WEBVTT 00:00:00.000 --> 00:00:07.920 What's the biggest mindset shift you've seen separating the people who actually break through from the ones who stay stuck? 00:00:10.800 --> 00:00:16.015 You know, Tony's really good at saying when people say, how long does it take to quit smoking? 00:00:16.095 --> 00:00:19.615 People say, oh, it took me seven years to quit smoking. 00:00:22.255 --> 00:00:28.575 Did it really take seven years, or did it take one second? It took seven years of thinking about quitting smoking, 00:00:28.895 --> 00:00:30.410 and one second to go, 00:00:30.730 --> 00:00:33.370 enough. It's over. I'm done. 00:00:35.850 --> 00:00:47.945 There's a situation. There's a circumstance out of your control. You're in a job for fourteen years. You know it's robbing your soul. And for the last four, every morning you wake up and think to yourself, 00:00:48.265 --> 00:00:51.225 I'm done with this job. I hate it, but you still go. 00:00:53.625 --> 00:00:55.785 Two things could happen. One, 00:00:56.265 --> 00:00:59.590 you go to this job you hate and they fire you. 00:01:00.390 --> 00:01:12.790 You have no choice. Decisions have to be made. True? I have to make a decision. I have to do something different. I just got fired, and sometimes we get that blessing. Right, Amy? Where you go, that's a sign from God, the universe. I'm going to try my own thing. 00:01:13.735 --> 00:01:15.095 Sometimes 00:01:15.095 --> 00:01:16.055 decisions, 00:01:16.135 --> 00:01:25.655 if you look at the biggest ones you make, you really didn't have control of it. Yep. You're in a relationship that you're not sure is good, then you come home one day and the other person says it's over. You gotta deal with it. 00:01:26.535 --> 00:01:27.575 This path 00:01:27.815 --> 00:01:37.950 will lead me to a life is not meant for me. I think the biggest regret in life, think the worst thing that could happen to any of us is to get to the end of our life and realize we missed it. 00:01:38.830 --> 00:01:44.825 Sometimes that that brain comes in and I'm like, at the end of my life, looking back, what would I say to myself? 00:01:45.945 --> 00:01:57.900 If you got to the end of your life and you realized you didn't make that decision, you didn't shift your mindset, you didn't say enough, you didn't decide to say no, or you didn't decide to say yes Mhmm. And you missed it. 00:01:58.300 --> 00:02:02.460 And your maker played you a video of the person you could have been. 00:02:03.980 --> 00:02:14.765 What would be your number one wish? What would be your wish? If you got to end of your life and realized you played small, and your maker said to you, alright, you got one wish, what would it be? To go back and To go back. And you know what I always say? Wish granted. 00:02:18.045 --> 00:02:19.485 Wish granted. We're here. 00:02:20.130 --> 00:02:20.930 Mhmm. 00:02:20.930 --> 00:02:26.130 Let's start today. If you were there, you'd say, please let me go back. Boom. We're here. We're back. Let's go. 00:02:27.250 --> 00:02:35.395 As a kid, I remember, I think I heard that in church. It's like, what are you doing when no one's watching? And it's so true. I mean, that follows you throughout your whole life. 00:02:38.035 --> 00:02:40.195 It's it's the the the is Yes. 00:02:42.035 --> 00:03:02.475 Right? If you think about it, you and I have talked about this. When people say their values or their character, let's use the word character. Character is really just who we are when no one's watching. Right? If you're on social media and you're like, I love my wife. You're amazing. Mhmm. But then I'm looking at DMs on the side in my Instagram of other pretty girls, then I'm full of crap. Mhmm. Right? Because nobody's watching. 00:03:04.875 --> 00:03:16.920 Right? If I say, I love my partner Tony Robbins, and behind his back, I'm making side deals, then I'm really the side deal guy, or I'm really the guy that would be unfaithful. Like, we we really are. Our character is who we are when no one watching. 00:03:17.640 --> 00:03:18.760 Question two. 00:03:19.080 --> 00:03:22.360 How do you know the difference between pushing through resistance 00:03:22.840 --> 00:03:27.320 and knowing it's time to pivot and start something new? There is this fine balance 00:03:27.560 --> 00:03:32.285 of quitting too soon. Sometimes we don't realize that we don't recognize 00:03:32.285 --> 00:03:33.405 the joy 00:03:33.885 --> 00:03:37.725 of the lessons we learn from it from going deeper, 00:03:37.965 --> 00:03:41.325 even in something we don't like. How you do one thing is how you do everything. 00:03:43.270 --> 00:03:47.990 But what if you said, instead of I I shouldn't be here, I'm supposed to be doing this. 00:03:48.710 --> 00:03:50.790 What if your brain said, oh, 00:03:51.030 --> 00:03:55.750 this is just part of the journey. I have to do this in order to get there. 00:03:59.885 --> 00:04:03.645 If you think to yourself, I'm not here forever, but while I'm here, 00:04:03.885 --> 00:04:11.885 I'm gonna make everybody around me sick because I'm gonna love what I do. I'm gonna kick ass what I do. And when I'm at the peak of this, I'm gonna bail and go do my own thing. 00:04:14.070 --> 00:04:18.310 If you're torturing yourself year after year of hating it, then just give yourself a deadline. 00:04:18.630 --> 00:04:40.765 Right? I'm in this career that I don't like, or I'm in this relationship I don't like, and just say, hey, I'm going all in for six months. I'm gonna make it look like I like, they're not not gonna recognize me at my job because I'm gonna come in early, I'm gonna light it up, but I'm only here for six months. And in that six months, I'm gonna skip these five things, and I'm gonna spend the time launching my coaching program, or getting started with this new business, 00:04:41.790 --> 00:04:50.190 clients, or getting my social media to go. And in six months from today, it's over. It's done. It's not a dabble. It's a commitment. Listen, I didn't quit. 00:04:50.590 --> 00:05:03.675 I started with cars. I didn't quit doing cars until my real estate business made me more than the car business did. Then I quit, got out of the painting. Then I started educating people on how to invest in property like I do. I didn't quit. 00:05:03.995 --> 00:05:13.250 I never quit investing, but I didn't I didn't quit it being my full time, and I didn't go all in on teaching people until the teaching business made more than the real estate business. 00:05:17.410 --> 00:05:26.725 Okay. Number three. Is there a simple way someone can honestly evaluate whether what they're doing is actually moving them forward or they're just or just keeping them busy? 00:05:27.845 --> 00:05:28.805 You 00:05:28.805 --> 00:05:30.165 have to measure. 00:05:30.245 --> 00:05:39.680 You have to keep score. Where was I three months ago? Where was I three weeks ago? And am I moving forward? Am I am I making progress? Doesn't mean not perfection, progress. 00:05:41.120 --> 00:05:44.880 You have to measure what actually moves the needle. Don't measure 00:05:45.280 --> 00:05:46.080 work. 00:05:46.400 --> 00:05:48.080 Measure productivity 00:05:48.160 --> 00:05:50.880 and moving towards the goal that you want. 00:05:51.840 --> 00:05:55.445 You might be great at creating your coaching curriculum. 00:05:55.525 --> 00:06:07.765 You might be great and go, I built the most beautiful thing and the most beautiful logo, and I have my 12 session coaching program. I went back and forth with Gigi or Chad or Claude. I dialed it in. It's freaking amazing. 00:06:07.925 --> 00:06:09.740 I am making progress. 00:06:10.300 --> 00:06:21.500 True. But when that's done, where's the part that you're holding back on? Letting people you know just start telling everybody that you are a coach now and you wanna do it. Starting to put on your social media. 00:06:24.335 --> 00:06:38.670 You gotta measure the uncomfortable because sometimes our brain just goes, well, I built the curriculum. I built the site. I did the thing. I did that thing. I know my ideal client. I wanna do the thing. It's like, yeah. But did you put did you reach out anybody, make any calls, try to set an appointment to get your first hold 00:06:40.670 --> 00:06:44.350 on a second. Right? You have to measure those things. 00:06:45.870 --> 00:06:48.750 You gotta know if you're winning or losing, and you gotta measure 00:06:49.185 --> 00:06:51.985 especially the areas that you've been hesitant on. 00:06:52.705 --> 00:06:55.025 We're all uncomfortable when something is new. 00:06:55.505 --> 00:06:58.065 It's okay to be uncomfortable. Just do the stuff 00:06:58.385 --> 00:06:59.745 that you've been putting off. 00:07:01.105 --> 00:07:09.480 Okay. Number four. What are you watching people make way too complicated that if they just simplified it, it would completely change their results? 00:07:10.920 --> 00:07:22.975 Our brains love to make things complicated. Looking at all of it is what freaks you out. Like, I if I use if I use AI as an example, oh my god. If you go online for five minutes, click on one 00:07:23.295 --> 00:07:24.575 AI training, 00:07:24.735 --> 00:07:29.455 and then your algorithm knows that you clicked on one. Oh my goodness. 00:07:29.535 --> 00:07:31.215 You will get served 00:07:31.695 --> 00:07:36.450 a gazillion of them, and everyone makes you feel like you're stupid, fall behind, 00:07:36.770 --> 00:07:41.010 never gonna catch up. I'm too old for this stuff. How does this work? I didn't grow up with technology. 00:07:41.250 --> 00:07:57.545 Right? It's like, you all you gotta do is get a Mac mini and use Clawbot, and then it does the thing, and then you see all these breakdowns, and you plug it into your workflow. It works like six people. You're not doing it, you're dumb. If you are, you're cool. And you're like Yeah. Ah. And you start thinking of all these things you gotta do with AI, and it becomes so overwhelming. 00:07:59.625 --> 00:08:01.065 Like anything in life, 00:08:01.385 --> 00:08:03.630 chunk it down one clear path, 00:08:04.030 --> 00:08:07.150 one step at a time, and then just overcome 00:08:07.230 --> 00:08:08.910 one constraint 00:08:08.990 --> 00:08:09.950 at a time. 00:08:12.830 --> 00:08:39.940 One constraint at a time, one problem, one thing you have to overcome at a time. So if if you know I wanna get to, you know, it's kaizen, one step at a time. You know the end result, but you can't look at all of it at the same time. You know, it's why New Year's resolutions don't work. I'm gonna stop drinking soda. I'm gonna stop eating sugar. I'm gonna eat three good meals a day. I'm gonna increase my protein. I'm gonna work out five days a week. You look at all of it. By week two, you're like, I can't do all this shit. Give me a piece of bread and soda, please. But what if you just said, January. 00:08:41.300 --> 00:08:42.180 January. 00:08:42.340 --> 00:08:43.700 I'm gonna walk every other day. 00:08:44.505 --> 00:08:45.305 That's it. 00:08:48.105 --> 00:08:49.225 February, 00:08:49.225 --> 00:08:50.825 I'm gonna walk every other day, 00:08:51.305 --> 00:08:52.745 and I'm cutting out bread. 00:08:53.705 --> 00:08:57.225 March, no bread, no sugar, walk every day. 00:08:57.785 --> 00:08:58.585 April, 00:08:59.385 --> 00:09:04.240 waits three days a week. So one piece at a time, one constraint at a time. 00:09:07.280 --> 00:09:14.000 Okay. What are the two or three things you would tell them to go all in right now? We must truly 00:09:14.000 --> 00:09:14.960 identify 00:09:14.960 --> 00:09:15.520 the goal. 00:09:16.415 --> 00:09:23.375 If you said, hey, I want ninety days, I think most of our brains say, what do I need to do for the next ninety days? 00:09:24.175 --> 00:09:33.380 If I look what to do, because there's so much going on in our lives. So the thing I would do is pick one thing k. And then identify that goal down to the specifics. 00:09:34.820 --> 00:09:37.220 So before you write the how, 00:09:37.860 --> 00:09:41.940 you're gonna write two chapters, but more clarity. What what two chapters are you gonna write? 00:09:42.575 --> 00:09:48.255 What is the outcome of those two chapters? How are people gonna feel after they read these two chapters? 00:09:49.375 --> 00:10:11.545 I wanna be so proud of these chapters that they're the two best chapters I've ever written in my entire life. Mhmm. I'm just you know, and you hear me say that fuzzy targets don't get hit. Wanna I write two chapters. So what does that mean? Is it the first two, the last two, the middle two? Where are they gonna be in sequence? Then once you have this big goal that you stare at, the end in mind, then reverse engineer what you have to accomplish to make that happen. 00:10:12.585 --> 00:10:15.065 So I realized we did this unconsciously 00:10:15.065 --> 00:10:22.585 is you gotta give somebody a reason why they need to learn it in the first place deeper than just knowing it or just deeper than just being better at at business. 00:10:24.390 --> 00:10:25.670 Yes. Number two, 00:10:25.910 --> 00:10:28.230 once you have and embrace a purpose, 00:10:28.870 --> 00:10:30.390 you need to overcome fear. 00:10:31.110 --> 00:10:34.950 Is there a fear of going live and somebody judging you? 00:10:35.590 --> 00:10:43.485 Is there a fear of screwing up? Oh my god. When I get my first client in the first coaching session, they think I'm stupid. They think I'm crazy. Fear. 00:10:43.645 --> 00:10:45.005 When it comes to AI. 00:10:45.085 --> 00:10:48.925 Oh my god. What if AI gets all the codes and starts World War three? 00:10:49.565 --> 00:10:51.405 But when you have a deep enough purpose, 00:10:51.920 --> 00:10:53.600 we can transform 00:10:53.600 --> 00:10:58.240 that fear because you know where fear comes from? Just deciding what the meaning is. 00:10:59.440 --> 00:11:10.495 If AI is the thing that could take your job and end the world, do you really wanna learn it? But what if you said, humans, as humans, we've invented a lot, and I'm going to have faith it's going go in the right direction. 00:11:13.775 --> 00:11:28.620 You know they predict AI, especially when it comes to quantum AI, will cure cancer in the next three years because it's like having a gazillion, a million doctors working twenty four hours a day, seven days a week to solve it. We are gonna have so many medical breakthroughs. 00:11:28.620 --> 00:11:31.260 We are gonna cure my kid's allergies. 00:11:31.260 --> 00:11:34.605 All those things are coming. So I would just rather focus on 00:11:35.005 --> 00:11:40.605 AI can make me more human because it can do the stuff I don't wanna do so I can spend more time with her and the kids. It's 00:11:40.605 --> 00:11:50.320 gonna help cure cancer, and I think we're smart enough as humans that we'll put boundaries on it. I don't know if that's gonna come, but if I think about that, then I lose the fear and I wanna move forward. True? 00:11:51.920 --> 00:11:58.240 I'm just gonna think AI is gonna shift my life, and it's gonna make everybody else better. Then the fear is gone. Then we get to the third part. 00:11:59.765 --> 00:12:01.445 When you have a deep enough purpose, 00:12:01.925 --> 00:12:10.405 and you're not scared, and then you realize if I don't change, you know, that that saying if I'm not climbing, I'm sliding. Yep. If I don't change, there's no way I can be significant. 00:12:10.740 --> 00:12:18.180 There's no way I can impact other people's lives. There's no way I can turn this inner passion into something bigger. Change is scary, 00:12:18.420 --> 00:12:21.540 but I'm gonna model proven practices. I'm gonna take one step at a time. 00:12:25.215 --> 00:12:32.815 So if you think about that, my purpose is big enough. I shift the fear, and now I'm embracing change, turning resistance into momentum. 00:12:32.815 --> 00:12:35.935 You gotta cut through the overwhelm and be able to see one 00:12:36.130 --> 00:12:42.610 straight line, one focus. If you're helping people find romance again, find intimacy, 00:12:42.770 --> 00:12:43.810 find themselves, 00:12:44.130 --> 00:12:49.882 get over an illness, Whatever it is, you gotta have that one path with a one big outcome.