You've probably seen these manifestation videos
that tell you that everything that you want already exists,
that you just need to relax as if all of a sudden the Amazon delivery person is gonna show up on your front doorstep with a million dollars to deposit directly into your bank account. It's not that any of these principles are incorrect, it's that most of us don't understand them. And in fact, what we're doing most of the time is exactly the opposite of what we need to be doing in order to create the reality that we want. So in this episode, I'm gonna share with you three things that each and every one of us are doing on an average daily basis that are preventing us from actually materializing our dreams. Whether it's making more money, changing your health, having better relationships.
It is true. Everything that you want actually already exists. But the question is, why is it not showing up in my real life experience?
That's what we're gonna unpack in today's episode of A Changed Mind.
Alright, guys. Today is the big brother episode. Not that I'm gonna be spying on you, but a woman who's in our community recently said, Dave, you're like the older brother that I never had. So what she meant is you just tell it how it is and I'm gonna tell it how it is in today's episode because
what I know to be true is that you have big goals, you have big dreams, and everything that you want is possible for you, but you're doing some very specific habits that are preventing what you want from materializing.
And so I wanna talk about how this game called reality actually works. Now look, I'm not up on a pedestal here. For years,
I tried to change my life by doing all the things. You know, first, was by trying different strategies, then more hustle, more grind, trying to really control my external circumstances. And then when I got into personal growth and I realized that wasn't the key that was gonna unlock the door to my future, I started doing personal growth really hard, like more self help, more law of attraction, more events. I was working really hard at manifesting the life that I wanted.
But the truth is is that I kept getting most of the same life. Are you with me?
So
I finally got this idea. Right? I saw it. I read it. I heard it in some videos that the only way you can create a reality that you want is to stop paying attention to the reality that you don't want.
And for years, I heard this. I was like, just stop paying attention to my problems. Just stop doing anything. Just ignore my reality, but it didn't make any sense. So I'm gonna Davidsplain it here so that you can understand what this really means.
And if you get this, literally, your whole life, your business, your career, your bank account, your whole world can change. Now there are three specific things that we are doing that are getting in the way of us materializing the reality that you want.
Before I get to those, the fundamental idea here is that what you put your attention on, you get more of.
So we've all heard this, like, where attention goes, energy flows.
And so if you wanna change your reality,
you need to actually focus on what you want and stop focusing on what you don't want. Right? And the great mystic Neville Goddard talks about this. He says, everything that you want already exists right here, right now. The ancients said all of creation is already finished.
And so my dream home is in vibrational form. Right? The million dollars on my bank account is in vibrational form. The
soulmate that I wanna attract is right here, right now around me as if it's a holographic reality. What I need to do is I need to assume
that I already have those things.
Because then I will be at the frequency or the vibration of those things, and then those things must manifest into my reality.
Now it sounds like a mouthful, but as you start to get into personal growth, you're like, yeah, that really makes sense. I have to calibrate or tune myself. I have to start acting as if I already have the things, and then the things will become the byproduct of that shift in my inner being.
Neville actually talks about a a a process or a practice where you you go to bed at night as your brain waves are shifting into alpha or theta or beta or whatever it is, and you drift off into the feeling of having already accomplished your dreams, having already acquired that dream job, having already filled your bank account with millions of dollars. And again, I love Neville, and all of these teachings are actually true. I talk about them in so many other episodes, but I can also tell you that I never woke up to a million dollars under my pillow. Like, million dollar tooth fairy never visited the Bayer household.
And principles like these
can become frustrating. They can frustrate people. It's like, gosh.
Now now you've got me to buy into this idea that this is how reality works, but how do I actually do this? How do you pay attention to a reality
that doesn't exist yet? And how do you ignore the reality and all the problems that are in it that are in front of you right now? Right? It's like, don't you feel sometimes like you're stuck between two realities, like two dimensions? It's like you have one leg in your current reality where you're stuck or you're struggling or you've got a bunch of problems that you don't want, but you're doing better in that reality because you've been doing personal growth. You know, your mindset's a little bit better. You can you can find gratitude for your situation. And then you've got another leg over here in the fourth dimension, right, in the reality that you want, but it hasn't quite materialized itself yet. It shows signs every once in a while that it's gonna show up in your third dimension, but then the problems take over Like, weeds in a garden. You start to see these little flowers pop up like, oh, finally, I'm gonna get the thing that I want. And then, like, it doesn't happen. And then it's it's pretty exhausting.
Right? So let's unpack this together. Okay? I'm gonna I'm gonna give you three things that you're doing right now. And what's what's interesting of about two of these three things
is that being able to accelerate your capacity to materialize the change that you want in your life is actually not about doing something different. It's about not doing the thing that you're doing that's preventing the manifestation from taking place. And then the third one is a shift in perception. So so the first distinction
I would describe as
your word is your wand.
Right? This is a this is a book written by one of my favorite authors and teachers. Her name is Florence Goldblatt Shin. But she has a series of books, and one of them called Your Word Is Your Wand. She talks about the power of the spoken word.
And she says,
what you speak
becomes your reality.
The basic principle, right, that your words have power
is literally all over the Bible. Like, I would say other than the instruction to not have fear,
this explanation that your words have power is, like, one of the most prominent things in the Bible. Proverbs 18 says, death and life are in the power of the tongue.
Right? Matthew 12 says, by your words, you will be acquitted. By your words, you will be condemned.
Psalm one forty one, set
a guard, oh lord,
over my mouth. Keep watch over the door of my lips. I mean, are you kidding me? Could this be any clearer? Like so your words have power.
Or as Shin says, your word is your wand.
Okay? So what we need to start doing if we want to
transform
our reality is we have to pay attention to the words that we speak. And notice, I'm not saying here figure out how to change your reality. I'm saying pay attention to the words that you're speaking. In particular, what you're saying that is
reinforcing
your current reality
and that is ignoring the reality that you want. In other words, we talk about
our current reality quite a bit, don't we?
And what you're speaking
is the leading indicator
of your vibration.
Right? If our vibration or our thoughts or our beliefs are creating our reality,
we should pay attention to what we speak because what you speak is a byproduct of what you're thinking and feeling. If you understand basic behavioral psychology, you'll understand
how simple this is. This is not woo woo. This is not new age. Right? But behavioral psychology says,
what you think you feel,
and what you feel you do,
and what you do produces the results in your life.
Really straightforward. And so that's why if you wanna change your reality, you have to change the way that you think. Because changing the way that you think changes the way that you feel, which changes what you do, which changes your results. But I don't know if you've noticed, sometimes it's hard to pick up on what it is you're thinking.
Like, thoughts are happening all the time, and they're happening so fast while we're engaging with reality that it's hard to catch our thoughts.
And feelings
for many people are equally difficult to assess. I can ask, you know, a a a room full of 10 people how they feel, and five of them won't really be able to articulate
what it is that they're feeling, which is like I feel good or I feel bad.
So your thoughts and your emotions, they happen beneath the radar, but they're the root cause. The byproduct of your thoughts and emotions is what you speak.
Right? Speaking
is an indication of what you're thinking and what you're feeling.
And so you say things never work out for me, but that's what you're thinking and feeling. You say, I'm worried about this outcome,
but that's an indication of what's going on inside of you. And what's going on inside of you will always
materialize outside of you. That's how creation works.
So
the first thing that we need to do if we wanna start
shifting
from the reality that we have with problems to the reality that we want with solutions
is to pay attention to what you speak.
It's an indicator of what you're thinking and feeling,
and it's a lot easier to control.
And if I were to sit with you for an afternoon and just listen to what you had to say, I could tell you with the utmost precision what your life looks like.
Right? Your words are the leading indicator of your life. And so you could say, well, Dave, what good is it to stop saying
things or commenting on my current reality if I'm still thinking and feeling it? My answer is, well, you start to starve
the thoughts and the emotions
because they're fueled by the speech, and then that speech becomes action.
So this speech thing is the bridge
between your inner world and your outer world. And if you blow up the bridge,
everything that comes before it has less power and what comes after it cannot come anymore. If you stop speaking
negativity into your life or stop speaking about the situations or circumstances that exist right now that you would like to pass,
it will allow them to pass. So your words are the leading indicator of your life. But it's even more than behavioral psychology. Your word is your wand because your words are dense.
They're even more dense or physical than your thoughts and your emotion. Your words are the final brought byproduct of the translation
of very subtle thoughts into more noticeable emotions. And now that you what you speak
is the first presentation
of that inner vibration into your outer world.
Right? You're actually broadcasting a frequency,
and reality is responding to that frequency.
Think about it. What you speak is the first visible representation of what you're creating in the world. It is now external. It traveled from inside of you to outside of you. And so, like Florence Goldwyn says,
your word is your wand. So you're literally broadcasting
language into the world, but casting
is a spell. You're spelling. You're spell casting.
That's what you're doing when you speak. You're casting spells.
Letters are coming out of your mouth in the form of vibration. Words that string together into concepts and you create that reality. All the words we use to describe magic
or to break down language into letters.
Right? That's not by accident. The ancients understood this. Your speech is creative or destructive depending upon how you use it. Hey, it's David. Just a quick interruption to your regularly scheduled episode by your favorite sponsor,
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about the reality that we don't want and start speaking
about the reality that we do want.
Have conversations in anticipation of the beautiful things that are making their way from the fourth dimension to the third dimension. Stop talking about the things that you don't want, what little money you have in your bank account, how much your body aches.
Right? Stop speaking about those things because your word is your want. So this is the this is the first piece of ignoring your current reality and how to make sense of that recommendation
in the context of manifestation. Now the second thing
is the quality of speech that we would call complaining.
So your complaints
compound your problems.
See, most people don't know this, but your problems
come to pass.
All of us have problems.
You're always gonna experience things in your life that you don't expect or things that don't seem to be in alignment with what you're wanting to create or there seem to be challenges or roadblocks between where you are and where you wanna go. That's never gonna end,
and it's the same for all of us. But the question is whether or not your problem
transforms into a solution,
whether or not your problem comes to pass. Problems are designed by nature to pass. They're like part of the ever changing dynamic of reality. All things come and go.
Right? Nature comes and goes.
The sun rises, the sun sets.
We come and go. Right? We have an incarnation. We live and then we pass and then we die. Change
is a fundamental principle in this system.
And that's true also for your problems. Your problems are meant to change into what? Into solutions.
But complaints
compound your problems.
As I mentioned before, most people pay too much attention to their current circumstances.
And
not only do we speak
into our reality things that we do not want rather than things that we do want,
but we engage in conversation with others about it. And this is what complaining is. Complaining is taking a problem
and hardening it into our reality
by enrolling other people into
agreeing with us that this problem exists. What do we do when we complain?
Right?
We bring attention to the circumstances
that we have that we don't like, and then we discuss them with others. We socialize them. We post them on social media. We reinforce them. There's it's like there's some weird part of us
that feels like we have to talk about what it is that we don't want
as if that's how we're gonna get rid of it.
Or that that somehow complaining is gonna make us feel better. Has complaining ever made you feel better? I can see if I really inquire within me, why am I complaining about this? It's like I want someone's empathy. I want someone to tell me it's gonna be okay.
Somehow, I think that talking about it might spark up a discourse around how I'm gonna solve the problem. I don't wanna feel alone over here with my problems, and I get it.
I get it. But but what we're doing is we're bringing energy and attention
to a manifestation in our reality
that we're wanting to change, and we don't change something by bringing energy to it. We change something by starving.
Starving it out. We do not speak about it. We do not complain about it.
And then when we really get good at this, we do not worry about it. We live in unshakable faith, and we and we refuse
the energy to that problem in our life, and so it can no longer maintain itself. That problem has to come to pass. This is a very important thing to understand.
Problems always
come to pass.
The third thing to understand here, watch what you speak, stop complaining, is to give proper perspective on what these things are that we call problems. And I would say that they are the seeds for your dreams.
You say, Dave, how can that be? How can my health problem be the seed for my dream?
How can the negative bank account balance that I carry in my bank account and the
significant amount of credit card debt be the seed for my dream? And Abraham Hicks explains this really, really well. Abraham says,
you experience problems because problems help you focus your attention towards a desire.
If you didn't experience what you don't want, you'd never really know what you do want.
And the truth is is that, you know, we've got 8,000,000,000 people on the planet right now
all creating their own realities.
And those realities start to overlap. They bump into each other. So you run into someone else's reality,
and you get to determine whether you like that reality or you don't. And that's okay. This is a natural part, as Abraham calls it, the sifting and the sorting through the buffet of life.
Because
each and every person has the right to create what they want to create.
And
in this overlap, we run into other people's creation
and the parts of their creation that we don't like, we call problems.
I got a problem which is my boss. I got a problem which is my partner. I got a problem which is the market. I've got a problem which is AI replacement.
I've got a problem which is my government.
But the problem is the seed for your preferences. It is the seed for your dreams.
And because you're so powerful, because you're made in the image of the great creator itself or himself,
you have the ability through the power of your attention
to sculpt reality and to create something different
to bring a solution into the world and allow the problem to pass. And this is important to understand because it'll allow you to give yourself permission to stop speaking about and to stop complaining about the reality that you don't want, the reality that I'm asking you to ignore.
So that the reality that you've already called forth, which is in the waiting room called the fourth dimension,
which is a byproduct of you running into problems and fine tuning and honing your desires and dreams can manifest itself into your third dimensional reality.
So all of this is a structure to give context
to this what on the surface level seems like a crazy idea, which is ignore your reality. Stop paying attention to your problems.
We've been taught that we have to wrestle our problems to the ground, attack our problems, enroll other people in helping us solve our problems.
But the truth is is that you ignore your problem.
You ignore your problem, your problem will transform into a solution because problems come not to stay but they come to pass, and they exist to become the seed of inspiration for what it is that you want. And if you can develop the skill of noticing your problems, but then bringing your full attention to the solution or towards the desired outcome, has not yet manifest in your reality,
man, will you accelerate change in your life. People will look from the outside in going, this guy's a miracle maker. This woman's a miracle maker. I don't understand. It's like it's like she just speaks reality into existence. And it's like, yes, that's what we were told we have the gift and the privilege of being able to do. It's to speak reality into existence. But the problem is is we pay too much attention to the reality that we don't want. And we speak that reality into existence over and over and over again. You know what's really interesting is the philosophy that
your reality is being refreshed on a moment by moment basis. In other words, the fourth dimension is always streaming into the third dimension.
But it seems like our third dimensional reality doesn't change because we keep putting the same song on replay.
It's the same speaking, the same complaining, the same mistaking
our problems
for problems
rather than the catalyst for solutions and for desires
and the expansion of our life. And so this is telling it to you straight.
Stop paying attention to your problems. Now you would say, but they will they just disappear without me taking action? No. Sometimes you'll be inspired and you'll take some action.
But you'll take action towards a solution, not actions against the problem. It sounds like a two millimeter distinction like it's just semantics, but it's not.
When you step away from the problem,
you allow the problem to change. New thoughts, new ideas occur for you,
not to solve the problem but to create the solution.
Other people become active, which is what creates synchronicities,
coincidences.
Uh, other people show up with the solution.
Other people become a part of the solution. But notice it's all about becoming a part of the solution. It's not becoming a part of solving the problem. We're not trying to solve the problem. We noticed the problem and that
catalyzes.
In that moment, in the fourth dimension, the solution is created. And now our ability to experience the solution
relies upon our capacity to ignore the problem, to align ourselves with the solution, not to entangle with the problem. This is what quantum entanglement is. Can you entangle with the solution that has not yet arrived?
Or are you hooked
by the problem
that exists right here, now? You know, it's important to understand that all the problems that you're experiencing right now are, again, is what Abraham would call old news.
They're the byproduct of old thoughts, old emotions, old speech,
old focus.
So in this moment, are you courageous enough? Are you faithful enough
to ignore the problem
and to direct your attention towards something else? Towards the solution or anything else. Sometimes the business plan I give,
the entrepreneurial clients that I'm working on who are trying to attack a problem is go for a walk, go spend time with your kids, go grab a cup of coffee, what do you enjoy doing, go surfing,
go play with your furry friend, step away from the frequency of the problem, ignore it,
and allow the solution to emerge.
Right? Step away from your third dimensional reality and allow your fourth dimension to manifest or materialize.
So this is the teaching.
Everything that you want already exist right here, right now. That's true.
In order for us to change our reality, meaning to allow that fourth dimensional
vision to emerge into our third dimensional sensory material space,
we have to ignore our reality.
Right? We have to stop fighting with it.
The way that we do that is to watch our speech.
Right? Watch your speech because it is much easier to catch. Become
very disciplined
with what you say. In particular, notice the complaining.
Cut it off. Starve the complaints, and you'll starve the problem.
And know that the problem is the seed to the solution that you're looking for. You would not have the desires that you have if you had not experienced the opposite of those desires, which we call a problem. But don't become committed to the problem. Be committed to the expansion, and do that by ignoring your reality. So here's what I I want to leave you with today. Okay? Again, the reality you have right now is just yesterday's thinking materialized.
It is old news. Don't worship it. Don't complain about it. Don't keep speaking it back into existence.
The reality that you actually want is right here, right now. It exists.
The only thing standing between you and it
is where your attention is going. So today, do me a favor. Catch yourself.
Right? Catch yourself. Be supportive of yourself. Notice the words.
Notice the complaints.
Notice the dreams that you have been getting drowned out by everything that you keep saying about your life.
And start choking
off those problems by giving them no more talk time.
And the problem that you're staring at is actually the dream announcing itself.
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