WEBVTT 00:00:00.000 --> 00:00:06.960 In this video, I'm going to show you one of the most powerful effects I have ever seen in my life. 00:00:07.200 --> 00:00:10.160 I'm going to show you how the backwards law, 00:00:10.160 --> 00:00:12.815 or what is called the law of reversed effort 00:00:12.815 --> 00:00:16.015 is the key to finally becoming free. 00:00:16.255 --> 00:00:19.935 It's the key to letting go of the resistance 00:00:19.935 --> 00:00:21.935 that is literally blocking 00:00:22.015 --> 00:00:23.375 that which you want. 00:00:23.855 --> 00:00:27.570 When you apply this in your life, you'll notice that you feel more calm. 00:00:27.970 --> 00:00:31.250 You'll notice that you don't put people or things on a pedestal. 00:00:31.730 --> 00:00:35.330 You don't create an energetic block between you and others, 00:00:35.570 --> 00:00:39.890 and you're finally able to feel safe inside of your body. 00:00:40.210 --> 00:00:48.915 You're able to be present and okay with how things happen knowing it is not your job to control it, to manage it. 00:00:49.875 --> 00:00:55.475 Now, let's look first off at one of the most important ideas that I think can shift more than anything else. 00:00:55.955 --> 00:00:57.235 It's understanding 00:00:57.270 --> 00:00:58.950 that the inside 00:00:59.270 --> 00:01:01.110 mirrors the outside. 00:01:01.910 --> 00:01:05.110 So how you feel on the inside, 00:01:05.510 --> 00:01:08.630 no matter the action you take to control things, 00:01:09.670 --> 00:01:12.070 infuses energy into the process. 00:01:13.515 --> 00:01:14.155 Now, 00:01:14.475 --> 00:01:20.395 this means that you can try to change the outside but just like you know, if you stare at a mirror, 00:01:20.715 --> 00:01:25.115 if I were to look into this mirror and I were to wait for the mirror reflection to change, 00:01:25.595 --> 00:01:27.515 and I were to try to make it change 00:01:27.840 --> 00:01:29.600 by changing the mirror, 00:01:30.080 --> 00:01:32.080 of course that would create lots of resistance. 00:01:32.880 --> 00:01:38.160 Now you know, you're like okay, the way that it works is you must change your expression 00:01:38.240 --> 00:01:39.440 then the mirror changes. 00:01:40.865 --> 00:01:43.105 But you see with the backwards law, 00:01:43.505 --> 00:01:45.265 or the law of reversed effort, 00:01:45.745 --> 00:01:47.505 it's like subconsciously 00:01:47.505 --> 00:01:48.545 the belief 00:01:49.025 --> 00:01:51.265 is that I must change this 00:01:52.145 --> 00:01:53.745 in order to feel safe. 00:01:54.065 --> 00:01:55.265 In order to feel okay. 00:01:56.560 --> 00:02:00.080 Now let me first off give credit where credit is due. The backwards law 00:02:00.240 --> 00:02:06.080 is an ancient technique that has been known for thousands of years, but been popularized 00:02:06.080 --> 00:02:07.760 by Alan Watts. 00:02:08.605 --> 00:02:11.085 It's like the more you try to control, 00:02:11.645 --> 00:02:13.565 the more out of control you feel. 00:02:13.805 --> 00:02:16.045 The more you want people to like you, 00:02:16.445 --> 00:02:19.885 the more your energy's all messed up. The more you're performing, 00:02:19.965 --> 00:02:21.645 and the less people can actually like you. 00:02:22.770 --> 00:02:25.250 But why is it when you let go? 00:02:25.970 --> 00:02:29.730 Why is it when you're good either way whether people like you or not? 00:02:30.290 --> 00:02:34.850 Why is it when you're good either way with how things happen? Because there's self acceptance, 00:02:35.805 --> 00:02:39.805 then there's less resistance and it's like things happen better for you anyways. 00:02:41.085 --> 00:02:44.605 Have you ever had it where you want someone to get back to you? 00:02:45.165 --> 00:02:51.245 Like you're texting someone, you want their response, and you think about it, you think about it, you think about it, and you're trying It's like you're trying to 00:02:52.080 --> 00:02:53.840 project energy or 00:02:54.240 --> 00:02:58.240 you want them to respond, and the more you want it the more, like the longer it takes. 00:02:58.880 --> 00:03:01.040 But the moment you're like good either way, 00:03:01.680 --> 00:03:06.080 the moment you let go and forget about it, many times is the time that it actually comes in your life. 00:03:07.125 --> 00:03:08.325 Ain't that interesting? 00:03:08.965 --> 00:03:10.245 Now for myself, 00:03:10.405 --> 00:03:14.965 something I'll share that actually happened very recently for me is this 00:03:15.925 --> 00:03:19.445 thing where I've been in this process of actually closes. 00:03:19.525 --> 00:03:24.320 By the time this video go out, the house will have already closed and it already been a done deal. 00:03:24.960 --> 00:03:26.080 Which is very nice. 00:03:26.880 --> 00:03:28.720 But what happens is, 00:03:28.880 --> 00:03:38.775 there was this desire at many points along the process. There was this like bumps along the road where what I actually found shifted the energy 00:03:39.015 --> 00:03:40.375 was accepting 00:03:40.535 --> 00:03:42.775 if the deal didn't go through. 00:03:44.055 --> 00:03:45.975 Because I wanted to sell a house. 00:03:46.455 --> 00:03:49.415 Part of it by the way too, I was aware that 00:03:49.860 --> 00:03:51.220 part of the dynamic 00:03:52.100 --> 00:03:53.780 This is interesting to think about. 00:03:54.900 --> 00:04:01.300 You know, I've heard this said recently that like, it's not always about money when you're trying to attract something. 00:04:01.860 --> 00:04:03.700 It's about your relationship to the thing. 00:04:04.545 --> 00:04:06.465 Money is just like a variable. 00:04:07.585 --> 00:04:13.985 And when I would think about, the big shift for me selling this house by the way, is I realized 00:04:13.985 --> 00:04:19.185 that my life over the years have gotten kind of complex with like 00:04:18.210 --> 00:04:23.090 you know investing in houses situation which has kind of become a headache to manage. 00:04:23.570 --> 00:04:26.130 And it was this house in Austin that I wanted to sell. 00:04:26.930 --> 00:04:31.570 And I realized that the emotion that I felt around it was burdened. 00:04:32.290 --> 00:04:33.410 It was feeling trapped. 00:04:34.465 --> 00:04:40.465 There's every year there's these property taxes here in Texas which you pay every single year which is very high. 00:04:41.425 --> 00:04:50.410 And it was just like this this thing that the market's not as good so it was like the rental on it wasn't making as much as the bills were. And I was like why does this this is leaky energy? 00:04:50.730 --> 00:04:51.930 And I felt trapped. 00:04:52.170 --> 00:04:54.330 And I felt like I want to let it go. 00:04:54.890 --> 00:04:59.370 And what I also became aware of is part of my childhood pattern and energy 00:05:00.090 --> 00:05:05.385 around childhood was like I feel trapped. I feel burdened by it. I want to let it go. 00:05:05.785 --> 00:05:10.745 So what I realized was that, oh, there's a connection here. This is familiar to me in some way. 00:05:11.545 --> 00:05:21.800 And what I also realized is throughout the journey, there was an energy of trying to control the outcome. Why isn't it happening yet? There was also like a payoff for being a victim in a way. 00:05:22.600 --> 00:05:24.680 I think I talked about this in the last video. 00:05:25.560 --> 00:05:29.720 So it's like almost like this is happening to me. I wanted to change. I was subconsciously 00:05:29.655 --> 00:05:34.615 not running around like, I'm such a victim, such a victim. But just like annoyed by it, frustrated by it. 00:05:36.055 --> 00:05:37.095 And eventually, 00:05:37.255 --> 00:05:39.975 what I realized is the moment things really shifted, 00:05:40.695 --> 00:05:43.415 was the moment I chose not to be a victim. 00:05:44.280 --> 00:05:49.160 Not to see myself as like this is happening to me, and realizing I can handle it. 00:05:49.480 --> 00:05:54.920 Not only can I handle it, but I'm going to do what I can to shift it, and I'm not going to like let my outer 00:05:54.920 --> 00:05:55.880 reality 00:05:56.680 --> 00:05:57.640 affect 00:05:57.640 --> 00:05:58.920 the inner reality 00:05:59.945 --> 00:06:02.905 as needing to happen so I could feel okay? 00:06:03.305 --> 00:06:05.225 What if I could feel okay now? 00:06:06.025 --> 00:06:07.945 What if I could feel free now? 00:06:08.585 --> 00:06:13.785 You see that was like a shift for me, and literally within one day of choosing not to be a victim, 00:06:14.600 --> 00:06:16.120 there was an offer on the house. 00:06:18.200 --> 00:06:19.320 And what was great 00:06:19.560 --> 00:06:20.200 is, 00:06:20.440 --> 00:06:23.720 it was a low offer that we eventually negotiated. We got it to work. 00:06:24.200 --> 00:06:29.720 And then along the journey there was little bumps that came up. You know paperwork and all this stuff. It's like, oh maybe the deal falls through. 00:06:30.695 --> 00:06:42.135 And I would recognize that I had this desire almost like, I could tell I would almost like at times want reassurance from the real estate agent. Like is every I because you know, he's the middle man and I'm like, is everything okay with it? 00:06:42.535 --> 00:06:44.615 Wanting a wanting that 00:06:45.380 --> 00:06:47.300 confirmation everything was okay. 00:06:47.540 --> 00:06:52.180 Wanting to know I'll be free soon. Right? I'll change the outside soon. Right? 00:06:52.500 --> 00:06:58.980 And I could tell that the more resistance I infused into it, the more bumps would come up and the more I would just not also enjoy the process. 00:07:00.595 --> 00:07:06.115 However, I took every sign, every time something a bump would happen, what I would recognize 00:07:06.835 --> 00:07:08.915 is that believing my freedom, 00:07:08.995 --> 00:07:13.235 the abundance, the love, the freedom is on a pedestal. I started to realize 00:07:13.555 --> 00:07:15.555 maybe the opposite 00:07:16.100 --> 00:07:18.580 is actually something I can accept. 00:07:20.020 --> 00:07:23.460 So like imagining that the deal doesn't go through. 00:07:24.100 --> 00:07:28.180 Are there ways in which the deal doesn't go through that that's actually beneficial? 00:07:29.365 --> 00:07:30.885 And here's what I realized. 00:07:31.285 --> 00:07:42.165 We're at the bottom of the market right now. I really believe that. I just don't want to continue dealing with it. I believe that in two or three years it'll be worth way more and I'll make actual money, like good money on it. 00:07:43.870 --> 00:07:51.310 And what I don't know is I don't know that if this didn't go through, that then I would find like the perfect tenant to be in the house for a year or two. 00:07:52.510 --> 00:07:56.510 We don't know if that deal didn't go through that another deal would come through that's even better. 00:07:57.275 --> 00:08:12.395 Which the real estate agent actually says, what if this doesn't go through? He's like, I have an offer right now that's that's that just closed and the initial offer didn't go through, and then the second offer that from somebody else that came through is even more. It's $50,000 more 00:08:13.080 --> 00:08:14.280 than the original. 00:08:15.240 --> 00:08:18.280 And now that went through. Was like, okay, well that's a good situation. Right? 00:08:19.000 --> 00:08:20.840 But I realized I was so 00:08:21.080 --> 00:08:23.000 not wanting the opposite 00:08:23.560 --> 00:08:27.400 that I was creating resistance and actually just blocking things from flowing. 00:08:28.985 --> 00:08:33.465 But what I found is that the more I could use this backwards law in a way 00:08:33.945 --> 00:08:37.305 to realize that my ego doesn't understand 00:08:39.145 --> 00:08:40.905 the whole larger vision. 00:08:42.160 --> 00:08:44.480 And what I could also do is become aware 00:08:44.720 --> 00:08:49.520 that what my control pattern was, what is what I call a protest behavior. 00:08:50.720 --> 00:08:56.160 And when you learn this, and how in your life you might be using these protest behaviors 00:08:56.345 --> 00:09:00.905 to get different outcomes. You then see it's like, what emotion am I avoiding? 00:09:02.105 --> 00:09:06.905 The analogy by the way of a protest behavior reminds me of the still face experiment. 00:09:06.985 --> 00:09:15.330 You've probably heard me talk about many times where a mom and her baby are interacting and it's like the mom then comes back with a still face and the baby starts freaking out. 00:09:15.890 --> 00:09:19.010 Before the baby's freaking out because mom's not emotionally present. 00:09:19.330 --> 00:09:22.930 Even though mom is present, she's just not emotionally present. She's physically there though. 00:09:23.495 --> 00:09:25.495 The baby starts pointing, ah. 00:09:26.055 --> 00:09:28.295 Mom, come back. Control. 00:09:29.415 --> 00:09:31.655 And that's a way of getting the needs met. 00:09:32.295 --> 00:09:36.055 Now in protest behavior it's like, I want people to like me. 00:09:37.120 --> 00:09:38.240 That creates, 00:09:38.240 --> 00:09:39.680 what are we avoiding 00:09:39.840 --> 00:09:44.320 by people wanting us to like us? We're avoiding disapproval or rejection. 00:09:45.200 --> 00:09:47.520 But a lot of times we have to abandon ourselves 00:09:48.240 --> 00:09:53.785 in order to get that. We have to abandon ourselves in order to get that approval or validation. And what I'm saying, 00:09:54.105 --> 00:09:58.985 and one of the main parts of this video is that if you can actually accept the opposite, 00:09:59.705 --> 00:10:00.665 you will be more free. 00:10:02.240 --> 00:10:05.680 If you can accept the opposite, you will be more present. 00:10:06.880 --> 00:10:09.520 It's about more so having a neutral 00:10:09.680 --> 00:10:10.720 perspective, 00:10:10.720 --> 00:10:11.760 a neutral 00:10:12.080 --> 00:10:13.040 relationship 00:10:13.040 --> 00:10:15.760 to the thing knowing that the thing, 00:10:16.000 --> 00:10:16.960 the reflection 00:10:17.935 --> 00:10:20.575 does not need to dictate your inner state. 00:10:22.255 --> 00:10:23.775 Why is it so often 00:10:24.415 --> 00:10:26.495 people attract love into their life? 00:10:27.055 --> 00:10:29.375 When they let go of eating, needing love at all. 00:10:30.500 --> 00:10:32.340 When they let go of looking for it. 00:10:33.140 --> 00:10:35.380 When they're good either way with how things happen. 00:10:36.100 --> 00:10:40.180 The law of reversed effort is that effort equals resistance. 00:10:40.980 --> 00:10:42.660 And when you're efforting, 00:10:42.820 --> 00:10:44.740 when you're efforting and trying to control, 00:10:46.325 --> 00:10:47.125 you're 00:10:47.205 --> 00:10:52.565 infusing resistance onto what you want and that resistance actually blocks the attainment of it. 00:10:54.245 --> 00:10:59.685 Now realize that by the time you get what you want, it will feel natural to your nervous system. 00:11:01.540 --> 00:11:06.900 So the key is not needing the external thing so that your nervous system can feel a certain way, 00:11:07.300 --> 00:11:09.700 it's regulating your nervous system now. 00:11:10.980 --> 00:11:12.740 It's the self acceptance 00:11:12.980 --> 00:11:13.300 now. 00:11:15.105 --> 00:11:22.545 Now here's one of the things and one of the reasons people also subconsciously feel like they need to do these protest behaviors. You ready for this? 00:11:23.585 --> 00:11:24.545 You ready? 00:11:25.505 --> 00:11:27.265 They're afraid that if 00:11:27.665 --> 00:11:28.705 What does it mean 00:11:30.330 --> 00:11:31.050 about 00:11:31.930 --> 00:11:32.730 me 00:11:33.690 --> 00:11:35.370 if I don't get this thing? 00:11:36.650 --> 00:11:40.010 We're afraid that subconsciously it means that we're not good enough. 00:11:42.135 --> 00:11:46.775 You see deep down this is where you get down to the deeper level healing. 00:11:47.895 --> 00:11:50.935 Reminds me of the movie Goodwill Hunting. 00:11:51.495 --> 00:11:55.255 There's a powerful scene where Robin Williams and Matt Damon are talking. 00:11:55.735 --> 00:11:56.295 And 00:11:56.610 --> 00:12:05.090 Robin Williams is like, it's not your fault. It's not your fault. It's not your fault. And then Matt Damon's like, what? Stop. Shut up. And all of sudden he 00:12:05.410 --> 00:12:06.050 crying. 00:12:06.370 --> 00:12:07.570 It's not your fault. 00:12:08.450 --> 00:12:09.010 And 00:12:09.535 --> 00:12:14.815 it hits a deeper core when you get to that it's not your fault energy, in the sense that 00:12:15.135 --> 00:12:16.575 internalizing 00:12:16.575 --> 00:12:19.055 the outside thinking it means 00:12:19.295 --> 00:12:21.295 we're good enough on the inside 00:12:21.695 --> 00:12:24.255 is a way that we stay trapped in the loop. 00:12:25.830 --> 00:12:32.150 Because if we don't focus on what we're feeling or not allowing ourselves to feel, which I'll get to in a moment which is the shift 00:12:32.390 --> 00:12:32.950 here, 00:12:34.310 --> 00:12:34.950 is 00:12:35.430 --> 00:12:37.910 managing the outside becomes a means to an end. 00:12:39.135 --> 00:12:42.415 So things come things come forward to you 00:12:43.215 --> 00:12:45.695 when you allow yourself to let go 00:12:47.055 --> 00:12:48.415 of the resistance 00:12:50.255 --> 00:12:54.930 and the effort to control the out come, the outside. 00:12:56.370 --> 00:12:58.930 So the key to this is recognizing 00:12:58.930 --> 00:13:00.930 that it's all about 00:13:01.170 --> 00:13:04.690 you, your relationship to yourself, and your nervous system. 00:13:06.075 --> 00:13:06.475 Your 00:13:07.035 --> 00:13:09.595 how you feel inside of your body. So 00:13:11.035 --> 00:13:14.235 let's look at this for a second. Also let me point out this. 00:13:15.355 --> 00:13:17.915 Rooted in scarcity, think about this for a moment. 00:13:18.315 --> 00:13:19.835 If there's an abundance of love, 00:13:20.690 --> 00:13:24.610 if there's an abundance of money, there's an abundance of opportunity, 00:13:25.570 --> 00:13:26.850 are you efforting 00:13:26.850 --> 00:13:28.370 and trying to control 00:13:28.850 --> 00:13:30.290 the outcome so much? 00:13:31.810 --> 00:13:35.890 It's almost like there's a belief that God or the universe is only has so much, 00:13:37.305 --> 00:13:39.785 And you had your chance and you have to make it work. 00:13:41.465 --> 00:13:44.105 And when you realize that that's a scarcity, 00:13:44.425 --> 00:13:47.705 it's literally a scarcity loop that you keep creating, you realize, wait, 00:13:48.790 --> 00:13:53.670 Maybe I'm blocking more abundance from coming into my life. Just like with the house situation. Right? 00:13:54.630 --> 00:13:59.190 This one offer. This one person. This one People that want to buy it. 00:14:00.230 --> 00:14:09.825 What if there is an abundance to where I can't see it in the moment because I'm in the ego perspective, but what if on the opposite side of it, there is some If I can accept this, 00:14:10.305 --> 00:14:14.625 it will then allow me to resonate with trusting the universe. 00:14:15.265 --> 00:14:16.065 Trusting God. 00:14:16.960 --> 00:14:19.360 And then because of that state, 00:14:20.000 --> 00:14:24.240 somebody else with another opportunity could come forward that could be even better. 00:14:25.680 --> 00:14:30.080 Could be an even better offer or an even more alignment thing or the timing is better. 00:14:32.135 --> 00:14:35.175 There's an acceptance of that, and almost a relief. 00:14:36.135 --> 00:14:52.810 You know, it's funny. I was talking to my assistant yesterday who told me that she was going to be moving from LA to like the outskirts a little bit, two hours away to like Big Bear or something like that. More nerve She wanted to regulate her nervous system. She was excited for this place that she negotiated to get to move into, 00:14:53.130 --> 00:14:54.970 and she was looking forward to it. 00:14:55.450 --> 00:15:01.370 And she was going move there with her dogs and live like way more regulated for at least one to five years she said, like at least a year or maybe longer. 00:15:02.675 --> 00:15:05.475 And she was excited about it, but at the same time 00:15:05.795 --> 00:15:08.915 what she said was, I'll let you know later today when I get it. 00:15:09.395 --> 00:15:15.395 And she told me later on yesterday, she goes, oh by the way, I thought I was moving, I didn't get the house unfortunately. 00:15:16.450 --> 00:15:21.170 They The owner backed out of the deal they were going give me on rent and utilities and everything. 00:15:22.290 --> 00:15:27.090 And then I said, how do you feel about that? Like how do you feel in your body? And she goes, feel relief. 00:15:27.330 --> 00:15:28.530 She goes, it's okay. 00:15:28.850 --> 00:15:29.650 I feel relieved. 00:15:30.705 --> 00:15:34.545 And what I told her was like listen, like when things like this happen, 00:15:35.585 --> 00:15:39.425 if you feel relief by the way that's a that's a good that's a good sign. 00:15:40.145 --> 00:15:43.905 That's a sign that like there's a your nervous system. Even though your 00:15:44.305 --> 00:15:48.680 mind may have wanted it, which is a lot of this whole effort thing comes from the mind. 00:15:49.560 --> 00:15:59.640 But what you don't know, what I told her is what you don't know is you don't know if there's a place that you were feel more aligned to that might come up in a month or two. And if you would have locked in a year at this other place that you've never lived before, 00:16:00.155 --> 00:16:01.435 it may have not been 00:16:01.835 --> 00:16:03.355 ideal for your growth. 00:16:04.315 --> 00:16:08.875 You know, who knows? Maybe you're gonna meet your person or a deep relationship 00:16:08.955 --> 00:16:10.075 in LA, 00:16:10.395 --> 00:16:12.635 and if you leave right now, you might miss that. 00:16:13.840 --> 00:16:21.280 Who knows? Maybe there's another place that you decide you want to move to and this would have taken the place of that. So like you're 00:16:21.600 --> 00:16:27.840 Or there's another place even in that place that's like even better or more in alignment. You may have moved into that house and there may have been mold. 00:16:28.325 --> 00:16:31.525 There may have been challenges. The landlord may have been nutso. 00:16:31.845 --> 00:16:33.125 You don't know. 00:16:34.005 --> 00:16:38.405 So if we can accept that maybe we don't know, maybe this is redirection, 00:16:39.525 --> 00:16:41.845 it lets go of a little bit of the resistance, doesn't it? 00:16:43.290 --> 00:16:44.970 So when we talk about 00:16:45.610 --> 00:16:48.090 what we think we want and what we don't want, 00:16:48.650 --> 00:16:51.770 it's like being more curious to realizing 00:16:52.410 --> 00:16:54.890 that if we can accept what we don't want, 00:16:55.770 --> 00:16:58.330 and we can realize that what we don't want 00:16:59.185 --> 00:17:07.665 is not something like if we cannot because here's the thing, if you have an aversion to what you don't want, it's like you're also being controlled by it. 00:17:08.945 --> 00:17:10.305 It's like you're avoiding it. 00:17:11.360 --> 00:17:16.400 It's like, I don't want to attract people that are controlling and that I'm on eggshells around. 00:17:17.360 --> 00:17:20.960 I want to attract people that I feel like I can be myself around. 00:17:21.600 --> 00:17:31.165 But what you'll find is that if you're like, I can't attract people that I feel on eggshells around, you'll attract them into your life because you have an aversion to it. There's a there's literally a preference 00:17:31.245 --> 00:17:35.325 in your nervous system that feels familiar to it that's also, 00:17:35.725 --> 00:17:40.925 maybe you're attracting that person into your life to help you get to a place to where you're good either way 00:17:41.330 --> 00:17:43.650 because you know where your true power is. 00:17:44.370 --> 00:17:49.170 You know that you can stand your ground and stand in your frame around someone 00:17:50.450 --> 00:17:51.730 that maybe has that energy. 00:17:53.185 --> 00:17:56.145 You see that's the truth. That is when you're truly free. 00:17:56.545 --> 00:17:59.345 Is when you're good either way 00:17:59.985 --> 00:18:02.705 because you are able to feel safe within you. 00:18:04.225 --> 00:18:16.560 Sometimes when I'm coaching people, people will say, well what if I attract, you know, I won't feel safe. It's like there's a belief that being around someone else at a certain point, it's like your power's going to be taken away. 00:18:18.320 --> 00:18:22.320 And I'm like, you can reset boundaries. You can reset your frame 00:18:22.595 --> 00:18:24.515 multiple times in a relationship, 00:18:25.555 --> 00:18:27.075 or in friendship dynamics, 00:18:27.075 --> 00:18:28.115 or in a job. 00:18:29.235 --> 00:18:36.515 You have, you start to develop trust with you when you realize that you're not at the whim whims and a victim of everybody else around you. 00:18:37.090 --> 00:18:39.170 Forced to do something in a certain way. 00:18:40.210 --> 00:18:43.410 But you see this is where you could start to finally feel safe 00:18:43.570 --> 00:18:47.010 inside of your own body because you are showing up for you. 00:18:48.930 --> 00:18:54.055 And what's funny is what the law of reversed effort does or the backwards law does, 00:18:55.015 --> 00:18:58.295 is it helps you take your desires off a pedestal. 00:18:58.775 --> 00:19:01.255 It helps you accept the opposite 00:19:01.975 --> 00:19:04.135 knowing you can be good either way, 00:19:05.600 --> 00:19:10.080 and knowing that your true state of being is what's important here. 00:19:10.640 --> 00:19:12.240 Having a sense of peace 00:19:12.480 --> 00:19:13.680 on the inside 00:19:14.160 --> 00:19:16.240 allows you to actually choose what you want. 00:19:18.335 --> 00:19:31.935 So realize that this isn't also just about like Jedi mind tricking yourself. Okay. I'm just going to pretend and like manifest. I don't want I have a lot of resistance so I need to I need to like do this to get this result. I'll do what Aaron says so I can get this. 00:19:33.450 --> 00:19:35.690 And true degree of transformation 00:19:35.690 --> 00:19:39.610 and integration is when you can learn these principles, 00:19:40.650 --> 00:19:41.530 and actually 00:19:41.610 --> 00:19:45.210 allow yourself to embrace the uncomfortable emotions underneath the surface. 00:19:46.575 --> 00:19:52.895 Because for me I like, isn't it funny? Because even now when I say this, you might say desire is evil. 00:19:53.135 --> 00:19:54.815 Desire blocks what I want. 00:19:55.375 --> 00:19:57.615 But if you don't let yourself feel desire, 00:19:58.255 --> 00:20:00.255 you will create suppressed energy and resistance. 00:20:01.730 --> 00:20:03.650 It's okay to feel desire 00:20:04.210 --> 00:20:05.410 and it's okay 00:20:06.130 --> 00:20:07.250 to feel lack. 00:20:07.970 --> 00:20:13.410 If you let yourself feel either one, you're not controlled by either. There's just acceptance of what is. 00:20:14.455 --> 00:20:17.175 There's an acceptance of the emotion underneath the surface. 00:20:18.535 --> 00:20:25.015 You see this is where things really begin to shift because this is like the protest behavior is the thing that you can begin to release. 00:20:26.750 --> 00:20:29.710 And that's why I'm good either way is such a powerful, 00:20:30.910 --> 00:20:32.350 such a powerful thing. 00:20:34.510 --> 00:20:36.350 So let yourself 00:20:37.470 --> 00:20:44.515 embrace the emotions you've been avoiding feeling by trying to protest behavior control reality or having the effort. 00:20:45.715 --> 00:20:49.075 If you can be present with that energy underneath the surface, 00:20:50.115 --> 00:20:54.675 it's like then you can process it and then your nervous system begins to relax more 00:20:55.155 --> 00:20:57.635 because you're no longer suppressing it and trying to control it. 00:20:59.230 --> 00:21:02.510 So this is what's completely transformed my life to allow me 00:21:03.230 --> 00:21:03.950 to 00:21:04.030 --> 00:21:04.830 trust 00:21:05.310 --> 00:21:06.190 God, 00:21:06.510 --> 00:21:07.870 trust the universe, 00:21:08.430 --> 00:21:13.310 flow with things, accept the emotion that comes up, and understand that this is a process 00:21:14.565 --> 00:21:18.005 of allowing like when you are truly neutral. 00:21:18.645 --> 00:21:23.765 You could still follow your passion excitement by the way, but the difference is that you're not attached to outcome. 00:21:25.125 --> 00:21:27.525 So three shifts that will really help you with this, 00:21:28.270 --> 00:21:31.070 is first off, the acceptance of the opposite. 00:21:31.470 --> 00:21:32.270 Accept 00:21:32.430 --> 00:21:39.870 the opposite of what you want. If you can accept, instead of trying to attract love or relationship, if you can accept being single and enjoy the process, 00:21:40.995 --> 00:21:42.435 you will be more free, 00:21:42.835 --> 00:21:44.835 and you will then let go of resistance 00:21:45.315 --> 00:21:47.075 of trying to control the outcome. 00:21:47.635 --> 00:21:51.795 You can also have a desire without believing that you need to manage it yourself. 00:21:53.290 --> 00:21:55.050 You can set up the conditions, 00:21:55.850 --> 00:21:57.290 but you don't have to control. 00:21:58.410 --> 00:22:00.330 It's like, can you make a plant grow? 00:22:01.130 --> 00:22:06.010 It's like, you can put the plant in the sun and water it, but you don't make it grow. God does that. 00:22:07.395 --> 00:22:09.555 So this allows you to accept. 00:22:10.035 --> 00:22:14.115 The opposite allows you to balance out the energy, not have aversion. 00:22:14.435 --> 00:22:15.955 Because both aversion 00:22:15.955 --> 00:22:17.235 and acceptance 00:22:17.555 --> 00:22:18.835 are what blocks 00:22:18.915 --> 00:22:19.795 that which you want. 00:22:20.990 --> 00:22:25.870 So becoming more neutral allows you to become the kind of person that generates state from within. 00:22:26.590 --> 00:22:35.325 The kind of person that feels the uncomfortable emotions that come up, which is why when you let go and actually embrace and accept the feelings underneath the surface, 00:22:36.205 --> 00:22:38.045 that's where things will really shift. 00:22:38.605 --> 00:22:41.325 So for me in the house situation, it was accepting 00:22:41.405 --> 00:22:42.685 feeling trapped. 00:22:43.245 --> 00:22:44.685 Accepting the burden. 00:22:45.725 --> 00:22:47.165 Allowing myself to feel it. 00:22:48.720 --> 00:22:51.360 Allowing myself to to embrace that. 00:22:52.080 --> 00:22:59.120 When it comes to love and relationship, you might say, oh, you feel lack or scarcity or you feel alone. If you can embrace it, 00:22:59.695 --> 00:23:00.815 accept it, 00:23:01.455 --> 00:23:04.335 you will begin to, in a way, 00:23:04.735 --> 00:23:10.095 reverse the backwards law, the law of reversed effort, because then it's like no longer avoiding it, 00:23:11.535 --> 00:23:13.775 and then you start you'll start to feel more free. 00:23:14.655 --> 00:23:19.260 And then, of course, as well, you can take action without being attached to the outcome. 00:23:20.300 --> 00:23:27.675 It doesn't mean you'd be passive, by the way. It doesn't mean the backwards laws like you don't take action. You just wait for things. You just have to get into energetic flow. 00:23:28.075 --> 00:23:30.875 This is about also moving through the process, 00:23:31.435 --> 00:23:35.355 not waiting till the desire goes. You can take action 00:23:36.315 --> 00:23:37.755 and still feel lack. 00:23:38.475 --> 00:23:39.995 You can take action 00:23:41.040 --> 00:23:41.680 and 00:23:42.480 --> 00:23:43.360 still 00:23:43.520 --> 00:23:46.160 be aware of your insistence of an outcome, 00:23:46.880 --> 00:23:50.960 but recognize that you can bring your energy back and put the energy inside your state. 00:23:51.040 --> 00:24:10.704 And if you wanna learn exactly how to apply the backwards law and to actually let go, will completely transform your life, here's the most popular video I have on letting go. It's got over 2,000,000 views. Here's the comments to see what's possible once you watch it. Go ahead and watch this video next. Learn how to let go, and learn how to actually apply what you just learned.