve years that I fucked off from the time where you are to the time where I finally figured it out. You have an opportunity right now to figure this out to the point

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where you could develop this skill set which will allow you to execute in a way that nobody else your age is going to. And by the way, it's not just your age. It's almost everybody.

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Everybody quits when it gets hard. Everybody seeks comfort when it gets hard. Oh, I I deserve this. Everybody lies to themselves about what they've done to deserve these things. Dude, it's all a lie. It's all bullshit.

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Do you really want it, or do you fucking not want it? If you really want it, do the fucking program

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because that will help you understand

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and consistently

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invest in this skill set. That's why 75 hard is not a one and done thing. Okay? It is a program. The live hard program is a program

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that is done literally every year. You know why it's done every year? The same reason you take a fucking shower every day. Yeah. Because if you don't practice discipline,

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you become less disciplined. It is a perishable skill. And if you can learn that at 24 fucking years old, dude,

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you have no idea

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the advantage you have over everybody else. Because everybody else is gonna do exactly what Tim said. They're gonna go to next year. They're gonna start with next Monday. Right? This is how it goes because I did this. Mhmm. You know what?

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I need to get in shape. I need to do this. I need to do that. Well, fresh start on Monday. And then by Wednesday,

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they're already giving in to all this comfort bullshit. Mhmm. And they're like, fuck it. I'll fucking start again on Monday fresh. And because I'm gonna start again on Monday, from now until Monday, I'm gonna do all the shit that I know I won't be able to do for the next, you know, however long. Because I'm starting Monday. Right. And then what that does is that starts to compound, and it's just math.

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You're spending four or five days of the week trying to do all the stuff you know you're not supposed to do, which then creates a bigger mountain and a bigger mountain and a bigger mountain and a bigger mountain. And, eventually, that mountain's so big that people look at it and they're like, fuck it. I can't fucking do it. Okay? And this all comes from your inability to overcome

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the very small decisions on a daily basis which challenge you. And so instead of looking at these things like, oh, they're hard,

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you need to develop a little bit of fuck you. Okay? And what I mean by that is, oh, that's a test.

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That's a test. This isn't gonna fucking break me. This fucking beer doesn't have any power over me. This fucking pizza doesn't have any power over me. Fuck that shit. I'm stronger than that. That's what I mean by fuck you. And you are stronger than that, but you have to understand

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that it's by overcoming these little things in the day to day that allow you to have the discipline to do the big things that create the big outcomes that you're after. And to be real with you, dude,

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you are in a great spot because you're 20 fucking four years old.

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People will

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99%

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of people will never fucking figure this out. They'll they'll go their whole lives and they'll say, man, I wonder why that guy's got all these why is he so disciplined? Why is he so good? How can this guy do this? How can that person do that? I wish I had that. The reason they have that is because they made a conscious decision at some point in time to not let external circumstances dictate the outcome of their fucking life. And you have to make that decision.

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Am I going to live like everybody else? Am I going to do what everybody else does? Am I going to to have what everybody else has, or am I going to become the best that I could fucking be? And that's your fucking choice. And there is no other choice, by the way. You don't get to be in the middle. It's either you did or you fucking didn't, and that's it. So I would make the decision right now to come to an understanding that

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discipline is something that you can build,

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create,

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and use to create the life that you want, but you sure as fuck aren't gonna create the life that you want if you can't conquer a motherfucking beer. Yeah. Okay?

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One

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thing that everybody in this room, every individual that's done something extraordinary,

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I'm talking about from writing books to poetry to businesses to sport.

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They all had one thing in common. At some point, they all wanted to quit, and they didn't.

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That is it, man. And they and and

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and they and they didn't. The other thing is I do give him,

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I'm assuming it's a It's a guy. Yeah. It's a guy, I'm assuming. Okay. The courage. You took the step

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to write this to write this out. So now you have recognition. You're recognizing I have an issue. I I I need I need to figure this out. Understand thing about discipline.

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Alright? Not being disciplined is a discipline.

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That's just like that's like when people say, oh, the key to success is consistency. Yeah. Motherfucker, you're consistent. You're just consistent in the wrong things. Right. Right. Yeah. So you haven't yeah. Don't tell me you're not you're just disciplined in the wrong things. Yeah.

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So you are you're disciplined. You're just disciplined in the wrong in the wrong things. Not being disciplined is a decision.

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It's a it's a decision.

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Alright? Yeah.

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Yeah, dude. This is not this look. And I agree with you, man. Like,

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number one,

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this

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we're talking about greatness here. Okay? We're talking about extracting

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what God has put in you.

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This is why you have this feeling.

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The reason you have this feeling of being behind

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and not being good enough and, you know, not doing I need to do this and this and this. That's because that was put in you for a fucking reason.

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And your

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purpose is to pull that out and share it because it's gonna create greatness not just in you and your life, but in in society. And

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when you think about, like,

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where most people are,

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they think about this in terms of making money. But this isn't just about money, bro. This is about, like Tim said, contribution.

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It could be art. It could be music. It could be

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it could be anything, whatever you wanna be great at. And I do give this young man credit

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not just for asking the question,

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but for being aware enough to acknowledge

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Yes. Your own shortcomings. Yeah. Because it starts with a really hard look in the mirror. We are our biggest liars. We will lie to ourself about fucking everything.

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And if you will not stand in front of the mirror and take a real,

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true, honest,

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unbiased,

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accountable

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assessment of your own life, you cannot win. You cannot win. There is going to become a time if you want to create what it is that you want to to do

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that you're gonna have to look at yourself, dude, and you're gonna have to realize it's nobody's fault. It's fucking not your parents' fault. It's not your friend's fault. It's not your coach's fault. It's not your boss's fault. It's not your girlfriend. It's not your boyfriend. It's fucking you. It is you. And until you have that conversation,

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you can't even develop the awareness that this young man has already developed and say, hey. This is where I'm weak. How do I fix this? Okay?

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So, yeah, I give him a ton of credit. Yeah. And, honestly, it excites me of someone being 24 years old and coming to that And having recognition. Yes. Yes. That recognition. And don't tell us you don't have time because

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this

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generation, you have more time available to you than anything. It's

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it's unbelievable. You you don't know. Talk to somebody who's a little bit older and what we had to do to kinda create this create this time, that's that's not an issue. Bro, and and and also when you're young, dude, you want this is when you wanna develop this skill. And and by the way, if you are 40 or you are 50, it's not too late. Alright? That's not what I'm saying.

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But what I am saying is typically when you're younger, you have less obligations.

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Okay? You you you probably don't have a big mortgage. You probably don't have four kids. You probably don't, you know, have all these things.

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The more of those things that you put onto your life, the harder it is to climb that mountain. It's it's no different than a Sherpa climbing up Everest, dude. The more shit you put on his back, the harder it is gonna be for him. It doesn't matter how good he is. Yeah. You should still do it. Yeah. But it's it's It's be harder. It's gonna be harder. Yeah. So, you know, this whole idea

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that we hear about so often

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about

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young people going out and finding themselves.

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Bro, listen, man. There is no fucking finding yourself. That's not a real thing. You make a fucking decision about who you're going to be and what you're going to be and what kind of life you're going to live, and you go out there and you fucking build it. Shit doesn't just fall into you. You nobody just discovered themselves,

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you know, successful or great or an amazing athlete or a wealthy entrepreneur.

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That that's not how it fucking works, man. And we you guys have been lied to with this idealistic bullshit

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about finding yourself.

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You you know what you're gonna find? You're gonna find yourself fucking broke.

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That's the fuck you're gonna find at the end of that journey. Damn, bro.

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I don't know about

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DJ, don't know about alright. Andy, I know about, you know, your father, my father. You go up to them. Said,

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I found you. You're right fucking right here. Yeah. Right here. That wasn't even a real conversation. I wasn't I I got, like I I gotta go let me eat. What are you looking for? Now taking a honest assessment

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about what you're into and who you want to be,

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that's okay. Right. Right? You should do that. Like, what do you wanna do? And you may not have the right answer, but you probably have a general idea. You probably understand, like, I don't wanna be poor. You probably understand that you like certain things. Mhmm. Okay? You just kinda have to start going in that direction. And then as you do and you're developing these skill sets of being able to adhere to a plan, aka discipline, grit, fortitude, perseverance,

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the ability to overcome, endurance,

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you know,

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mental resiliency,

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physical resiliency.

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As you develop these things,

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you become skilled at following the path.

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Okay? And then that way, when you start to narrow it down and the path starts to become a little more clear, you have the skills to go down that path and create.

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And, like, dude, this is it it's it's completely opposite

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as to the narrative of what's told to these young people, which is try a little bit of this for three years. Try a little bit of that for three years. Try you do it. Gap year. Don't do shit. Bro, you gotta understand, motherfucker. There is you are running out of time.

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That's a real thing. You know? Oh, I don't like hustle culture because of urgency. Okay. Well, then fucking don't

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listen to it and just go live your life. This ain't for everybody. It's not for everybody. Winning and greatness and building shit and becoming who the fuck you're supposed to be, it's rare. Winning

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is not the expectation for everybody.

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Okay? Building

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and creating and becoming,

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that's abnormal. That's not greatness

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is abnormal.

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It's not a normal thing. Okay? Like, we have this idea that, like, everybody's gonna end up in the same spot.

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That's total bullshit, man. Okay?

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And if you want to be great at whatever it is that you do, you're gonna have to fucking start now. Yeah. That's it, man. Yeah. I fucking love it, dude. I love it, man. Guys, let's get to question number two.

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Andy Timm, what

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keeps you motivated after achieving big goals?

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I am roughly two weeks out from getting the fruits of my labor for the last fourteen months. I can smell it. But one of my friends asked me the other day, what's next?

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And at first, I felt a little disrespected because I guess I wanted the acknowledgment of the achievement.

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But then thinking on it more, I think I understand what he meant. I'm just not sure what to do next. So what keeps you motivated after achieving big goals? Well, first of all, he hasn't achieved this. He's still two weeks away. A lot of shit happens in two fucking weeks now. Alright? You celebrating already?

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Celebrating already? You counting the confetti? You're doing all that. What the fuck are you doing? Job's not finished. The hell are you talking about? There's been tons of deals at the last minute. Like, yeah. This this ain't this ain't happening. There could be a shift in the in in the world that something happens. This ain't done yet. What fruits are your labor? Fourteen months?

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You know how you you know how you you know how you guarantee you get those fruits? You you set the bar even higher and go after that right now, and those things will automatically come. Yeah. You'll close that gap immediately. Exactly. It's yeah. Listen. If you it it there always has to be a next. There always

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has

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to be a next.

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Always. Especially for people that have high drive and ambition.

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You know, it we're told all the time, man, that, like, it's unhealthy to to not celebrate in these things. But the the problem is it's it's no different than seventy five hard day. When people get done with seventy five days and then they they literally celebrate

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with the things that made them dissatisfied

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with who they were in the fucking first place. Yeah. Okay? Let me get a seventy five hard fucking celebrate? You celebrate by saying, okay. Cool.

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Now I'm gonna do this. Mhmm. Because now I have the opportunity. I climbed up those first four stairs. Now I have the opportunity to go the next four. That's a fucking celebration. That's worth celebrating.

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Hey. Here's what I created.

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Now we could take it to this level and this level and this level. That's where the excitement comes from. Okay? So, like, when you talk about motivation,

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like, what keeps you motivated, it's it's it's it's the idea of constant progression.

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Alright? You you gotta understand, dude,

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that

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most people we've always heard these stories, right, like about,

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oh, you know,

00:30:22.875 --> 00:30:38.340
the guy went out and built a business and, you know, he got all this money, sold his business, and then he fucking killed himself. Well, he didn't kill himself because he had all the fucking money, bro. That's like what people wanna believe. They wanna believe that, oh, the dude got his money and the money you fucking made. No. That's not it.

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What happened was

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he lost his purpose. Purpose. He lost his drive. He lost the next. That's right. There was no next. So instead of instead of raising the bar and realizing who the fuck you are, and this is true for most people, you just don't know it, most of us

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are built

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for achievement.

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Most of us are built for winning.

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We're just brainwashed into thinking that that's not us. Okay?

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And the reason that these dudes go out and kill themselves and become miserable bucks is because they have not done what we're telling you to do. They they cross the finish line

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miraculously.

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They get a big check.

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They get celebrated.

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You know?

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It gets recognized, and then that becomes the thing. Right? Like, oh, I won the fucking

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I won the MVP in the homecoming game. And when I was in high school nobody cares, man. Nobody gives a shit. Okay? Oh, I I did nobody cares what you did. Nobody cares what you did, and they probably don't care about what you're doing either. So the reality is is you

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have to learn

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to set the bar past.

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Like, now, you're 80 of the way there. Okay? Like, let's just say you are. I don't know if you are or you are. You say you are. I don't know.

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Championship people,

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people who become

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fucking

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great,

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those people are not looking

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at that first goal anymore, at 80%.

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Mhmm. They're already fucking they've set a new The finish line's already moved. Yeah. And that's the thing, dude. Like, they're that's why celebration

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is such a dangerous thing, man, because it can become

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it can become

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something that lasts way too long. And that's why I I I have a rule, man, and it's a twenty four hour celebration rule. Alright? Like, when you see the greatest coaches of all time

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I'm not talking about players. I'm talking about coaches.

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Well, some players are like this too. You could probably vouch for this. Celebrate hard. Don't celebrate long. Yeah. That's it, man. Like That's it. And, dude but, like, the psychopaths?

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Bro, there is times when Nick Saban has has Bill Belichick. Okay? When Bill Belichick was a Patriots video that way. Yeah. When when Nick these guys

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literally

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walk off the fucking field

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from winning the biggest

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thing that you could win in that sport.

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And you know what they're looking at? They're looking at all the shit they fucked up during the game. Hey. We got a lot of work to do. We gotta do this. I'm you know, tonight,

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you know, the guys are gonna go but we're gonna be back in. Don't dude, Nick Sabo go back in the office the next day at fucking 4AM. Yeah. Okay? Like, it's already it's already

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done. He I remember this. And like you said, it's on video. They had won the they had won the national championship, and they they they when he was doing the interview, and he goes what he goes, what's next? He goes, I'm six weeks behind of next season already because the recruiting's already starting and all those other things. He goes, I'm six he goes, I'm six weeks behind.

00:33:33.375 --> 00:33:35.295
He goes, I'm six I'm six weeks behind.

00:33:35.890 --> 00:33:38.850
Coach, aren't you gonna celebrate? He goes, I just did. Yeah.

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Yeah. I I I I I just I just did. Alright. And people are just looking at them like They don't get it. They can't comprehend that. You know what? Everybody has

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the same idea of what a celebration

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is. It's supposed to be this month long or two month thing or a whole off season with all this partying and all this thing and people filling you up with all all this bullshit over and over over again, and you get suck you get sucked into that. And then if you go over and tell us, listen. I'm already I'm I'm here already. I'm over here. And then they look at you because what you're doing is they

00:34:12.960 --> 00:34:13.680
feel like you're

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wanna celebrate

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your achievement for doing nothing.

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So

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the it's not about you. It's about it's about them. How they were celebrating. Yes. Yes. It's how they wanna sell it's like they wanna celebrate. It's just like, alright. When you go if you just you just talk about, you know, alcohol and drinking. Alright? If you're a regular consistent drinker,

00:34:37.120 --> 00:34:41.840
alright, and then one day you go out with your friends and say, I'm not drinking today. What's wrong? Yeah.

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You know? Yeah.

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And it was like, I'm not I'm not telling you guys not to drink. Drink whatever the fuck you want. Yeah. I I just decided that they look at you like you're beautiful. You know? And it's it's a reflection

00:34:53.095 --> 00:35:22.745
it's a reflection on them. It's got nothing to do. And it goes back to that discipline from answering the first question that you said, holy fuck. He he's got the discipline or she has the discipline to sit here with all of us while we're drinking, we're doing all this stuff, and they're not. Yeah, man. They're like, man, I wish I I wish I wish I wish I had that. So what instead of saying they wish they had it, they start to attack you. And instead they're not attacking you, they're attacking themselves. They're attacking what they lack in themselves

00:35:22.825 --> 00:35:30.425
because you have something or develop something, as Andrew would say, that they haven't developed. Well, dude, think about this too, man. Okay?

00:35:32.560 --> 00:35:33.680
Let's just say,

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hypothetically,

00:35:35.520 --> 00:35:41.600
let's say Bill Belichick won one Super Bowl. Let's say Nick Saban won one national title.

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For most people,

00:35:44.005 --> 00:35:48.405
that's what they hang their hat on for their entire life. And while that is

00:35:48.885 --> 00:35:50.885
a pinnacle achievement,

00:35:51.205 --> 00:35:57.205
there will come a time where people stop fucking talking about it. And what we're talking about on this show

00:35:57.605 --> 00:35:58.405
always

00:35:58.410 --> 00:36:03.450
is greatness. We're not talking about winning once. We're talking about greatness.

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And if you want people to care

00:36:06.650 --> 00:36:08.250
about your greatness,

00:36:08.570 --> 00:36:15.485
winning one time is not enough for that. You have to cross the line from good to great to iconic.

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And the way that you get there is by winning so undeniably,

00:36:20.685 --> 00:36:22.205
consistently long

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that eventually when you do, like Nick Saban now as a commentator,

00:36:26.810 --> 00:36:29.370
when Nick Saban walks in the motherfucking room,

00:36:29.850 --> 00:36:54.545
there is no there it's not, oh, Nick won this championship and that championship. They just look at him and say, that's the fucking greatest motherfucker ever. It's fucking Nick Saban. Okay. That's fucking Nick Saban. And that's the recognition that y'all want from winning once, but it doesn't come from winning once. It comes from a lifetime of winning, and that's what you have to understand. So if you truly want to be because, like, dude, that's a that's a real thing. Okay? Some people,

00:36:55.200 --> 00:37:08.560
the the recognition is very important to them. Some people don't give a shit. Some people just play for the game. That's how I am. I don't give a fuck about who I don't care. I don't care. I don't care. I don't care. I don't care. And it's hard for people to understand that that's real

00:37:08.895 --> 00:37:09.615
because

00:37:09.695 --> 00:37:14.415
they they care. Right. But there is people, one of the six human needs is significance.

00:37:14.575 --> 00:37:22.350
They want the recognition. They want those things. That's a big driver for a lot of people. Well, if that's really a driver for you, you have to understand

00:37:22.750 --> 00:37:24.830
that what you are seeking

00:37:25.150 --> 00:37:27.950
will not come from winning one time.

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It will not come from that. It will come from a lifetime of winning to the point where, you know, Nick Saban is 70 years old,

00:37:36.805 --> 00:37:40.325
and he's consider he's for Nick Saban could disappear

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and never say another word in public. Never and he's gonna be considered one of the greatest that ever did it. I know.

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Period. Okay? John Wooden, same thing. The guy wins, you know, what was it, nine out of 11 years in a row, he wins a national title.

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Um,

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that's the level of winning. It takes decades, bro, to create the level of recognition

00:38:03.515 --> 00:38:06.795
that significant seeking people are actually looking for

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from winning once.

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And that's that's a that's a big disparity. You have to commit yourself. And the only way to get to that

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because, you know, this this guy said, oh, well, I was a little bit offended, but I kinda understand what he was trying to say. Well, that tells me that you recognition is important to you. Mhmm. Okay? It's probably also your first win. Okay. Okay. But, dude, but, dude, that's where most people fuck it up. He hasn't gotten his first win yet. That's right. That's what I'm trying to he's looking for recognition. They're looking for and he hasn't even he hasn't even gotten it yet. He hasn't even gotten it yet.

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You know, coming back in two weeks and show us proof that this actually that this actually happened. Don't create something with fucking AI.

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Alright?

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Show

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us that this actually happened because there's somebody in this office

00:38:54.040 --> 00:39:07.465
that's gonna call and find out if we can actually verify this thing or not. I mean, dude, how many times we've seen this in sports, bro? The guy the guy, uh, he's wide open. He's running in the field. He starts to celebrate,

00:39:07.465 --> 00:39:13.145
and he's throwing the ball. He's got the ball hanging out, and some dude whacks it away. That's it. Okay? Like, that can happen.

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That that happens all the fucking time.

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Okay?

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In life, it happens way more than it does in sports,

00:39:20.640 --> 00:39:21.840
especially in business.

00:39:22.160 --> 00:39:23.360
My recommendation

00:39:23.600 --> 00:39:26.400
is for you to be real with yourself

00:39:27.005 --> 00:39:32.285
about what it is you're doing this for and why you're doing it. I'm not here to judge why you're doing it. Sure. Okay?

00:39:32.685 --> 00:39:37.965
Certain people do things for impact. Certain people do things for their own benefit. Certain people do things for recognition.

00:39:38.285 --> 00:39:45.780
Whatever it is. The ultimate reality of all of that is that a lot of good comes from winning. So we're not here to judge the moral,

00:39:46.340 --> 00:39:50.660
uh, positioning of why you're trying to win. I don't give a fuck. Okay?

00:39:50.980 --> 00:39:55.140
I know why I wanna win, and why you wanna win might be different. Winning

00:39:55.380 --> 00:39:58.535
winning runs the world, bro. Okay? Like,

00:39:58.775 --> 00:40:01.815
winning runs the world. That's the thing that you have to understand. And

00:40:03.255 --> 00:40:04.215
for you,

00:40:06.615 --> 00:40:11.415
as someone who is seeking significance and recognition to get the level of recognition that you are seeking,

00:40:12.210 --> 00:40:21.090
you are gonna have to win for a long fucking time. Yeah. Okay? A long time. A long time. We're not talking one win. We're not talking two wins.

00:40:21.330 --> 00:40:23.650
Okay? I had a quote go viral

00:40:24.130 --> 00:40:25.570
the other day. It's like

00:40:26.545 --> 00:40:27.425
like,

00:40:28.545 --> 00:40:41.745
no nobody gets lucky for twenty seven fucking years in a row, bro. Okay? Like, I win, motherfucker. Like, I'm a fucking winner. Like, if you if you had me as an enemy, you should probably pick a different one. Just quit. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Like, you just go pick someone else. Okay?

00:40:42.910 --> 00:40:43.870
Learn from me.

00:40:44.990 --> 00:40:48.510
Model me this, that, the other. You try to compete with me.

00:40:49.230 --> 00:40:53.470
I'm a run you the fuck over, dude. And they wanna know, listen. What people

00:40:53.470 --> 00:40:54.030
can

00:40:54.430 --> 00:40:58.105
look at what he just says as arrogance. Oh, yeah. It's

00:40:58.105 --> 00:40:58.825
confidence.

00:40:58.985 --> 00:41:01.065
Alright? And then you know you know what?

00:41:01.625 --> 00:41:07.145
It's only arrogance when you haven't proven it. Right. And here here's the thing here's the thing. You know what? You know what?

00:41:07.625 --> 00:41:08.265
Winning

00:41:08.750 --> 00:41:17.070
is a drug dealer for confidence. The more you win, the more confident you are. Dude, and not only that. See, I understand what I'm prepared to do. Yeah. Like, I know like, okay.

00:41:17.550 --> 00:41:23.475
If I'm gonna take a big l, let's just say I take a big fucking l. Let's say all my companies implode

00:41:23.475 --> 00:41:25.235
and fucking it doesn't matter

00:41:25.555 --> 00:41:34.835
because I'm going to fucking go back to where I was with the knowledge that I have, and I'm gonna keep going. And so while you may think

00:41:35.220 --> 00:41:38.100
in your mind that you're beating me today,

00:41:38.660 --> 00:41:43.300
I could promise you that unless you are fully committed to go your entire life,

00:41:44.020 --> 00:41:53.365
I'm gonna fucking end up ahead of you. Yeah. And that's that's just reality, dude. And that's not for everybody. Not everybody's like that. It's perfectly okay to build something

00:41:53.765 --> 00:41:59.685
and go through a different season of life and this and that. But, like, you have to understand, dude, the fucking psychopaths

00:41:59.685 --> 00:42:15.330
that get the recognition that you're fucking after, these motherfuckers are wired for one thing. Okay? They may not be the best dad. They may not be the best fucking family guy. They may not be the the the the nicest person. I don't fucking know. It could be all kinds of different things.

00:42:17.655 --> 00:42:21.095
But that level of recognition comes from a psychopathic

00:42:21.095 --> 00:42:21.975
commitment

00:42:22.375 --> 00:42:36.130
to doing whatever the fuck you've gotta do. And, yes, you should do it with class. You should do it with a set of moral standards. You should do it the right way. You should treat people good. All of these things matter. But my point is is that

00:42:38.450 --> 00:42:39.570
true recognition

00:42:39.570 --> 00:42:44.450
for being great does not come from one win. And if you're driven by recognition,

00:42:44.850 --> 00:42:46.050
you should be the kind of person

00:42:47.255 --> 00:42:54.935
you have to be the kind of person that is consistently setting the bar higher and higher and higher. Let me ask you guys this real quick on this. We

00:42:55.015 --> 00:42:57.095
were talking about this the other day in the locker room.

00:42:57.575 --> 00:42:58.855
Is winning relative?

00:42:59.870 --> 00:43:09.310
Is it relative? What do you mean? Like, is it like, you know, a win for me is a win for me. May not be Oh, no, dude. Yeah. You know what We were just talking about this. Yeah. Sometimes, like, dude, like,

00:43:10.270 --> 00:43:12.910
like, I forget that sometimes. Yeah. Like, sometimes,

00:43:13.825 --> 00:43:16.705
like, people will tell me their wins, and I'm like,

00:43:17.105 --> 00:43:29.480
the fuck you talking about? Like, that's that's easy for me. Yeah. And and we have to understand that that probably wasn't easy for me For them. When I first started. Yeah. Okay? So you do lose sight of that sometimes

00:43:29.720 --> 00:43:37.640
as you go down the path. I'm guilty of that. Yeah. For sure. Like, I sometimes I have people tell me things that were a big win to them, and I'm like,

00:43:39.425 --> 00:43:45.585
I have to remind myself, like, bro, this is this is you twenty years ago. This is you fucking twenty five years ago.

00:43:46.065 --> 00:43:54.145
So, yes, the wins are relative, and they teach you, like Tim said, the confidence a little bit at a time. What was a win for me

00:43:54.920 --> 00:43:56.840
fucking twenty years ago

00:43:57.800 --> 00:44:08.440
is something that now, like, I it's like, I don't even it, like, doesn't even Yeah. It might even be considered a loss at this point. Well, no. I'm just saying like the look, man. I'm talking about the mental overcoming.

00:44:08.440 --> 00:44:09.960
Okay? Like

00:44:11.495 --> 00:44:17.975
like, dude, I'll just give you an example. Like like, I used to have no control over my food. None. None.

00:44:18.215 --> 00:44:25.630
Okay? None. Like, when I look at like, when I say, hey, man. Fuck that shit. That's the attitude that I had to develop to get past it. Okay?

00:44:27.550 --> 00:44:30.510
If I walked by like, if people invited me to dinner

00:44:31.710 --> 00:44:42.235
like, dude, you know me. You've been to dinner with me 4,000 times. I order the same fucking thing everywhere I go. Yep. Okay? I I order clean food. It's I don't even think about it. Like, I don't look at the rest of the menu.

00:44:43.515 --> 00:44:45.595
Back when I first started that,

00:44:46.635 --> 00:44:57.200
you know, I'd open up the menu, and then I automatically start, like, justifying. Oh, I want the I wanted the the nachos, and I want this. You know what? I'll start tomorrow. And, like, the brain automatically

00:44:57.200 --> 00:44:58.880
started the lie.

00:44:59.680 --> 00:45:00.240
Now

00:45:00.960 --> 00:45:02.240
it doesn't even

00:45:02.925 --> 00:45:07.725
it's not even a thought. So this is the benefit of developing

00:45:07.965 --> 00:45:13.725
this discipline muscle that we're talking about. And so, yeah, dude, the first time that I went into a restaurant

00:45:13.805 --> 00:45:25.930
and I ordered what the fuck I was supposed to order versus what I wanted to, I walked out of that restaurant being like, fuck, dude. I can't believe I I did that. It's a fucking win. Yeah. That's a huge win. Yeah. It's a huge win. So sometimes,

00:45:25.930 --> 00:45:26.730
reality,

00:45:27.370 --> 00:45:30.010
these things that seem like they're not a big deal

00:45:30.570 --> 00:45:32.170
are really setting the foundation

00:45:33.135 --> 00:45:38.335
for you to be able to make the decisions that are a big deal. Mhmm. And so you can't discount

00:45:38.575 --> 00:45:51.870
someone else's small wins against, you know, your scale of winning. Like I said, and sometimes I forget that. Yeah. Right? Because, like, dude, I know what it's like, bro. Like, I know what it's like. I know what it's like,

00:45:52.190 --> 00:45:58.830
and I know what people are capable of. I I know who I am. I know how regular I am. I know how

00:45:59.585 --> 00:46:01.025
not gifted I am.

00:46:03.025 --> 00:46:05.185
And and and when I look at someone,

00:46:05.585 --> 00:46:20.220
like, I understand because I'm seeing myself. Yeah. Right? So, like, when people hear me and they're like, man, he's really fucking hard on people and this and that. No, dude. I'm just telling you the truth about yourself because I've been there and I understand.

00:46:20.300 --> 00:46:22.860
Like and and you could sit there and say, but, Andy,

00:46:23.820 --> 00:46:30.495
no, dude. There's no buts. You are capable you are far more capable of what you think you are.

00:46:30.735 --> 00:46:32.895
You just haven't been able to overcome

00:46:33.135 --> 00:46:41.535
the small little decisions that start to build this up. And, again, this is I'm not trying to make this a pitch for 75 hard, but this is why the program exists

00:46:41.910 --> 00:46:44.710
because it teaches you how to do these things

00:46:45.110 --> 00:46:47.590
in seventy five fucking days.

00:46:47.830 --> 00:46:58.585
Okay? And then once you like, there's no program that's ever been developed or will ever be developed that can create that kind of progress in that short of amount of time mentally.

00:46:59.305 --> 00:47:02.665
You you can't learn that shit any other way. So,

00:47:03.385 --> 00:47:05.785
you know, what we're talking about here is

00:47:06.265 --> 00:47:07.305
a few different things.

00:47:08.010 --> 00:47:11.130
The recognition that this is something that you can build,

00:47:11.770 --> 00:47:15.290
the understanding of who you are and what

00:47:16.250 --> 00:47:17.210
honestly

00:47:18.090 --> 00:47:22.730
motivates you. Okay? Like, what are you actually after? And it can't be

00:47:23.505 --> 00:47:32.865
what you it can't be what you think everybody wants you to say. Mhmm. Like, it's gotta be the real shit. What do you really want? I know some very successful people

00:47:33.105 --> 00:47:33.985
that are

00:47:34.305 --> 00:47:36.465
they are highly driven

00:47:37.070 --> 00:47:38.270
by recognition.

00:47:38.270 --> 00:47:40.430
I think the shit's stupid. I'm like

00:47:41.710 --> 00:47:49.390
I like I but that's what drives them. And because that drives them, they make the right decisions. And then those right decisions compound,

00:47:49.710 --> 00:47:51.070
and it creates a life

00:47:51.390 --> 00:47:57.135
that ultimately inspires people Mhmm. To go after the same thing. So, like, if we're being real,

00:47:57.455 --> 00:47:59.695
you know, this moral posturing about

00:47:59.855 --> 00:48:06.720
why? Why did you do this or that? Dude, it doesn't matter. It doesn't matter. What matters is is that the outcome

00:48:06.720 --> 00:48:07.520
happens

00:48:07.520 --> 00:48:08.880
because the outcome

00:48:09.280 --> 00:48:18.960
is what inspires other people to understand that it's possible, which is ultimately what I believe our duty is as humans. We are writing a story

00:48:19.040 --> 00:48:20.080
of inspiration

00:48:20.615 --> 00:48:22.295
with our own existence.

00:48:22.695 --> 00:48:30.775
And you can preach it, you can talk it, you can go on stage, you can show slides, you can do all this shit, but at the end of the day,

00:48:31.655 --> 00:48:33.895
none of that shit matters if the outcome's not real.

00:48:34.530 --> 00:48:38.690
So like, you know, like a a lot of people are like, I wanna be a professional speaker.

00:48:38.850 --> 00:48:39.490
Okay.

00:48:40.130 --> 00:48:40.770
Well,

00:48:41.010 --> 00:48:45.490
you understand that. You can talk all that shit you want, bro, but

00:48:45.810 --> 00:48:48.930
that's a temporary thing that you say, oh, I really wanna help people.

00:48:49.895 --> 00:48:54.455
Well, unless you created the outcome for them to see in that life of yours that they want,

00:48:55.015 --> 00:49:01.095
that fucking little blurb that you don't care how good you are at saying it. That's temporary. It's temporary.

00:49:01.255 --> 00:49:04.855
So you have to be able to understand that, like, dude, we're artists,

00:49:05.250 --> 00:49:06.770
and we have this canvas.

00:49:07.010 --> 00:49:09.490
And our job is to paint what the fuck we can

00:49:09.730 --> 00:49:12.930
in a certain amount of time, and time is running out.

00:49:13.330 --> 00:49:13.970
So

00:49:14.690 --> 00:49:18.930
are you gonna draw what everybody else drew just because it's easy and it's comfortable?

00:49:19.665 --> 00:49:23.345
Are you gonna be honest with yourself and say, this is what I actually want?

00:49:23.505 --> 00:49:27.825
This is who I actually wanna be. This is the outcome I actually wanna create.

00:49:28.945 --> 00:49:30.945
And this is what drives me to create that outcome.

00:49:31.470 --> 00:49:40.430
And then understand what's going to do that for you and then be able to go do it. Yeah. I love it, man. I think where he gets frustrated, Annie, when you talk about the wins is

00:49:41.870 --> 00:49:50.645
you're you're you're not frustrated with the win. You wanna know what's next. Yeah. That that's the that's the frustrate that's the frustrate great. You had this right.

00:49:50.805 --> 00:50:15.840
I'm but if you tell my man, I just got this win, and now I'm about to you'd be like, yeah. Yes. It's just when they stop, right, you'd be like, okay. You just stop. It's like when people tell you because I know they're gonna go backwards. Right. Yeah. So, you know, it's like people always talk about their hopes and dreams. I was like, dude, I wanna hear about your hopes and dreams. I wanna hear about your decisions and actions. That's the next con that's the next conversation. Yeah. You know, my hope, you know, hope is not a strategy. You know, my dream listen.

00:50:17.525 --> 00:50:29.365
First of all, for your dream to become a reality, it's gotta be a nightmare first. You gotta go through the nightmare. Fuck. Yeah. You gotta go you gotta go you gotta go through the night nightmare. You know, in the book Winning, talk about, hey, listen.

00:50:30.530 --> 00:50:33.970
You know, your your your nightmares,

00:50:33.970 --> 00:50:35.810
they're the ones that come visit you

00:50:36.210 --> 00:51:19.465
on a regular basis. They're the ones that keep you up late at night. They're the ones that, you know, take away from time for from from your family and all this other thing because you have this you have this you have this vision. You have this nightmare going on in your in your head. And I said, I got I gotta I gotta figure I gotta figure figure this figure this out. And most people, they turn around and put the fucking pillow over their head or take something to, like, make it go when you wake up. You're in this you're not in the I won't even say you're in the same position. You're actually in a worse position because that day is not gone. And the next day is gonna be gone, and the next day is gonna be gone, and the next day is gonna be gone. And like you said, Monday turns into a Monday and turns into a Monday. And you have fit have what? You have 52 Mondays in a year? Alright.

00:51:19.625 --> 00:51:24.025
That's not a lot. No, man. It's our it's it's literally gonna be

00:51:24.665 --> 00:51:27.145
we're already this year is already almost half done. Yeah.

00:51:28.190 --> 00:51:30.350
It's literally it's literally half

00:51:30.830 --> 00:51:34.190
done. Look at you look at how old are your brother's kids now?

00:51:35.150 --> 00:51:44.535
Uh, nine. Oldest nine. Nine. Yeah. Six. Nine. Nine. Seven. Yeah. I remember, like Yeah. And you look and people like, what you look at me like, what happened?

00:51:45.095 --> 00:51:48.535
That's how quick this goes by. Like, what happened? Yeah.

00:51:49.015 --> 00:51:55.495
Right? And that's a perspective that you can't have until enough times pass. Right. Yeah. And so, like, it's very important.

00:51:55.940 --> 00:51:59.380
I think one of the biggest lies when it comes to winning is that,

00:51:59.780 --> 00:52:01.300
like, there's a finish line.

00:52:02.020 --> 00:52:07.300
There's not a fucking finish line, bro. There there's things along the way that happen that are great.

00:52:08.180 --> 00:52:08.820
But

00:52:09.735 --> 00:52:19.095
the minute you get to the finish line, remember, doesn't matter you sold your business, you you you won the trophy, you won the championship, whatever it is, man.

00:52:19.495 --> 00:52:23.735
The minute that the finish line is crossed and you decide that that's the finish line,

00:52:25.120 --> 00:52:25.920
you're

00:52:25.920 --> 00:52:27.680
going to have to deal with

00:52:29.440 --> 00:52:31.280
a couple different things. One,

00:52:31.840 --> 00:52:37.440
are you okay with that? Is that are you are you good with what you accomplished? Because if you're not,

00:52:37.840 --> 00:52:46.795
then it's gonna eat you forever. Okay? There ain't gonna be shit you could do about it. No. Without start you gotta start again. Yeah. And it's really hard to get started again once you've stopped.

00:52:47.035 --> 00:52:47.675
Alright?

00:52:49.035 --> 00:52:54.715
If you get to a point and like I said, there's seasons in life. Right? There's times where, you know, like, I know guys

00:52:55.510 --> 00:53:02.470
who have built companies and then they've sold them and then they've turned their focus into something else, but that something else

00:53:02.950 --> 00:53:04.070
is also

00:53:04.870 --> 00:53:09.585
a new thing to master. Yes. Right? Like, I've got a buddy of mine

00:53:10.065 --> 00:53:17.265
who well, fuck. MJ does this. The the okay. He retires as the greatest player of all time. Well,

00:53:17.425 --> 00:53:20.990
now he's figured out, I'm gonna compete in fishing.

00:53:21.150 --> 00:53:23.230
I'm gonna compete in NASCAR.

00:53:23.310 --> 00:53:28.190
Okay? And those that so, like, now he's working to do this other thing.

00:53:28.670 --> 00:53:31.070
Right? And if we don't have that next thing,

00:53:31.390 --> 00:53:37.385
you have to understand that your story is over, and you have to be okay with that. That part is closed.

00:53:37.385 --> 00:53:38.985
And I think a lot of people,

00:53:39.865 --> 00:53:44.425
they mistakenly think that they're gonna get to a number or they're gonna get to a a a

00:53:44.745 --> 00:53:47.225
it's usually a number, but a point

00:53:47.830 --> 00:53:48.550
where

00:53:48.870 --> 00:53:58.550
that itch is scratched. But if you're truly built for the game, that itch that itch is never fucking scratched, dude. And the minute you try to fit into the boundary of everybody else just kinda cruising,

00:53:59.030 --> 00:54:02.070
you're gonna self destruct. Whether you you like them or not,

00:54:03.195 --> 00:54:04.475
look at Elon.

00:54:05.515 --> 00:54:10.955
Yeah. Whether you like him or not. Yeah. I don't know if it's it's not a political thing. No. Alright?

00:54:12.875 --> 00:54:24.250
Band don't don't have to do anything ever again. No. And he's constantly. Still going. Keep Still going. Keep going. But you gotta know yourself, dude. Like, that's the thing. It's like, you gotta know yourself, man.

00:54:24.570 --> 00:54:26.490
You know, there's a number of days

00:54:27.610 --> 00:54:40.315
like, this happens to me all the time, man. Like, I go home, I'm and like, what the fuck am I doing all this for? Like, especially on the hard days. I'm like, why am I why am I fucking doing I don't have to fucking do this. Everybody has doubt. Everybody at some point

00:54:41.115 --> 00:54:58.200
has has that has that doubt. Yeah. It all points at all levels. At all all levels. Exactly. That you question yourself. Why in the fuck? But you know what? When you question yourself, you have the fucking answer. Yeah. You have the answer from everything that you've built all all the way. You look at, uh, you look at

00:54:59.185 --> 00:55:11.505
what would it be like if I didn't do it, and what if I looks like if I keep going. And you're like, yeah. This is not even an option. That conversation is short, but we've all had that conversation on a regular basis. And you and people think we don't.

00:55:12.040 --> 00:55:14.920
We don't we don't have we have those conversations

00:55:15.160 --> 00:55:16.840
all the fucking

00:55:16.920 --> 00:55:20.040
time. Dude, and the answer the answer is

00:55:20.360 --> 00:55:21.560
it goes like this.

00:55:22.520 --> 00:55:24.840
Okay. I understand this is frustrating.

00:55:24.920 --> 00:55:25.560
This is hard.

00:55:26.685 --> 00:55:28.445
Let's say you did stop.

00:55:28.845 --> 00:55:30.605
What are you gonna do? And

00:55:30.925 --> 00:55:38.365
if you can't answer that question about what are you gonna do, you shouldn't stop because that's where you self destruct. Yeah. You know, I've seen so many entrepreneurs,

00:55:39.920 --> 00:55:40.720
you know

00:55:42.400 --> 00:55:44.560
fuck. Athletes too, dude. Like,

00:55:45.760 --> 00:55:49.440
get to a point where they feel like, okay. I've done what I can do.

00:55:50.080 --> 00:55:50.640
But, again,

00:55:52.005 --> 00:56:06.325
the the recognition that they're after and what they're after or the impact they're after hasn't truly materialized yet. And then they stop. They take a break. And then if you wanna start again, it it's like just as hard as starting from the beginning. Yeah. So you have to, like,

00:56:07.660 --> 00:56:08.220
know

00:56:08.540 --> 00:56:13.980
yourself and you have to know what it is you want if you are gonna pivot into that next thing.

00:56:14.380 --> 00:56:15.740
For a lot of people,

00:56:16.300 --> 00:56:17.020
you know,

00:56:17.820 --> 00:56:21.500
the the pivoting into that next thing comes too early. Mhmm. Okay?

00:56:22.255 --> 00:56:24.335
You haven't really won yet. You haven't

00:56:24.975 --> 00:56:29.455
you did a couple things good. Okay? You made a couple bucks. You you did a couple things.

00:56:30.175 --> 00:56:39.060
You sell your shit. You get out whatever. And you think that you're gonna go, like, sit on a beach, bro. I'm gonna tell you, you're gonna like that for about three fucking days.

00:56:39.460 --> 00:56:44.100
And, actually, you're probably gonna like it for about one day. Because the second day, you're gonna be like, oh, okay.

00:56:45.060 --> 00:56:51.705
What am I gonna do next? You know? And, like and then the third day, you're like, I'm not doing anything. This sucks. Like

00:56:52.025 --> 00:56:53.305
and, you know,

00:56:54.185 --> 00:56:56.505
this if you're already in a point,

00:56:57.305 --> 00:57:03.065
and it doesn't matter what level you're at, dude. If you're already at a point where you're thinking about

00:57:04.940 --> 00:57:10.460
your life as what can I achieve, what can I do, what can I build, what can I create,

00:57:11.100 --> 00:57:24.255
you've got the bug, bro? You're built different than everybody else. Most people, that thought never even goes into their mind. They live like everybody else. Mhmm. They do what everybody else does. They measure their standards of success the same way that everybody else does,

00:57:24.575 --> 00:57:32.095
and they never real with themselves about what they really want. And because that happens, they end up living a life that at the end of it, they're like, well, I I didn't do anything.

00:57:32.690 --> 00:57:36.850
Well, the guy who's unaware and this is why awareness is a really

00:57:37.490 --> 00:57:40.130
it's a it's a it's a plus and a minus sometimes.

00:57:40.610 --> 00:57:41.250
But

00:57:41.410 --> 00:57:43.250
when you have the awareness

00:57:44.685 --> 00:57:46.365
and you don't exercise

00:57:46.525 --> 00:57:47.805
your capabilities,

00:57:47.805 --> 00:57:49.085
it will destroy you.

00:57:49.645 --> 00:57:52.685
When you don't have the awareness and you live in ignorance

00:57:52.685 --> 00:57:57.165
and which is fucking okay, that's why the saying exists, ignorance is bliss. Mhmm.

00:57:58.460 --> 00:58:05.900
Those people can live their whole lives and at the end of it, they they don't even, like, question. They say, oh, my life was great. He lived a great life. That's right. That's

00:58:05.900 --> 00:58:10.460
right. But if you're not wired for that dude, you're gonna be the guy at the end of your life saying,

00:58:11.685 --> 00:58:24.020
fuck. I fucking didn't do anything I wanted to do. Yep. Mhmm. So, like, you gotta really be honest with yourself, man. And if you're already asking the question, that means you got it. Right? Because most people never ask it. Everything's

00:58:24.020 --> 00:58:31.460
impossible till somebody does it first. Yeah, man. It's real, man. Yep. I love it. Guys, we got one more. Yeah. Third and final question, guys.

00:58:31.780 --> 00:58:33.140
Question number three. Andy,

00:58:33.460 --> 00:58:39.905
I had this realization recently that I spend a lot of time talking about the person I want to become,

00:58:40.225 --> 00:58:50.865
but my daily habits still look a lot like the old version of me. And that gap between who I say I want to be and how I actually live is starting to bother me.

00:58:51.185 --> 00:58:57.810
Was there a moment for you where you realized you had to completely change your identity and not just your habits?

00:58:58.930 --> 00:58:59.570
Yeah.

00:58:59.730 --> 00:59:01.090
It's what I just said.

00:59:01.330 --> 00:59:03.570
It's when you become aware of it. Yeah.

00:59:05.010 --> 00:59:06.690
The minute you become aware

00:59:06.855 --> 00:59:10.375
that you aren't living and you aren't becoming and you aren't creating

00:59:10.775 --> 00:59:20.135
who you want to be and what you want to do and you do nothing about it, that is the first day of the rest of your life of a miserable, bitter,

00:59:20.860 --> 00:59:21.980
unfulfilling,

00:59:21.980 --> 00:59:22.860
frustrating

00:59:23.020 --> 00:59:23.900
hell

00:59:24.140 --> 00:59:27.500
that you will try to escape or convince yourself

00:59:27.580 --> 00:59:28.540
that you,

00:59:29.820 --> 00:59:31.900
you know, should be this other way.

00:59:32.220 --> 00:59:33.980
So, like, the the minute

00:59:34.505 --> 00:59:44.025
that you become aware of this, you have to go, dude. You have to go because you're now you now you could see shit you couldn't see. Mhmm. So for me,

00:59:45.145 --> 00:59:45.865
you know,

00:59:46.985 --> 00:59:48.425
there's been a couple different moments.

00:59:48.890 --> 00:59:59.130
I could tell you the most pivotal moment for me. Um, you know, when I grew up, I always wanted to be successful. I I didn't wanna depend on anybody. I I knew

00:59:59.690 --> 01:00:00.570
inherently,

01:00:01.985 --> 01:00:06.305
I felt it my whole life that I was supposed to do something

01:00:06.385 --> 01:00:09.665
different. I could feel it even when I was a little kid.

01:00:12.305 --> 01:00:14.385
When I got to be 36 years old,

01:00:14.625 --> 01:00:17.585
I I was already worth, you know, 9 figures.

01:00:19.400 --> 01:00:20.440
I built

01:00:20.440 --> 01:00:22.120
what most people would say,

01:00:22.520 --> 01:00:27.720
like we talked about earlier. Yeah. I had a one. You did pretty good. Yeah. Okay. Right. Right.

01:00:27.720 --> 01:00:28.520
Except

01:00:29.080 --> 01:00:32.520
I was looking in the mirror, and I was three hundred and fifty pounds.

01:00:32.840 --> 01:00:33.560
And

01:00:34.415 --> 01:00:36.495
I realized that if I

01:00:36.815 --> 01:00:39.135
did not change who I was,

01:00:39.695 --> 01:00:46.255
the best thing that I would have ever achieved in my life was making a few dollars. Mhmm. And I was 36 years old.

01:00:47.120 --> 01:00:51.120
And I started seeing myself, okay, well, where am I gonna be at 46?

01:00:51.120 --> 01:00:53.200
Well, I'm gonna be four hundred and fifty pounds?

01:00:53.600 --> 01:00:56.480
And then I was like, well, where am I gonna be at 50? And I'm like, oh, fuck.

01:00:57.360 --> 01:01:00.720
I'm gonna be dead. Yeah. Those people don't last long. Right. You know? So

01:01:01.545 --> 01:01:02.745
so for me,

01:01:03.465 --> 01:01:06.745
I I realized that, and then I also realized

01:01:07.225 --> 01:01:08.905
that it wasn't fair

01:01:09.545 --> 01:01:11.385
to all the people

01:01:11.545 --> 01:01:16.105
that had helped me, believed in me, who had bet on me with their careers

01:01:17.330 --> 01:01:20.530
that this was just about me. And I knew

01:01:20.850 --> 01:01:25.010
that I had to fix my shit. I knew I had to to transform

01:01:25.810 --> 01:01:30.290
and become the best I could because, dude, I was honest with myself. I I knew

01:01:31.085 --> 01:01:34.045
that I wasn't good. I'm not good enough to compete.

01:01:34.525 --> 01:01:37.885
I'm not good enough to compete. That's what you guys gotta understand.

01:01:38.045 --> 01:01:39.885
I'm not good enough to compete

01:01:40.685 --> 01:01:51.340
unless I'm the best that I can be. There's other people that are smarter than me. There's other people that are more gifted than me. There's other people that have better relationships than me. There's all these things. This is I'm aware of this.

01:01:51.980 --> 01:01:52.620
Okay?

01:01:53.020 --> 01:01:55.020
But the one thing that I could control

01:01:55.260 --> 01:02:00.220
is how fucking hard I go and how well I control the things that are within my control.

01:02:00.745 --> 01:02:02.425
And I am willing to bet

01:02:02.825 --> 01:02:05.625
that there are very few people on this motherfucking planet

01:02:05.785 --> 01:02:12.025
that are more in control of those things than I am. And that's when I say, like, hey. You might be beating me today,

01:02:12.345 --> 01:02:16.100
but this is temporary. You should enjoy it today because eventually,

01:02:16.260 --> 01:02:21.300
I'm going to pass you. Because I understand who I am now, and I understand

01:02:21.540 --> 01:02:23.460
that I can control

01:02:24.660 --> 01:02:26.740
all of the controllables in my life

01:02:27.265 --> 01:02:33.185
at this point in time without really even thinking about it. And that's what happens when you create tremendous

01:02:33.745 --> 01:02:37.345
discipline muscle. Okay? Yeah. It gives you a superpower.

01:02:37.505 --> 01:02:45.450
Because every single time it gets hard or even somebody who's conditioned for hard things, there will be a point that fucking breaks them.

01:02:45.770 --> 01:02:57.055
And I am unbreakable, bro. I'm unfucking breakable at this point in my life. So I know I'm a stop you right there. The key point of what he just said at this point in his life, because in order to be,

01:02:57.615 --> 01:02:58.575
uh, unbreakable,

01:02:58.575 --> 01:03:18.280
you have to be broken so many fucking times. That's right. You have be broken so many times where they cannot break you anymore. Yeah. Dude. And that's that's just real shit. And there's gonna be more hard times that come my way. Yeah. There's gonna be dude, I could get sick. I could get injured. I'm gonna have people close to me that are probably gonna fucking die.

01:03:18.520 --> 01:03:24.415
I I understand these things. Yeah. I I understand that that's gonna happen. But And I'm at that age where

01:03:25.535 --> 01:03:29.935
people I know contacts I have in my phone, people I know personally,

01:03:30.015 --> 01:03:31.535
people I've done business with

01:03:32.015 --> 01:03:34.335
are are starting to pass. Yeah.

01:03:34.735 --> 01:03:36.335
And and, dude, and

01:03:37.260 --> 01:03:40.140
but you're a realist about it. Yeah. Okay? Like,

01:03:41.740 --> 01:03:45.420
you if you can build yourself into that, which you can,

01:03:45.900 --> 01:03:47.020
all of you can,

01:03:47.660 --> 01:03:50.940
there's nothing that can stop you, dude. Like, there's nothing

01:03:51.020 --> 01:03:52.300
that can stop someone

01:03:52.775 --> 01:03:56.695
who has built themselves into somebody that cannot be broken.

01:03:57.095 --> 01:03:59.015
You you can't stop them.

01:03:59.255 --> 01:04:13.990
You can't stop them. It doesn't matter what storm comes their way. It doesn't matter what tragedy comes their way. It doesn't matter what hardship comes their way. They will continue to wake up, and they will do what they can. They will control what they can, and eventually they will overcome.

01:04:14.070 --> 01:04:17.590
And that should be the goal for every single person listening.

01:04:17.590 --> 01:04:24.365
You have to become the kind of person that it does not fucking matter what is happening in your life.

01:04:24.525 --> 01:04:25.645
It doesn't matter.

01:04:25.965 --> 01:04:31.805
You are still going to keep pushing. You are still going to wake up. And when you become that,

01:04:32.830 --> 01:04:34.830
that person is unbeatable

01:04:34.830 --> 01:04:35.630
because

01:04:36.350 --> 01:04:37.630
everybody else

01:04:38.750 --> 01:04:40.190
and this is especially

01:04:40.190 --> 01:04:41.070
relevant

01:04:41.470 --> 01:04:45.070
to to these like, lot of times when you're young, you look around.

01:04:45.710 --> 01:04:46.750
I did this too.

01:04:47.525 --> 01:04:48.725
You look around

01:04:48.965 --> 01:04:58.805
and you're like, man, that guy's fucking parents invested in his business. You know? That guy got lucky here. He had this happen or that happen. You know what the biggest blessing for me has been in my entire life?

01:05:00.030 --> 01:05:01.390
Nothing came easy.

01:05:01.630 --> 01:05:02.430
Nothing.

01:05:02.430 --> 01:05:05.950
Yeah. Not having any of that. Nothing came easy. Okay? Yeah.

01:05:06.830 --> 01:05:14.590
And that taught me more than anything else. So if you're out there and you're struggling and you're looking around, you're like, but that guy has this and that, that's temporary.

01:05:15.255 --> 01:05:22.935
Because that motherfucker that had that good thing happen to him that you didn't, when that first storm comes in his life, it's gonna fucking wreck him.

01:05:23.335 --> 01:05:25.415
You're learning how to overcome

01:05:25.575 --> 01:05:26.855
these things now.

01:05:27.335 --> 01:05:27.895
And

01:05:28.375 --> 01:05:30.615
when you can become this kind of person

01:05:30.870 --> 01:05:32.950
that is mentally prepared

01:05:33.270 --> 01:05:38.150
to handle whatever the fuck is thrown their way, I'm not saying you're gonna do it with a smile.

01:05:38.390 --> 01:05:41.030
I'm not saying that you're not gonna go home and cry.

01:05:41.190 --> 01:05:43.910
I'm not saying that you're you're not gonna have a breakdown.

01:05:45.145 --> 01:05:46.425
But when you're done,

01:05:46.905 --> 01:05:56.185
you're gonna get the fuck up and you're gonna keep moving. If you can become that kind of person, dude, you can't beat that kind of person. You just can't do it. Yeah. So this person here, it goes back to

01:05:57.160 --> 01:06:08.440
what you you had said earlier, and I say this all the time too. We lie to ourselves more than anybody else would ever lie. Yeah. So when you the talk that he's having, he's lit he's literally he's literally lying to himself.

01:06:08.600 --> 01:06:12.520
And when he when he talks about the self talk, it's not a self talk. It's negotiations.

01:06:12.925 --> 01:06:16.205
He's losing the negotiations with himself every

01:06:16.205 --> 01:06:19.245
single day or the most of the time. And we all

01:06:19.645 --> 01:06:22.205
and you just have to be like, I'm not I'm not

01:06:23.005 --> 01:06:24.205
more negotiations.

01:06:24.205 --> 01:06:25.730
No more negotiations

01:06:25.730 --> 01:06:36.930
with my with my with myself. They're are they still gonna be chirping? Yeah. They're still gonna be chirping. They're still gonna they're they're still gonna be talking and said, it ain't happening. See, dude, I give that I give that person a name.

01:06:37.915 --> 01:06:39.995
Okay? I identify that voice.

01:06:40.235 --> 01:06:54.660
I I use it for you guys. I call it the bitch voice and the boss voice. Yes. If you've read my book Mhmm. And you've listened to the podcast when it comes to 75 hard, we talk about the bitch voice and the boss voice. I name that person. I know who that is. That's fat Andy. Okay?

01:06:55.380 --> 01:07:07.140
Fucking fat Andy. That's that's that who's fucking talking to me. And when I can name that person, then I can look at that person and be like, fuck you, you fat piece of shit. I'm talking to myself. Yeah. That's right. That's right.

01:07:08.575 --> 01:07:10.415
But when I can, like, name it

01:07:11.055 --> 01:07:12.815
and I know who's talking to me,

01:07:13.215 --> 01:07:18.735
it's real easy for me to be like, no. Fuck you, dude. Like, I'm not fucking doing that. It's

01:07:18.735 --> 01:07:21.695
when we don't when we have trouble identifying

01:07:22.710 --> 01:07:41.355
this weak person inside of us. Give it a name, dude. Who is it? What's that person's name? Oh, that's fat DJ. Oh, fat DJ is telling me to fucking skip my workout. Say, fuck you. That's right. Okay? Fat DJ is telling tried. He tried today. I'm telling you, Yeah. But he didn't. He fucking did. And that's what the fuck matters. Yeah, man. Okay?

01:07:41.915 --> 01:07:42.955
Give it a name.

01:07:43.275 --> 01:07:45.755
What is that? Oh, that's weak Susie.

01:07:45.915 --> 01:07:50.395
Oh, well, fuck you, weak Susie. That's right. Oh, that's pussy Peter. You know what I'm saying?

01:07:51.150 --> 01:08:00.350
Well, fuck you pussy. Like, whatever you gotta do. But like, dude, it's eat like you gotta No shit. You gotta learn some fuck you, man. Yeah, man. And like, dude,

01:08:01.950 --> 01:08:07.645
you know, maybe there's another way to do it. That's how I fucking do it. You know? But, like, I I know

01:08:08.125 --> 01:08:09.805
that that fat Andy

01:08:09.885 --> 01:08:14.445
is in me. He's fucking in me, dude, and he's whispering all the fucking time. Alright.

01:08:14.685 --> 01:08:15.885
Listen. When

01:08:16.125 --> 01:08:19.085
you roll out of bed, there's all those listen. There's there's

01:08:19.300 --> 01:08:23.780
everything that's way wait. There's comfort waiting for you. There's negotiations waiting.

01:08:23.860 --> 01:08:24.900
There's negotiations.

01:08:24.900 --> 01:08:32.180
There's lazy. There's all all all there's victim. There's all that stuff. They're way they're they're they're they're literally waiting at the bed bed bedside

01:08:32.545 --> 01:08:52.590
for you. And I get up every morning, acknowledge them. Hello. Hello. Hello. Just fucking keep going. Yeah, dude. How'd you guys sleep? I slept great. Alright. Yeah. I think that's I think it's important to understand that never goes away. It never goes away. It's what you feed. It's like that saying, there's there's the, like, there's the fucking, uh, white wolf and there's the dark wolf and whichever

01:08:52.910 --> 01:08:58.830
one you feed more whatever the fuck the saying goes. But there's truth to that. Okay? Like, dude, there is

01:08:59.230 --> 01:09:03.075
there is fucking fat Andy, and then there is unbreakable

01:09:03.075 --> 01:09:04.355
Andy. Mhmm. I

01:09:05.155 --> 01:09:06.915
answer to unbreakable Andy.

01:09:07.155 --> 01:09:20.560
I don't answer to fucking fat Andy anymore. Fat Andy fucking cost me decades of my fucking life. Fan fat Andy cost me tons of pain and tons of frustration and tons of years that I can't get back. I fucking hate that motherfucker.

01:09:20.560 --> 01:09:21.520
I fucking

01:09:21.520 --> 01:09:26.640
hate him. And the minute he starts talking to me, I automatically go to fuck you, dude. Fuck

01:09:27.515 --> 01:09:34.555
you. And fat Andy's gonna keep talking, keep talking. What do you got? The strong what do you call the the other one? Unbreakable. Unbreakable

01:09:34.555 --> 01:09:43.560
Andy's just just waiting. Yeah. We doing this or not? Yeah. Yeah. I I I'm not having a conversation with you. You already know. You already you already know. We doing this or not. Alright?

01:09:43.720 --> 01:10:00.305
And and if you're not, I'm still gonna go do this. And then you're gonna feel so you're gonna feel so guilty because you because you fucking did, and it's gonna hurt you over and over and over again. You don't win you don't win them all, bro. No. No. No. Listen. No. If I'm if I was sitting here

01:10:01.345 --> 01:10:03.665
because this is a this is a game of averages.

01:10:03.825 --> 01:10:09.985
Okay? You wanna win that you want Unbreakable Andy to win 99%

01:10:09.985 --> 01:10:19.080
of the time. There are going to be times where that weak version of you does fucking win. And like you're talking about, Tim, it's gonna create so

01:10:19.240 --> 01:10:20.280
much shame

01:10:20.520 --> 01:10:22.280
and so much regret

01:10:22.775 --> 01:10:30.055
that that even creates more fuck you. Like, oh, you fucking got me, motherfucker. Yeah. That's never happened again. Right? Like

01:10:30.375 --> 01:10:31.175
and you you

01:10:32.775 --> 01:10:34.375
that to me

01:10:34.950 --> 01:10:39.270
has been the biggest difference for me, is to be able to become aware

01:10:39.670 --> 01:10:41.750
of these two versions of myself

01:10:42.070 --> 01:10:52.035
and learn to obey one and to ignore the other. And it's not simply ignoring it. It's like an anger towards it. It's a fucking

01:10:52.355 --> 01:10:56.595
it's a fury Yeah. Towards it. It's it's people, oh, why are you so intense?

01:10:56.755 --> 01:10:57.794
Because, dude,

01:10:58.435 --> 01:11:05.940
I hate that motherfucker because of what it's cost me. Mhmm. Okay? And they'll, oh, well, you hate yourself? Yeah. That part of myself I do fucking hate.

01:11:06.180 --> 01:11:07.140
And that's okay.

01:11:07.460 --> 01:11:08.660
Because the result

01:11:08.900 --> 01:11:09.540
of

01:11:09.780 --> 01:11:12.500
that is so fucking good

01:11:12.740 --> 01:11:15.455
that it's worth having a little bit of that. And honestly,

01:11:15.535 --> 01:11:32.720
I don't think I think that if you don't have a little bit of that, you're you're kinda fucked. That's my Or you're lying to yourself. Now listen. I've lived my whole life being me. Okay? Now maybe there's other people that don't have that, but I actually think that most of the people that come out and they put on a pretty smile and they act like everything's positive,

01:11:33.440 --> 01:11:37.360
and you know you know this too, bro. You get them in fucking private

01:11:37.440 --> 01:11:39.120
and you get them to tell the truth,

01:11:39.920 --> 01:11:43.280
they fucking have it too. Mhmm. They just don't fucking show it in the public.

01:11:43.955 --> 01:11:55.795
They have it. Okay? And I would I would cultivate that, and I would lean into that, and I would identify that, because then it helps you not just be aware of your bitch voice and your boss voice, but it's an actual

01:11:56.300 --> 01:12:02.380
person living inside you that is trying to fuck your life up. What would you do to someone

01:12:03.260 --> 01:12:21.805
who was coming in front of you every day and was trying to get you to do all the wrong shit all the time? You'd be like, dude, get the fuck away from me. Yeah. Fuck off. Right. Like, that's how I treat that version of myself. And that version of myself has gotten quieter and quieter and quieter and weaker and weaker as

01:12:21.805 --> 01:12:22.525
I obey

01:12:23.170 --> 01:12:28.290
the unbreakable part of myself. But it's never going away. No. It doesn't. And if I start to fucking give into it,

01:12:28.690 --> 01:12:52.560
you know, one day and then two days and then three days, that weak version of yourself gets much stronger, much quicker Yes. Than the strong version of yourself. So you gotta understand, it's not equal playing field. Okay? You give that weak motherfucker a few decisions, all of a sudden, bro, he's got some fucking strength back. He didn't need a lot. Mhmm. You know? This guy over here, he needs a lot. He needs a lot.

01:12:53.360 --> 01:12:56.400
The the strong guy needs a lot of investment.

01:12:56.880 --> 01:13:10.655
The weak guy, he only needs two or three days, bro, to fucking grip your ass right out of him. Man. That Okay. So real. It is. Bro. It is. It's like, come on, Andy, man. Like, dude, you've been we've been working for it. Like, bro, we've been on one year fucking shit. We take one night off. Bro, come on, man. And you know what?

01:13:11.295 --> 01:13:12.975
Sometimes I do. Yeah.

01:13:13.695 --> 01:13:14.815
But that's choice.

01:13:15.375 --> 01:13:18.080
But I must say, was That's you. That's you. You. You. That's your

01:13:18.880 --> 01:13:52.600
it's your choice. It becomes it becomes a choice as opposed to Yeah. An an order that you're obeying. Yeah. And even that one day, it is not it's not over the top. It's just it's just I've I've been with the I've seen it. Yeah. I've seen it. Yeah. It used to be over the top. Oh, right. No longer this alright. I'm cool. Like you said, a beer or whatever it is, uh, I'm good. You start to recognize the slippage really quick. Yeah. You know what I'm saying? Like, I think I think one of the biggest things to to recognize here is that when you're kinda just starting to identify these things and build them up,

01:13:53.240 --> 01:14:00.520
it's hard for you to recognize the the backward slips. You're not understanding how fast it can get out of control. Well, if you look at a place, you look at

01:14:01.865 --> 01:14:06.185
the one thing I always marvel every time I come I come I come here to headquarters

01:14:06.265 --> 01:14:11.065
is how spotless this place is. Just abs every

01:14:11.065 --> 01:14:18.610
single room, every single corner, every it is spotless. So you see some dirt on the floor. It's easy to identify.

01:14:19.090 --> 01:14:20.610
It's easy to identify.

01:14:20.690 --> 01:14:21.410
Alright?

01:14:22.930 --> 01:14:26.210
If you if you place inside of you,

01:14:27.525 --> 01:14:29.845
your mindset, whatever, is totally

01:14:30.245 --> 01:14:57.055
dirty all the time, it's very hard to play to find what you're looking what you what what what you're looking for. And that's what you see some it just takes a little bit. A little bit. A little bit. A little bit. You let one thing you let one thing slip here. You let one thing slip here, then another thing slips. It's there's no negotiations. This is what we do. This is how places are gonna be run. I was just looking at the sign in your in your weight room. First day, thirty day suspension. Second, you terminate.

01:14:57.215 --> 01:14:58.415
That's it. Yeah.

01:14:58.735 --> 01:15:04.975
That's it, man. That's it. Those are the standards. So the the that's it. And there and there's no negotiations. There's no nothing there. Here

01:15:05.215 --> 01:15:14.130
the here are the 10 steps. This is what I want you to do. There's don't there's no exceptions here. Here here it is. And if you don't do it, these these are the consequences.

01:15:14.290 --> 01:15:17.650
If you continue to do it, these are the these are the rewards.

01:15:17.970 --> 01:15:21.650
That's it. Well, dude, and, also, I think it's important to recognize that

01:15:22.315 --> 01:15:24.234
the more you obey

01:15:24.475 --> 01:15:33.274
the boss version of you, okay, when you talk about changing your identity, alright, that first little victory is not gonna change your identity.

01:15:33.515 --> 01:15:34.075
Alright?

01:15:34.315 --> 01:15:35.915
The identity changes

01:15:36.235 --> 01:15:37.915
after you've overcome

01:15:38.310 --> 01:15:42.390
test after test after test after test over a period of time.

01:15:43.590 --> 01:15:49.270
And then it becomes your identity, which becomes the standard. Mhmm. Okay? And when your standard resets,

01:15:49.510 --> 01:15:55.215
you are far less likely to move back to who you used to be. So when you say,

01:15:55.935 --> 01:16:02.335
when did you have to or did you have to, you know, completely change your identity? I made the decision

01:16:02.655 --> 01:16:04.735
that I was going to change my identity,

01:16:05.410 --> 01:16:08.290
But my identity didn't actually change

01:16:08.370 --> 01:16:12.770
until I had created a track record Yep. To where I could be like, alright.

01:16:13.250 --> 01:16:15.490
I am who the fuck I think I am

01:16:15.810 --> 01:16:18.690
with the caveat of understanding

01:16:19.045 --> 01:16:23.925
that I could very easily be that person that I used to hate very quickly.

01:16:24.085 --> 01:16:24.805
Alright?

01:16:26.005 --> 01:16:29.925
So, yes, you can change who the fuck you are today

01:16:30.165 --> 01:16:30.965
in your brain,

01:16:32.330 --> 01:16:34.490
But it's gonna be a fragile decision.

01:16:34.890 --> 01:16:35.530
Okay?

01:16:36.650 --> 01:16:38.490
What you live in currently,

01:16:38.890 --> 01:16:44.410
no matter if it's good or bad, was created by a past version of you. Alright?

01:16:44.730 --> 01:16:46.490
That version of you

01:16:47.395 --> 01:16:53.635
literally created the outcome that you live in today. And that is why your identity, if you are not doing well,

01:16:54.035 --> 01:16:57.075
feels like, well, my identity is like losing. Alright?

01:16:59.270 --> 01:17:00.870
When you make that decision

01:17:02.230 --> 01:17:03.430
and you say,

01:17:03.750 --> 01:17:04.790
this is enough.

01:17:05.270 --> 01:17:07.590
Yes. You are technically

01:17:07.590 --> 01:17:20.965
no longer who the fuck you were, but that hasn't cemented yet. That hasn't become, like, as permanent as we want it to be. It's never fully permanent. Okay? The strongest foundation can still be fucking cracked.

01:17:22.485 --> 01:17:27.285
But as you go down the path, it becomes stronger and stronger and stronger. And eventually,

01:17:28.610 --> 01:17:34.530
you say something like I just said where, like, I'm fucking unbreakable, dude. I'm fucking unbreakable.

01:17:34.690 --> 01:17:36.850
I don't give a shit what the fuck happens.

01:17:37.170 --> 01:17:44.775
And I'm sure there's gonna be tests that come my way that are gonna challenge that. I know there are because that's what life is. I've had it happen to me over and over and over again.

01:17:46.135 --> 01:17:50.135
But I've done enough, and I've pushed through enough of those to know

01:17:51.015 --> 01:17:52.615
who the fuck I really am.

01:17:53.015 --> 01:17:54.295
Okay? And

01:17:55.175 --> 01:17:58.055
you have to be able to invest in that identity,

01:17:58.720 --> 01:18:01.680
not just say this is who I am. Okay?

01:18:01.920 --> 01:18:05.120
That's the biggest difference. But I'm gonna tell you something, dude.

01:18:06.800 --> 01:18:08.320
You're aware of this now.

01:18:08.960 --> 01:18:10.720
This person is you're aware of this.

01:18:11.515 --> 01:18:24.555
If you don't go, the rest of your life is gonna fucking suck. The minute that light bulb turns on and you're like, oh, man. I'm not living to what I should be. I'm not who I should be. I'm not this. I oh, I like to have this or that. That's awareness

01:18:24.635 --> 01:18:26.875
creeping into you. And that's a great thing,

01:18:27.740 --> 01:18:34.140
But it's a terrible thing if you're not willing to fucking lay into it and build something around it, because you will fucking

01:18:34.140 --> 01:18:38.620
suffer your entire life. And that is very important for you to understand.

01:18:38.860 --> 01:18:40.060
Once you become aware

01:18:40.585 --> 01:18:44.665
of what it is you're supposed to be and you do not pursue that,

01:18:45.145 --> 01:18:50.905
you are at the beginning of however many years you have left on this planet of living hell.

01:18:51.385 --> 01:18:59.780
For real. And that's a very important thing for you to understand. You don't have a fucking choice, dude. For whatever reason, God shined a light on you and said,

01:19:00.180 --> 01:19:05.220
this is what you could be. Mhmm. Even if it was a fleeting thought. Even if it was something that just like

01:19:07.300 --> 01:19:14.115
and there's nothing you can do about it, bro. You already seen it. So now you can't unsee it. That's right. You know? That's right. DJ, how much weight have you lost?

01:19:15.075 --> 01:19:22.755
Uh, in total, I'm at a I'm at, like, a 105 right now. 105. Alright. You lost a 105 pounds. You basically lost a person. Alright.

01:19:26.850 --> 01:19:27.570
Everything,

01:19:28.210 --> 01:19:29.890
now that the wait is off,

01:19:31.330 --> 01:19:34.210
is better for you to do. Oh, a 100%. Everything.

01:19:34.690 --> 01:19:37.570
Everything. Oh, yeah. Everything. Yeah. Everything. Shopping,

01:19:38.095 --> 01:19:38.815
fucking

01:19:39.055 --> 01:19:42.815
nighttime. You know what I'm saying? Yeah. Everything. Everything. Everything.

01:19:43.295 --> 01:19:44.015
Yeah.

01:19:44.495 --> 01:19:53.430
Yeah, bro. It's it's it's it's worth it. That that's all, but it's it's We're buy some new clothes. That's about it. You know what I'm saying? Shit's falling off. But what

01:19:53.830 --> 01:19:55.350
Tim's saying is, like,

01:19:55.670 --> 01:20:00.230
there's it's not like there's not a reward here. Right. Right. Like Right. The

01:20:02.470 --> 01:20:04.630
progress that you make is the reward.

01:20:05.205 --> 01:20:12.725
It's not a it's not a finish line. Yeah. It's not it's not a fucking number. It's not a check. It's not a trophy. It's who the fuck you are, bro.

01:20:13.045 --> 01:20:14.405
That's the reward.

01:20:14.805 --> 01:20:30.540
The reward is knowing who the fuck you are and being proud of who you are. Because you have the awareness of what you could become and you chose to become it. That's the fucking reward, man. And eventually, you know what? You're gonna make money. You know what's gonna happen too? You're gonna lose money. Okay?

01:20:31.435 --> 01:20:37.995
You know what I mean? Yeah. Like, you're you're gonna you're gonna go through the ups and downs and this and that. That's not that's not the dictation of

01:20:38.315 --> 01:20:42.155
of of your greatness, dude. Your personal greatness comes

01:20:42.475 --> 01:20:48.380
from your ability to get the fuck up and keep moving. And in the real world, when we talk about competing,

01:20:49.020 --> 01:20:51.820
that's why it makes you such a formidable competitor.

01:20:52.220 --> 01:20:57.900
Because while other people stop and celebrate or other people break down when the storm comes, you don't.

01:20:58.765 --> 01:21:10.045
And when you're that person, you cannot be beat. You cannot be caught. People can't make up ground on you. And once you get ahead, and you will because everybody else will naturally quit or fall off or stop moving,

01:21:10.525 --> 01:21:15.749
you get so far ahead to where it becomes the ground cannot be made up. Yeah. You know, if

01:21:17.030 --> 01:21:23.030
just if you're just aware of your surroundings and where are the people you're around, everybody looks for individuals

01:21:23.030 --> 01:21:24.790
who are really successful

01:21:24.870 --> 01:21:27.030
to inspire them and so forth.

01:21:27.705 --> 01:21:32.105
Sometimes you just need to look at somebody and say, I'm fucking losing to that. Like,

01:21:32.745 --> 01:21:34.985
seriously, I'm losing to that.

01:21:35.945 --> 01:21:36.505
You

01:21:36.905 --> 01:21:42.185
look at it say, literally, am I I'm really lose that's what I'm that's what I'm fucking losing to. I'm losing

01:21:42.540 --> 01:21:46.860
to a fucking bucket of beers. Yeah. I'm losing to a pizza.

01:21:47.180 --> 01:21:56.140
I'm losing to that fucking shitty version of myself that I see in the mirror. I'm losing to that, dude? Yeah. I'm losing to that.

01:21:57.005 --> 01:21:59.405
Are you fucking cape bro. Come on.

01:21:59.805 --> 01:22:09.725
Well We're all better than that. Yes. Every single one of you listening, we're all better than that. You just have to look at it the right way, man. And, like, what you're describing,

01:22:10.350 --> 01:22:16.750
this is why it resonates so well with, like, with relentless and winning and everything that you're about, Tim,

01:22:17.230 --> 01:22:19.070
is because ultimately,

01:22:19.390 --> 01:22:20.430
that's the message.

01:22:20.830 --> 01:22:24.590
You are losing to your fucking self. Yeah. You're not losing

01:22:25.095 --> 01:22:33.895
to other people. Are you in a competition with other people? Yeah. Probably. If you're a business Yeah. Absolutely. If you're an athlete, absolutely. You're lose to them too. Yes.

01:22:33.895 --> 01:22:40.860
But the reason that you are losing to them is because you're losing to yourself first. Yep. And that's the responsibility

01:22:40.860 --> 01:22:47.660
part. That's the accountability part. And you ask when I change? I change when I made my wife take a picture of me.

01:22:48.380 --> 01:22:48.940
And,

01:22:49.900 --> 01:22:51.980
actually, I can tell you exactly when I changed.

01:22:53.435 --> 01:22:56.955
I can tell you fucking exactly. I was on a fucking private jet,

01:22:58.635 --> 01:23:02.715
and the dude asked me if I need a seat belt extender. Oh, man. Yeah.

01:23:03.515 --> 01:23:06.715
It's fucking I got so fucking pissed off, dude.

01:23:07.380 --> 01:23:15.140
Like, wanted to fucking kill the Did you need one? No. I didn't. Alright. I was just checking. The fact that he thought I did Right. Though.

01:23:15.540 --> 01:23:18.180
Dude, it made me so angry.

01:23:19.060 --> 01:23:21.135
And for, like, ten minutes

01:23:21.535 --> 01:23:26.895
this was at the beginning of the flight. Right? Sure. Yeah. Yeah. Of course. So for, like, the first ten minutes of the fucking flight,

01:23:28.015 --> 01:23:36.660
I was like, I'm gonna fucking choke this motherfucker the next time he walks by. Yeah. And and I and then, you know, he went up in the cockpit, you know, and and work it was a private flight.

01:23:37.300 --> 01:23:43.940
And I'm looking at Emily, and I'm like, I can't fucking believe that motherfucker. And then I started to get embarrassed about what I was saying. I started to get like,

01:23:44.705 --> 01:23:49.584
dude, it's not I I just thought you're fucking fat. Because he knew you he knew I knew he was right. Right.

01:23:49.985 --> 01:23:54.624
I knew he was right. And and by the time I had landed on that flight,

01:23:55.745 --> 01:24:00.940
I had made up my mind. Yeah. And it was no fucking option. So we were I I don't know. We were doing

01:24:01.900 --> 01:24:09.660
we had to we had an engagement at some island. I can't remember where I can't remember where it was. It wasn't Epstein's. I was about to say No. No.

01:24:10.540 --> 01:24:11.980
As soon as you guys be careful with that, Tim.

01:24:13.135 --> 01:24:14.415
One island, Tim.

01:24:15.615 --> 01:24:25.374
No. It it was it was one of the it was it was one of the it was a prop it was a prop plane, and they were taking everybody's they asked everybody how much you weigh, and they had everybody step on a scale and so forth because

01:24:25.935 --> 01:24:49.655
there was a lot of big people. Yeah. And they had to distribute. Like, you can't sit like, if you were traveling with somebody, you can't sit here. You gotta Oh my god. Trying to even out the plane. Yeah. To even They're out they're trying out they're trying to even out the plane. Oh, man. And and they and they they looked at Cher and myself. They said, you know, you guys just come on. We don't we'll we'll fit we'll fit you guys in. We're we're I'm sure you were embarrassed as fuck for those other people that weren't you. I'm just like Yeah. And

01:24:50.855 --> 01:24:55.210
but I'm just the situation. It's just like, gotta look at it sometimes, man. I'm literally

01:24:55.930 --> 01:25:02.170
that's that's what that's what I'm losing to. There's so many people out listen. There's

01:25:02.170 --> 01:25:05.450
so many people that inspire me every single day

01:25:06.415 --> 01:25:08.895
not to be like them. No, man. Everyone

01:25:09.535 --> 01:25:23.430
is you know, there's a few people you wanna be like, but if you really look at it, he said, there's so many there's more people that will inspire you just look at. I I don't want that. It's not the life I want. I don't wanna look like that. I don't wanna feel like that. I don't wanna do it.

01:25:23.910 --> 01:25:32.390
That should be if that ain't enough, I don't know what the what the hell is. And exactly what you said. You're losing to you're losing to, you know,

01:25:33.495 --> 01:25:51.240
glass of beer. You're losing to a pizza. You're losing to a you're losing to a hot dog. And there are gonna be times that you lose. I talk about this all the time. Fuck it. Every time I go to Costco and I'm checking out, that fucking menu is calling me. Come on over here. Dollar 50 hot dog. No, bro. That's the Pizza. It's good pricing.

01:25:51.480 --> 01:25:52.200
Good. Great.

01:25:52.760 --> 01:25:53.480
And

01:25:54.520 --> 01:25:56.040
sometimes it wins.

01:25:56.760 --> 01:25:58.600
I'm not gonna lie to you. Sometimes it wins.

01:25:59.895 --> 01:26:01.575
I and then and

01:26:02.615 --> 01:26:05.415
then I just look at myself. I was like, what the fuck did I just do?

01:26:05.975 --> 01:26:09.015
Sometimes when you get really good, what'll happen is

01:26:09.495 --> 01:26:19.440
you'll take a bite of that first bite of that pizza and you'll go, no. Fuck it. No more. What Yeah. Yeah. That happened to me with that with a beer. Yeah. I I was about to have a beer. It was probably four or five months ago.

01:26:20.000 --> 01:26:22.080
I was up at Billy G's. I ordered a beer.

01:26:23.120 --> 01:26:26.960
I took one drink of it, and I went, no. Fuck that. I don't want that.

01:26:27.440 --> 01:26:28.480
So it's,

01:26:28.955 --> 01:26:30.155
listen, we're

01:26:30.955 --> 01:26:36.874
we're no different than anybody else who's listening to this show. We go through the same trials and tribulations. We probably have gone through more.

01:26:37.835 --> 01:26:44.300
Well, that's what makes you more powerful. Yeah. Alright. You should lean into those stories. All the time. Yeah. All

01:26:44.620 --> 01:26:48.780
the time. Alright? Dude, I think the thing that is most powerful, though,

01:26:49.100 --> 01:26:49.980
when you say,

01:26:50.860 --> 01:26:53.260
I don't wanna be anything like that motherfucker,

01:26:53.660 --> 01:26:55.740
is when it's a past version of you. Yeah.

01:26:57.135 --> 01:27:01.055
Like, when I look at pictures of myself when I was big and fat,

01:27:03.455 --> 01:27:06.975
like, bro, I know it sounds harsh. I fucking

01:27:06.975 --> 01:27:07.775
hate

01:27:07.855 --> 01:27:11.900
that motherfucker. Mhmm. Like, if that were a physical being,

01:27:12.540 --> 01:27:17.980
I would literally physically fucking murder them. Why? You know what I'm saying? But the problem is

01:27:18.220 --> 01:27:27.985
that person always lives inside of you, and you can't you can't completely kill it. You can't completely kill it. Yeah. It's always there. It's always there. And I think one of the biggest mistakes that people make is they do think

01:27:28.305 --> 01:27:36.225
that they've conquered that. They think it's they think it's already been beat. I'm not that person no, motherfucker. You are that person still.

01:27:37.140 --> 01:27:40.580
That this is why people who drink alcohol and they get addicted to alcohol,

01:27:40.740 --> 01:27:44.420
they have to fucking never drink it again. Because the minute they feed

01:27:44.580 --> 01:27:56.075
that version of themselves, that version gets, like, a lot of its power back. And the minute they do it two or three days in a row Oh, it's it's person is back to full strength. Yeah. Yeah. And and, dude Yeah.

01:27:56.475 --> 01:27:58.395
That's real that's real shit, man. You

01:27:58.715 --> 01:28:01.755
don't have to give that weak version of yourself a whole lot. For some reason,

01:28:02.410 --> 01:28:13.210
that version gets a lot stronger off a little bit than than the unbreakable version. Yeah. The trail, man. Yeah, bro. Well, guys, Andy Tim, my man. That's a hell of a way to,

01:28:13.690 --> 01:28:21.385
I guess, keep people moving throughout the game. You know? This is little mid midweek special here, man. Yep. Yep. No. This was amazing, though, man. Guys really appreciate it. We

01:28:21.785 --> 01:28:30.585
got anything else? No. That was it. I got a question for you guys. Yeah. Alright. This is and I have been waiting to say to ask about this. You know, people put out and this has got nothing to do with the questions.

01:28:31.210 --> 01:28:35.850
So people have bucket lists. You know, they always do bucket lists. Mhmm. Alright?

01:28:38.010 --> 01:28:42.010
Andy, I think you had a bucket list that you might be the only person

01:28:43.290 --> 01:28:45.930
that ever had this on the list in the world.

01:28:47.445 --> 01:28:50.485
And, I wanna make sure I got this right. Did you two drive

01:28:50.565 --> 01:28:52.565
a fucking tank to a gas station?

01:28:55.205 --> 01:28:56.645
Yep. We did. Yeah.

01:28:56.965 --> 01:28:57.925
Yeah. We did. Yeah.

01:28:58.580 --> 01:28:59.459
Yeah.

01:28:59.460 --> 01:29:06.580
We did. Who has a kid who makes a bucket list and say, I'm gonna own a tank, and I'm gonna drive it to the local gas station

01:29:07.380 --> 01:29:21.625
and fill it up and drive out? I might I might be I mean, we might be the the only people that ever did that. Yeah. I mean, that's like in history. Yeah. Yeah. I'm like Like, there's certain there's certain, like like, I always think about this. This is like the weirdest thing ever. But, like, I think of, like, sentences

01:29:22.265 --> 01:29:25.545
that have never been said. Like, you know? Like,

01:29:26.180 --> 01:29:27.940
no one ever said ever,

01:29:28.100 --> 01:29:28.580
like,

01:29:29.460 --> 01:29:33.459
well, fuck. Maybe I'm wrong about this now. But, like, no one ever said,

01:29:33.860 --> 01:29:35.540
I'm gonna take this hatchet,

01:29:35.540 --> 01:29:38.260
and I'm going to cut off my own dick. Like yeah.

01:29:39.540 --> 01:29:39.940
But,

01:29:40.725 --> 01:29:50.245
apparently, someone caught on. Right? So that that has definitely been said before. But I always think about, like, I always think about weird shit like that. Like, I'm like, okay. Has

01:29:50.485 --> 01:29:58.150
and I know for, like, adventure people, like, they're like, has a human being ever stepped on this piece of soil? Right. Right? Um,

01:29:58.870 --> 01:30:11.255
and I think about that in terms of, like, things that have been said, which, like, creates, like, all these wild ass things. Mhmm. Like like, what are sentences that have never been said? Like, this combination of words has never come out of somebody's mouth ever.

01:30:11.655 --> 01:30:13.095
And it's

01:30:13.095 --> 01:30:35.840
funny because, like, I I never thought about that tank thing, but, you know, that's gotta be I mean, if somebody has done that, it's I I I mean I'm sure they did it in, like, wars. Right? Like Yeah. They go in the gas station and they fill up their tank, but I don't think anybody just, like, did it casually. Yeah. No. So the next thing is next time you and your wife go out to eat, valet it. Yeah. Driving over there, pull it up and see. That's something that's done. Put it up.

01:30:36.160 --> 01:30:39.840
They'll be sick. Up at the valet. Well, listen. They can hit the road. Yeah. Yeah. Like

01:30:40.480 --> 01:30:43.515
I'm like, these two motherfuckers and

01:30:44.315 --> 01:30:47.995
filled up. I had to watch it again. I'm like For our next trick. Yeah.

01:30:49.515 --> 01:30:59.630
It's gonna be a a That's right. Helicopter. That's right. Landing right on the roof. Yeah, man. I I think about weird stuff like that all the time. Like, I I just think like where like,

01:31:00.510 --> 01:31:01.710
I don't know. You know,

01:31:02.110 --> 01:31:05.870
I mean, athletes do this. Right? All the time. Like, like,

01:31:06.350 --> 01:31:11.735
look at the four minute mile. No one ever ran a four minute mile. Now, it's like, if you're a

01:31:12.615 --> 01:31:19.015
If you wanna compete, you have to. Yeah. You're not even in the class You know, like yeah. It's just but but that's

01:31:19.255 --> 01:31:20.295
that's what,

01:31:20.615 --> 01:31:22.935
you know, people say, think outside the box.

01:31:23.790 --> 01:31:26.030
There is no box. Yeah. Just

01:31:26.270 --> 01:31:29.870
you just figure, I'm gonna you know what? Let's go do this. Yeah.

01:31:30.270 --> 01:31:34.270
Yeah. Let let let's go And that's why those things are so admirable. Right? Like,

01:31:34.670 --> 01:31:41.585
you know, you like, you look at, like, guys who have, uh, you know, ridden their bicycle around the world or done like,

01:31:42.945 --> 01:31:47.665
Greg Anderson right now is doing that row from Mhmm. From Washington to Hawaii.

01:31:47.825 --> 01:31:57.890
And while that, you know, other people have done that, I mean, very, very few people have done that. I list. Yeah, man. Like It's like something you see in a movie. Like, people will be stopping. I could just be like

01:31:58.130 --> 01:32:06.610
Oh, we got we people stop. Yeah. People stop. You know, that's some kind where where you're drinking something, see the little guy, you gotta look at it and, do I fucking see what I just saw what I just saw?

01:32:07.605 --> 01:32:09.685
Dude, you know what's funny is, like, normally,

01:32:10.485 --> 01:32:12.325
when I go up there

01:32:12.965 --> 01:32:22.645
and I'm driving one of the cars, like, people will come over and they'll look at the car and shit. That day we took the tank up there, nobody came around us. Yeah. No. No. Everybody was like they're like, I think they were totally like,

01:32:24.290 --> 01:32:35.250
what the fuck? Mhmm. Mhmm. You know? That was like one of my most viewed Instagram stories ever. That was a good one. Yeah. The m rap gets it too. Yeah. The m rap's cool. Yeah. But Hell yeah, man. But, yeah, man. You know,

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it's, uh,

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there is no box. You can do whatever you want. You can become whatever you want. You can create whatever you want. But I can tell you this.

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It isn't gonna happen if you keep talking and listening to that bitch voice.

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Nothing great comes with that. Nothing great. And your only hope

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you have you have two hopes. Okay? One

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Actually, something does come with that. A you become a great bitch. Yeah. That's true. Yeah. Yeah. And there's a lot of those. But, you know,

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if you're listening to this show,

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you're already kinda fucked.

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Okay? Because

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you already have the awareness that you wanna be better. You already have the awareness that you wanna become more. You already have the awareness that you want to create

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something,

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and you can't go back.

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Okay? So there's ignorance, and then there's awareness.

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And once you're aware,

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unless you pursue it,

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you're fucked,

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and that's it.