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What a lot of people are hoping

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is how to be free of the fear of being seen. What they're hoping is, can can I please pay somebody, anybody to tell me how to do this so that it feels like cotton candy

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and unicorns and rainbow and glitter

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when I'm doing something that is going to stretch the bounds of what I know to be possible in this life? Good news, bad news is no.

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The ego says, but it's really intense.

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And I'm like, yep.

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That's right.

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I feel a lot of fear and discomfort. Exactly.

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Do it anyway.

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Hey, everybody. Welcome to today's episode of the deep riches podcast. Today I'm gonna help you to break free from the fear of being seen and to dissolve it instantly

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I realize that sounds like a lofty promise but it is my absolute guarantee that by the end of this episode

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this will be the absolute last time you'll ever experience

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the fear of being seen you'll be free of it and how is that possible?

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Well the premise of this entire

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training that I'm offering you today is that the fear of being seen does not exist.

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And I'm not trying to gaslight you. This is not a little hook.

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This isn't some clever little mind trick I'm playing on you. This is my take on it. After

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being an online business for sixteen years, after doing

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YouTube videos for sixteen years

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and

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after facing and confronting the uncomfortable feelings that come with doing one's life's work, I'm here to help you to finally once and for all let go of the label of the fear of being seen

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because it does not exist. There's been a virus

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over the last couple

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years,

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especially,

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where we are

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believing things

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that are not true about ourselves.

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And one of them being that we need to pathologize

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every little thing that is, um, intermingled with doing our life's work,

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every little sensation that comes up when you're doing something challenging,

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every little sensation that might arise when you're doing something that's out of your comfort zone.

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And then we're trying to pathologize these things and label them and then navel gaze about them. I'm not saying that you're doing that. I'm saying there's lots of coaches, for instance. Nothing wrong with it. You know? Not to degrade anyone's work.

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But there are a lot of so so called coaches out there that I've seen countless videos of people talking about the fear of being seen and trying to coach people out of the fear of being seen and all that stuff. What's actually happening here, if I could speak so bluntly,

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is that a lot of people, billions of people who are trying to do their life's work, they get uncomfortable feelings. They do this work, then an uncomfortable feeling or sensation arises.

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And they say, oh, wow. What is this sensation? Oh, this feels very

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unusual. This feels intense. This feels a lot.

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Wow. Oh, my goodness. I don't like this feeling. It's not comfortable.

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And then we've got coaches out here saying, don't worry. It's called a fear of being seen. Pay me $5,000

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so we can talk about this sensation that you're having in your body, and I'll help you to get rid of this sensation.

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And what I'm offering here is that we are pathologizing and trying trying to fix a sensation that is part and partial with the creative process. Part of you doing your life's work is you're gonna get in front of a camera,

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and you're gonna be seen by other people. A part of that process is you're going to experience fear.

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But when I ask clients who tell me they have a fear of being seen that they've been working on for years, and I say, please explain what that means to you. What exactly how does that manifest?

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Do you know?

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And they give me a long list of,

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I don't post videos very often. I hold myself back and all this stuff. They give me a a little list, and then I say, no. No. Let's go deeper.

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What exactly are you feeling? What do you mean by that you have a fear of being seen? What does that really mean exactly? Because here's the thing. A lot of people just slap this this label on this discomfort,

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and they say, I have a fear of being seen. And then they put it in a box, they use that as an excuse to not do their life's work. But when I say, okay, well, let's go a little deeper. What exactly do you mean when you say you have a fear of being seen? And they give me a list of sensations that they're experiencing. They say, get a tight chest.

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I have a sensation of my diaphragm.

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I have my body get sweaty. I get really hot. I get uncomfortable. I get this tightness in my throat. It feels so uncomfortable in the midline of the body.

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And I get to say,

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cool. Me too.

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Me too. Me and every other person. And I'm not trying to invalidate your feelings. And I'm not sitting here telling you that you're not feeling fear.

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You are in fact feeling fear when you are going to do something that involves you putting yourself out there to the world. When it involves you creating something,

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synthesizing an idea that you had in your mind, something of your life's work, and then getting it out into the world for for strangers to see, that's inherently a scary process.

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And

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what the

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pathologization

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industrial

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complex has done is said, you know that sensation you're feeling when you're doing your life's work and it feels awfully tight in here and it feels like a hurricane might be happening in your midline?

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Yeah. Don't worry. That's called fear of being seen. Let me heal you of it. Pay me $5,000 so we can get to the root of your fear of being seen. And I'm saying,

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here I am not trying to be a contrarian. I'm just giving it to you straight. I'm saying,

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when you do pull ups, you're gonna feel sensations.

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When you're losing body fat, you're gonna feel sensations.

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When you're doing your life's work, you're gonna feel sensations. So the human condition, part of the human condition that is very natural,

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is we tend towards comfort. What the human ego really craves

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is comfort.

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It wants comfort.

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It wants the day to day. It wants normalcy.

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It wants no sensations.

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It wants the feeling of numbness,

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really. That's ultimately the ego's best feeling. It's like, give me numbness, baby. Don't give me any of these sensations here that happen in the chest. But what I'm offering here in the Deep Riches podcast, by the way, for those of you who don't know, I'm here to help you to do your life's work and get rich inside and out as somebody who's been teaching about

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business for the past couple years, but as somebody who's been doing my life's work for the past sixteen years in ways that are very off the beaten path,

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I'm telling you that with those unusual

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off the beaten path choices like starting your own business, creating a YouTube channel, creating anything of any value to the collective,

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you get to either choose one or the other. You get to either do exceptional work in the world that gives you lots of freedom and feel sensations while you do it

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and accept that fact,

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and that includes what we might call fear. I'll give it to you. Feeling fear, which I feel the fear every single time I create something.

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We can choose that path or you can be comfortable, but you can't have it both ways.

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We don't get to have it both ways. So a lot of people are kind of mistaken because they're being told by coaches and quote unquote experts that it you don't have a money problem you have if you're being seen. You don't have a content problem you have if you're being seen. You don't have a this problem you have if you're being seen, and they're just giving you this this free pass. And they're saying, let's not get to work. Don't do your work. Don't

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don't actually do the work. Let's navel gaze.

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Let's get to the root of it. Let's talk about your childhood stuff. Let's overanalyze

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and pathologize something that isn't a problem.

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It's actually a really good sign when you're feeling discomfort

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and sensations in your body while you're doing the things that challenge you and that are

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of the capital t truth in your work that you're going to feel sensations.

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This goes for impostor syndrome as well. There is no such thing as impostor syndrome. It does not exist. So we as a collective, and I'm not giving you this tone. I'm not this is this tone is not directed at the viewer. This tone is directed at the, um, the idea

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that has been sold

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to millions of impressionable business owners who are kind of in uncharted territory in their lives. So you've gotten on the ship, and you've set sail into this beautiful, magnificent journey called your life's work. And I know that nobody's given a map, but I'm here to tell you that it is absolutely 1000%

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normal for us to feel sensations of fear when you're doing your work.

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And that is not a fear of being seen. That's called sensations arising.

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One last time. I'm just gonna say it one last time.

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The fear of being seen as a label,

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as a pathology

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that we need to cure,

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that's a problem, it does not exist. It does it does not exist. It does not exist.

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You don't have a fear of being seen any more than I don't have

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sensations happening in my bicep when I'm doing pull ups.

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So when I first started doing pull ups,

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when I was 16 years old, and I really wanted to know how to do a pull up, and I really wanted pull ups to be a part of my life, and I really wanted to be able to do the impossible.

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When I pull myself up on that pull up bar, and I was feeling my biceps burning, and I was feeling very uncomfortable in that movement, and I felt frustration, and I felt self doubt, and I felt this inferiority,

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and I felt like, well I can't do it and my abs were burning and nothing was budging and I couldn't quite get myself above the bar.

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I didn't sit there and say I have a fear of push ups and or pull up syndrome. I have a I have a difficulty of pull up syndrome

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And when my biceps would burn afterwards, I wouldn't I wouldn't go to a, you know,

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a a bunch of Google articles talking about the fear of pull up syndrome.

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Do you know what I mean?

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What I did was I got comfortable with the fact that there's sensations that are gonna arise when I'm doing my pull ups.

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There's gonna be sensations that happen in my abdominals when I'm pulling my entire body above a bar.

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And and there's gonna be a period where I'm feeling a lot of emotions and sensations

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inside my entire body, mind, and spirit when I'm doing something that seems impossible at first.

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And by the by, I can now do 12 pull ups at of at 40 years old when I couldn't do a single one in my early twenties.

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So the way that I got there is by accepting

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and surrendering

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to the uncomfortable sensations that are arising and not pathologizing them. And so when a lot of people first start doing this work in the first year or two, they're experiencing for the first time many times in their entire life what it feels like to to have this energy rushing out and through you out into the world. And so the more that you give, the more you're given. The more you give, the more you're given. The more you give the world in your business, in your offerings, in your promotions,

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in your content, in your YouTube videos, in your articles, in your podcast, the more you give, the more you are given energetically

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because now you're seen as a light in the universe.

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So the more you give, the more you're given energetically.

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The more you give, the more you're given. And a lot of people when they first start doing this work,

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they're they put a couple things out there. They

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feel the sensations arising.

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Oh my goodness.

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And then they say, what's happening to me? I really don't like this. And then they shut the whole thing down.

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And then they overanalyze

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it, overthink it, try to get the try to get out of feeling the feeling,

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try to escape feeling the feeling.

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And I'm sitting here telling you, you don't get an a get out of jail free card.

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Nobody gets a get out of jail free card. When you're doing your life's work, you're gonna feel sensations.

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What a lot of people are hoping

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is how to be free of the fear of being seen. What they're hoping is, can can I please pay somebody, anybody to tell me how to do this so that it feels like cotton candy and unicorns and rainbow and glitter

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when I'm doing something that is going to stretch the bounds of what I know to be possible in this life?

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And

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good news, bad news,

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good news, bad news is no.

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You get to feel the full force of those feelings, and we don't get to it doesn't matter what you wanna call it. Call it fear of being seen. Call it being exhilarated. Call it joy. Call it life pouring through you. Whatever you wanna call it,

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Doesn't matter what you want to call it, but you don't get to get rid of it. You get to dance with it. You get to show up and move with it.

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You get to let it electrify your work if you want to. So the final thing that I'm gonna leave you with, final thing I'm gonna leave you with is, when you're feeling sensations arising

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with your life's work, I suggest you take an experiment, just an experiment, invitation

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to let it move through you.

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What I mean by that is go ahead and do do the thing anyway.

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Do the thing anyway over and over and over and over and over and over over again, and watch as the mosaic of your work becomes

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apparent.

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Watch as the mosaic of your work, that stuff that's trying to pour out in through you, instead of sitting there hoping to try to get rid of these sensations that are part and parcel with the work that we can label and pathologize till the cows come home, it won't do anything to get rid of the fact those sensations are gonna be there. Instead, you could take those sensations

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and use them

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in the mosaic that's trying to pour out and through you anyway.

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So one way or another, you're gonna feel some sensations in this life.

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And

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if you want to take the easy path, the easy path being there is no easy path,

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the easy path according to the ego, you can certainly try to stay comfortable and not feel the fear of being seen.

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Or you can know that everybody has this fear of being seen, but some people are,

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you know, there are some predators

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out there, and it's not like I don't believe that any of it's malicious. I don't believe that there are people who are out there maliciously saying, let me let me go ahead and harvest, um, the energy and the money of these vulnerable people who have a fear of being seen?

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Um, I believe that there are some misguided people who overpathologize

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things and say, I have the answer to the fear of being seen. Come and pay me a a bunch of money, and we'll talk about your fear of being seen for hours and hours and hours instead of you just getting to work. So I'm saying, screw all that other nonsense.

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Every single minute that you spend trying to figure out and get out of the fear of being seen and the fear of

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impostor syndrome and trying to figure out impostor syndrome and all these other nonsense labels that are basically just a distraction and procrastination mechanism to keep you from doing your life's work. This is what the ego does. It says, come here, and it gives you a siren song. Let's think about this. Let's overanalyze it. Let's do literally anything else besides just sit your ass in the chair and get to work.

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And this is this is something that I'm delivering to, you know, my younger self who was like, oh, no.

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There are sensations here. And and I'm telling my younger self, yep.

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You're doing it right.

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And the younger self or the person who's not, you know, initiated in this kind of process,

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the ego says, but it's really intense.

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And I'm like, yep,

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that's right.

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I feel a lot of fear and discomfort. Exactly.

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Do it anyway.

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But isn't there a way for me to do this and enjoy it? Yes. The only way that we're gonna get to do this and enjoy it is if you simply get used to doing it and enjoying it as you do it.

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So by the by, you learn to dance with that energy. Does the energy go away? No. But it does transmute and it does transform and you learn this energy is actually a magnificent dance partner.

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Here to do a disco dance with you.

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So you could have fun with it.

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Or you could just not not feel the feelings at all and

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continue to go round and round on that merry-go-round of wanting to do something with your beautiful gifts and talents and not quite scratch scratching those itches.

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And I find that to be the most

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annoying,

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unpleasant

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experience

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in my own life. Whenever I'm not scratching those itches and doing the work, there's no there's no feeling that's more dreadful to me than having something in here, an idea that I really like to get on to the world and not really doing it. You know? So if you're going through that, just know you're right on track. If you feel a lot of fear, anxiety, discomfort,

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post it anyway,

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and watch as magic unfolds.

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If you'd like to manifest

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a fortune, you might want to check out my take on, if you're not manifesting money with the manifestation technique, you might want to click this video where I break down exactly how

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to start making a fortune

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with ways that are much more powerful than, quote, unquote, manifesting.

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I'll see you in the next ep