I used to be a dreamer. I have big dreams but did nothing. The day I understood why
and how to fix it, everything in my life changed. Think about something you have always wanted to start for a long time. Maybe a business, a fitness goal, creative project, a completely different life. You think about it all the time and you believe you can do it. You talk about it. You prepare the plan.
You imagine it, but nothing has started.
Nothing has changed. And the question is,
why? You're not a lazy person. You actually care a lot. Today, I'm going to show you six reasons why this happened. Not from my opinion, from psychology.
And once you understand them, you will never look at your own excuses the same way again. Reason number one, thinking about it feels like doing it. Here's the first reason and it's really sneaky. When you imagine your goal, like really imagine it, your brain release a small feeling of satisfaction like reward, like you already did something. Psychologists have studied this, and it's real. The brain doesn't fully separate
imagining success
from actually achieving it. Both activate
similar feeling. So when you spend an hour thinking about your future business, your future body,
your future life,
your brain give you a taste of satisfaction
like you actually did it. And that small taste
make the urgency
go away. So why start today when thinking about it for good? This is why some people keep talking about their dreams for years and never feel the pressure to actually move and start. The dream is already giving them something
just by existing
in their head. The problem is thinking
it's not a progress.
It feel like a progress,
but it's not a progress.
It's just imagining
success.
The dream in your head and the dream in the real life are two completely
different things. And only one of them require
you to act, which is the real success in real life. Reason number two, the dream is costing you every day. Most people think not starting is safe,
free, and comfortable.
But here's what actually happening. Every dream you haven't started
is still alive in your head. It doesn't sleep
and doesn't go away. It follow you every
day. You feel it every night.
You feel it when you see someone
actually doing what you wanted to do. You feel it when another month pass
and nothing changed. Psychologist
call this the Zeigarnik effect. Your brain cannot let go of unfinished things. It keep them alive, it keep them active, and it keep reminding you every single day.
You think it's okay to rest and wait, but your mind is working twenty four seven.
Carrying the weight
of things you haven't done. And the longer you wait,
the heavier it gets. Waiting is not free.
You pay for it every day, not with money, but with your peace of mind. So the question is not why I haven't started yet.
The real question is
how long are you willing to pay for something
you never used? Reason number three, the dream is protecting something.
Everyone says
they scared of failing,
but this is not the full truth. Here's what's really going on. Right now in your mind, you are the person who could do it. You could start your business. You could change your life. You could change your body. You could build something great. You haven't tried yet.
So you haven't failed yet. So the dream, see perfect and see possible. But the moment you actually try something dangerous
happen. You might find out the truth about yourself. What if you try and it's harder than you thought? What if the result is not great as you imagined?
What if the dream
when meet real life
become smaller?
This is the real fear. Not fading
in front of others,
but finding out that you are not the person
you thought you were. Just take a moment to understand this line. This is this is so important.
You have the fear to find out that you are not the person
you thought you were. That's why your brain trying to protect you. So it's make quite deal with you and say,
don't try, stay here. As long as you don't try, you still capable.
And the dream, still perfect,
still possible. That's the trick. And every day
without knowing this, you agree.
Your brain is not stopping you because it's weak.
It's stopping you because it's protecting
the best version of you.
The version that exists only in your imagination.
Reason number four,
overthinking
drains you before you even begin. Here is another reason that most people don't know this. You think too much and thinking too much is exhausting.
You think about every possible step,
every possible problem,
every possible outcome. What if this happened? What if that happened? What if I make the wrong choice?
You think too much, and by the time you finish thinking,
you are already tired and exhausted without doing anything. You haven't done anything yet, but your brain feel like it's run a marathon. So you do nothing, not because you're lazy,
but because thinking so deeply about something for so long use real mental energy, and this is called analysis
paralysis.
You get stuck in your own head. The more you think,
the more complicated
everything looks. And the more complicated it look,
the harder it feel to start. The problem is not that your goal is too big. The problem that you are trying to solve everything
in your head
before even taking a single step in real life. And that's impossible.
Some question get only the answer by doing the thing, not by thinking about it. Reason number five, and this is so important.
Your identity
doesn't match your goals yet.
This one is so deep, but stay with me. Your brain is always trying to keep your action consistent
with who you believe
you are. Let me say that again. Your brain
is always trying to keep your action consistent
with who you believe
you are. If deep inside you believe
I can't be successful.
I'm not a disciplined person. People like me don't become billionaire.
So your brain will resist
everything you do that go against that belief because your brain hate contradiction.
It want your action to match your identity. And if your identity says you're not that person who does this,
starting feel wrong and natural like
wearing clothes that don't fit. This is why some people start strong and then slowly stop.
It's not laziness,
it's their identity
pull them back. The goal was never really theirs. It belonged to the version of themselves
that they hadn't
become yet. And the only way to change this is not to try harder.
It's to slowly
start seeing yourself
differently.
Every small action you take, everything new you learn,
every time you show up, build a new story about who you are. You don't need to be the person first.
You become them by acting like them one small step at a time. Reason number six, you are in love with your potential
not your effort.
And this is the most uncomfortable
one. Some people fall in love with who could they become
but never actually become it because potential feel amazing.
When you talk about your dream and people listen, this feel amazing. Right? You feel excited. You feel special. And you feel like someone who's going like somewhere big. But actually building something,
that's different. It's hard. It's slow. It's boring sometimes.
No one clapping, no one supporting,
no one watching. And the version of yourself in your head
successful,
confident, unstoppable
feels
far away
from the person who's sitting there
doing the work. So instead of facing that gap, a lot of people choose to stay in the idea, in the conversation, in the plan because the plans always work
perfectly,
but the reality never does. But here is the thing I want you to understand.
Even the people who built something,
they also felt this. They also had that gap.
They also had to adopt themselves.
They just got more tired of waiting
than they were scared
of starting.
That's the only difference between someone who dream and someone who actually built.
Not the talent, not the confidence, and not the perfect moment. They just understood what's happening
and took the decision to stop waiting. So how you actually
break out of this? I'm not going to tell you just to start. You've heard that before a thousand times and it didn't help. Right? So here's something more useful.
Stop trying to stop.
Start trying to find out. So instead of thinking,
I need to start this business,
say, let
me find out if this idea work. And instead of thinking, I need to get fit,
think,
let me find out how I feel after going to the gym once this week. So you are not committing, you are not betting everything.
You're just a small question
with a small action. This is important.
When the first step feel like a test not a life decision,
it feel much less scary. If it go wrong, you learn something.
If it go well, you keep going. The dream stay big and the first step stay small. I remember my coach told me you don't need to be perfect to start.
You need to start to be perfect.
I was a malar person. I was a whole different person. I was too shy, too introvert. I can't even express my opinion. I can't even talk to the camera. I can't even talk to the people. I was born and raised in big family and I was the smaller person in the family and no one actually
cared about my opinion. So when I grow up, I grew up shy person. I grew up introvert.
I didn't even have the courage to start anything.
Even in my corporate job, I was so private
and I can't even talk to the other people in the office. But here I am today, I started anyway. I kept going, kept learning. I wasn't perfect. I was bad in speaking. I'm not native in English. English is my fourth language and I learned it anyway. I started growing,
making money, retired my parents,
do everything
I dream about it. And I didn't found happiness by making money.
I found happiness in the journey of becoming
who I wanted to be. So you don't wait to feel ready. You act and then you feel ready. That's how it's actually work. All the successful people you see,
they didn't start because they were confident.
They become confident because they started. Imagine yourself five years from now.
One version
started,
it wasn't perfect, it kept going, it kept learning, it kept growing.
Some things was hard, some things didn't go as planned, but you kept going, you kept growing, and you build something, and you become someone different. And another version of you still planning,
still waiting,
still saying
tomorrow,
next week,
next month,
next year.
The dream is still perfect but never touched by reality. Both feel okay right now.
But only one of them feel okay after five years from now.
And you know which one you've been living. The dream is not a problem,
waiting is.
And the waiting room has no exit
until you decide
to leave. If this video made you think about one specific thing you've been putting off,
put it down in the comment not as a promise,
but just to say it out loud.
That's already a weird step ahead.