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Adam Cox.
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So get yourself comfortable and enjoy today's episode of The Hypnotist.
Hi. It's Adam here. Now I'm gonna guess. This is a guess because I don't know you personally.
You've got at least one bad habit, something that isn't that healthy,
and something that if you did less of that and more of something else, actually, it would improve the quality of your life, you would feel better about yourself, you might have more energy, more health, more confidence, something like that.
Well, you've come to the right place because this hypnosis session is all about
reducing unhealthy habits and increasing
healthy habits. And there was a client that I was working with that used to drink alcohol on their own and then they stopped drinking alcohol and they started having sugary sweets and they didn't wanna replace one with the other. So you might be familiar with a game called Whack a Mole where
in these kind of arcades,
a little animal would pop up, you hit it with a a little hammer and then another one pops up somewhere else. That can happen with habits that actually,
um, you break one habit and then another
unhealthy habit just replaces it. So we don't want this psychological whack a mole taking place. What we want is to be intentional.
There's one habit reduces, a healthy habit replaces it.
And,
um, it's good to have behavioral psychology
alongside the hypnosis
within this, and I make reference to a marble jar.
So if you just think of a big vase,
a glass vase or a big
one of those big jars,
the kind of mason jars.
Now just imagine that you've got lots of marbles
and every time you did something healthy instead of something unhealthy,
you put one of those marbles and you put it in the jar and you could probably imagine what that would sound like, the rattling around,
the glass on glass kind of sound.
That becomes an anchor. It becomes a trigger
that actually means that you get to feel good whenever you do the healthy thing. And then you get to feel good by rewarding yourself by putting the marble in the jar. And you also get to feel good whenever you see that jar
filling up with marbles to say, oh, I've got lots and lots of healthy habits that I'm building in my life. So that's a it's a metaphor within the hypnosis, but I would encourage you to buy that big jar,
buy the pack of marbles,
and then give yourself a rule that says when you do something healthy or you do the habit that you want to cultivate more of, put a marble in the jar,
uh, and then that creates a wonderful self fulfilling prophecy
and positive reinforcement,
which is part of behavioral
psychology.
Now this session is about wine and sugar. That's the habits that this client wanted to change and be more active and do things like more yoga and walking and things like that. It might be different for you.
So if you like the idea of a bespoke session,
something crafted specifically for you, have a look in the show notes because there's a suitability test, and there's a webinar, and there's various downloads and courses all there in the show notes. So check those out.
For now though, find a quiet comfortable place where you won't be distracted or disturbed.
Relax and enjoy the session.
Take
a deep breath in.
And as you breathe in,
breathe in that slow, long, relaxing breath.
And
as you exhale,
allow your eyes to close
and position your body in such a way
where you can really feel
comfortable
and relaxed.
That's it.
Breathing and relaxation
and
exhaling tension.
Each breath
facilitates
a release,
A release of any stress and worries.
A release of any frustration or annoyance.
A release of anything that has been
contributing to anything other
than calm,
peace,
tranquility,
and acceptance.
And when you breathe in, breathe in slightly deeper than you normally would.
And
as you exhale,
allow the outward breath to continue
for longer than it normally would.
And the deeper you breathe,
the more relaxed you feel.
And the more relaxed you feel,
the deeper you breathe.
And just scan your body for any clues of
tension, stress,
any echoes of emotions that aren't needed right now.
And every exhale,
allow yourself. Give permission to just let go
and feel the release of that unnecessary
emotion
there
in the outward breath.
That's it.
And there may be sensations,
tingles,
twitches,
lightness or heaviness that lets you know
that this release
is happening.
And every time you notice something,
you allow
your unconscious mind
to facilitate more of that release.
Because there is nothing that needs to be done, nothing to manage,
nothing to figure out.
Just this,
just now.
Just the simple permission
to arrive somewhere
quieter
than outside.
Noise
doesn't just come from
building work and the external environment.
Sometimes noise happens inside your own mind.
The nervous system sometimes forgets what
stillness feels like
until
it remembers.
Notice the weight of your body,
the places of contact and support,
the breath
moving on its own without instruction,
Reliable.
Constant.
Always there
even when everything else
felt
uncertain.
Your unconscious mind
is incredibly resourceful.
It's been working on your behalf even in the hardest weeks.
It's been finding clarity in places you didn't expect it.
And here, now, today,
you get to let that clarity settle,
to deepen,
to become something that lives in the body
and not just the mind.
I want you to remember a place,
a place perhaps that only you know,
a place from childhood, a place in nature,
Perhaps a place outside
that felt
yours.
Maybe it was surrounded by trees or water or open sky.
It doesn't even have to be a real place. It could be
just within your imagination.
A place the mind goes when it needs to
find itself again.
And in this place,
there is a particular quality of light,
the kind that makes everything feel truthful,
the kind that
doesn't allow shadows to be confused for solid things.
And with each breath,
you can go deeper
into this place.
As I count down from 10 to one,
give permission to go deeper.
10.
Nine.
The ordinary noise of the day receding.
Eight.
Seven.
Six.
Arms and legs becoming heavier and more relaxed, more at ease.
Five.
Four. Three.
A deep,
comfortable stillness.
Two and then one.
And what if here,
in this space of deep knowing,
your unconscious
is listening,
ready
to receive what is true,
what is real,
what you have already decided
at a level far deeper than words.
You already know that there is a particular kind of freedom that
doesn't need to announce itself loudly.
It arrives quietly
in the gap between the old habit and the new decision,
And sometimes a person doesn't fully recognize it
for what it is.
Think
of a realization
where you have arrived at something important,
not through willpower
and not through struggle or white knuckling your way through a craving,
but through
genuine
clarity.
The kind that comes when the body and mind
and all of your history and experience
all speak
at once
and say,
no.
Not this.
Not anymore.
I want you to think of that recent moment where
it made sense.
You introduced a boundary
and felt
no fear of loss,
but a sense of liberation.
You escaped
the issue.
You weren't running away from it.
A direct message from your own intuition,
your own experience saying,
I don't want to drink alcohol at all.
You don't want it,
and that
is not a limitation,
not a sacrifice.
That is simply a fact about who you are.
You don't want it
anymore.
You are not someone who wants to drink, but is trying not to drink.
You are someone who simply does not drink
because you simply do not want to,
and you can notice the difference between those two identities.
The person trying not to do something
is always in a mild state of resistance,
still attached
to the thing,
a constant struggle,
second guessing.
But the person who simply
does not want to do it and does not do it
has stepped outside the equation
entirely.
They are not at war with alcohol.
They are indifferent to it.
In the same way that
a nonsmoker
that would never want to smoke
does not need willpower
to not pick up a cigarette,
It's just
background noise.
It exists.
It's there,
but they do not want it.
And your unconscious mind can make this shift,
not as an instruction to be enforced,
but as a recognition of what
is already true.
You've already crossed the threshold.
The decision
has already been made.
This is just
enabling
all parts of your unconscious
to recalibrate,
to synthesize,
to integrate.
And whenever you think about a future
where alcohol might be present,
you already know in advance
you don't want it.
Alcohol is not
in your future,
but it was in your past.
It belongs to a version of you
that you have already
outgrown.
And every social situation that once felt like it required
willpower or negotiation,
every offer of a drink,
every moment where the old habit would have reached for something in a glass,
can now carry a different feeling.
Not deprivation,
not discipline.
Simply
the quiet satisfaction
of someone who knows exactly
who they are.
You fully integrated
that realization now.
So let's turn your attention to something else,
something that wears a more innocent disguise.
Your body has been sending
equally clear signals about,
and there is a substance,
an addictive substance,
a poisonous substance
responsible for killing millions each year
that is added to almost everything
that has been normalized so completely
that the food industry has made billions ensuring
people never stop to question it.
It hides in birthday cakes
and office biscuits
and sauces and condiments,
and the body experiences
not as a food,
but as a drug.
Some people call it the most deadly of the white poisons,
refined
sugar.
Not the natural sugars in an apple or a banana or
dried fruit like a fig.
These things come packaged with fiber.
A grape has sugar,
but has water
to carry and dilute that sugar.
Fruits have micronutrients.
They work with the body's enzymes,
but the white
crystalline substance
that has been stripped of everything
except its hit.
When refined sugar enters the bloodstream
in a drink
or a sweet
or a piece of chocolate,
it does not behave like food.
It creates
a spike,
a rapid elevation of dopamine and blood glucose that
feels briefly
like relief, like reward, like pleasure,
distilled crystallized
gratification.
And then,
like all drug hits,
it drops rapidly,
and the drop creates the craving
for the next hit.
This isn't a metaphor.
This
is real biochemistry.
The reward pathway
activated by refined sugar
is the same reward pathway
activated by cocaine.
The mechanisms of craving is chemically identical.
The withdrawal is real.
The tolerance builds,
and the dose required to get the same effect increases
over time,
affecting the blood, the body, the brain.
Refined sugar
is not a treat even if it's hidden in
colorful packaging.
It is a drug.
And if you see it clearly now for what it is, let me know by nodding your head.
That's it.
And sometimes it's sneaky.
Those fruit juices
that come from concentrate
that has sugar,
the syrups, the jams.
It's obvious when it's a sugar cube.
It's obvious when it's a can of fizzy drink.
But I want you to imagine being able to look
at something that you know contains sugar,
the way you might look at a line of cocaine on a table
with clear eyes.
Nobody sees cocaine and think, oh, that's harmless.
They know it's corrosive,
addictive,
but a drug user does it anyway.
Once you see sugar for what it really is,
you don't want it in refined form.
You only want it in natural form.
Something that is
wonderful
in nature
is toxic
when it's gone through that process
of refinement,
taking everything
good,
nutrients,
water, fiber out.
That's what makes it dangerous.
You see sugar with the knowledge of what it actually is and what it actually does,
not with fear or craving,
but with the calm recognition of someone who has decided
that this is not for me
anymore.
Not because I cannot,
but because I know what it is,
and I don't want that.
Sugar withdrawal is real.
It feels
like it can cause
tiredness,
cloudiness,
fatigue,
irritability,
But your unconscious mind is already prepared for it,
considering it
a tunnel short or long with a clear light at the end of that tunnel.
And when you get to the other side, you're free of it.
And any inner dialogue that says it's harmless
is like bait on a hook.
If you nibble at the bait,
it pulls you back in.
If a fish knew
the bait had a hook,
of course, they'd never eat it,
but they don't.
And that's what leads to their demise.
Some people believe that when you know better,
you do better.
When you see refined sugar for what it really is,
even a commercial of a soft drink
of ice cream takes on a sinister connotation,
These companies know
it's addictive.
It kills people.
A hundred years from now,
they will look at adverts,
for high sugar products in the same way that we look at adverts for cigarette companies in the nineteen fifties.
They knew,
and yet they did them anyway.
You are out
or soon to be out of that tunnel,
already free of it,
with no desire to nibble at the bait.
The food industry has little interest in you discovering
an energy that is steady rather than spiked.
Your unconscious will crave real, natural foods
where your blood sugar levels
rise slowly
and fall slowly,
not spike and crash.
Your body runs clean.
You choose food that nourishes,
not substances that spike
and crash.
It's interesting how the mind works when a habit is removed,
Something important that your unconscious can hold onto
as a piece of protective wisdom.
The human mind, the reward system is ancient.
It is wired not for health
or longevity
or spiritual growth,
but for
immediate relief from discomfort,
for the quickest available
dopamine,
for the nearest exit from an uncomfortable feeling.
And when one door is closed, the mind, with its remarkable efficiency,
immediately begins searching for the nearest open door.
And this is why people stop smoking and then start snacking.
Stop drinking and begin compulsive online shopping.
Leave one difficult relationship and
unconsciously find their way into a structurally identical one.
This is not weakness.
It's engineering.
The internal reward system doing exactly what it was designed to do.
And because you see the mechanism clearly,
you can work with it
rather than being worked by it.
You do not replace one crutch with another,
one destructive habit with another.
You get to choose where your dopamine comes from
consciously,
deliberately,
with full
awareness.
And the question your unconscious can sit with is,
what do you want to be addicted to?
That drive to seek reward and pleasure is not going away.
Nor would you want it to.
It's what gets you out of bed.
What draws you towards beauty and connection and craft?
The question is only ever toward what
shall this drive be aimed?
Your body has its own intelligence about this.
It already knows what it means to feel
genuinely well, genuinely alive,
And there are activities that produce the same neurochemicals
as substances,
but without the consequence and the death,
without the withdrawal,
without the morning after.
The best example is movement,
exertion,
the physical world meeting the body with real resistance and real reward
that also produces dopamine,
but also endorphins
and serotonin
in a form the body recognizes
as earned,
as real,
as sustainable.
An accomplishment,
The particular satisfaction
of
making that important decision,
learning that new thing,
making something with your hands,
getting something done that you've been putting off,
all of that
also releases that dopamine.
What if
you were addicted
to movement,
exercise,
walking, or accomplishment?
This is not a substitute for the thing you are leaving behind.
It is something of an entirely different order
because a substance gives the feeling of reward
without the underlying reality.
Whereas accomplishment
gives the feeling of reward
because
of the underlying reality.
The reward and the achievement
are proportionate.
And what if you are building a life where your dopamine is real,
where the feeling of reward
and the thing you have done
are connected?
I want you to create an image in your mind,
a big jar
made of glass,
maybe a glass vase.
Just imagine
every time you do something
that required
effort,
a difficult decision,
you solved a problem.
You did that thing you wanted to do.
Just imagine placing a marble
in a box next to it into the jar.
Hear it clink.
Maybe it spirals round.
Maybe it has that
bouncing sound of a glass marble and glass.
When you do the thing,
you feel good.
When you put the marble in the jar,
you feel good.
And every time you see the marbles in the jar
accumulating,
you feel good.
And I wonder
if you could imagine
six months from now,
six months of being free of
alcohol and refined sugar,
then I want you to see that jar or that big vase filled with marbles,
and then look at clues.
Maybe it's
a dog that's smiling and happy.
Maybe it's
more energy levels and better sleep.
Maybe you feel
better in your own body.
Almost like every marble is proof, proof of who you are choosing to be.
Proof that you can be addicted to things that enhance your life rather than
destroy it.
Choosing to do
difficult things
when there's every reason not to
may encourage you to put two marbles in the jar for something particularly
difficult.
And I want you to assess how you would feel about your life six months from now.
What trajectory are you on?
Where is your life taking you?
Is it better or worse
than when evenings were filled drinking wine?
If your unconscious
is now willing
to shut one door
and be very intentional
as to the new door you're opening.
Let me know by nodding your head.
That's it.
And so it's time to return.
You return with clarity.
You return with synergy,
alignment,
an identity that feels
exciting,
positive.
It feels like possibility.
So take a deep breath in through your nose,
hand out through your nose,
and wiggle your fingers and wiggle your toes.
Connect and calibrate into the here and the now
as I now count from one to 10 to awaken you.
Starting to count.
One, two, three, waking up.
Four, five, six. More alert.
Seven, eight. Open your eyes. Open your eyes.
Nine, ten. Wide awake.
Wide awake.
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