So there's a thought that I've been toying with lately. And,
honestly,
the more that I think about it, the more that I think most people
have this completely backwards.
The thought is
when someone feels stuck, and I'm in a very unique position, I see this a lot as a physician,
when they feel like they're super behind
or not making progress,
the first thing that people do is add something,
a new habit, a new system,
something new that they read about, some new goals or structure that they saw in a video on YouTube,
more hyperoptimization.
I can't tell you how often I see this, and it seems like the best thought.
I get it. That
feels
like you're doing it the right way, like you're being much more serious about moving forward. But, again, here's what I keep seeing, and I see this with patients. I see this with the people that I work with as clients. I have lived this myself. Trust me. I'm not trying to be a hypocrite here. I've been there many times.
The people
who actually progress and move forward over time, like,
genuinely succeed
year after year,
have less going on, not more.
They have fewer commitments. They have fewer
active goals at the same time, and we're gonna get into that in a minute,
yet somehow they get significantly more done. Because I used to be over here in that group that just had
the biggest plate of all time, and I thought that adding was the only move to be more successful because you see people, oh, just outwork the others. Just do this. Do that.
I wanted to understand it because it was bothering me that I didn't.
And now I'm gonna walk you through what I figured out. You are really gonna wanna stay for this because what I'm about to cover is what's actually happening in your brain when you have way too many things happening at once,
why adding more almost always backfires,
and then what you can actually do about it. I'm going to move through this efficiently
because I respect your time. This doesn't have to be a thirty minute video. I may talk fast at times,
but just rewatch it if you need to or slow it down. Stay with me because the practical part at the end is going to be incredibly useful in your life. So let's start simply. Let's start by kinda putting it into more computer terms because that'll make sense for people. Your brain is running background processes constantly.
I mean that literally. Okay? Every unfinished commitment, every goal you've set that you haven't touched,
everything on your to do list that you're going to get to,
been there. Those are all just
open background apps running,
and they don't just sit there not taking any cognitive load waiting for you to open them again. They're running in the background all the time. They're taking up cognitive space, burning through your mental energy whether you're aware of that or not.
And there's good research on this. Unresolved decisions actually drain more cognitive energy than unfinished task,
meaning that the things you keep pushing off,
that goal that you haven't really started, but that habit you've told yourself you're gonna do, that is costing you a lot more mental bandwidth than if you just decided to not do it at all. The point is is you just decided not to do it at all, you would have at least closed that background task. Does that make sense?
When you have 15 things that you're technically working on,
your brain isn't just carrying 15 things when you sit down to focus and work.
It's carrying 15 things all the time.
That cognitive
tax and load
is constant,
and what you end up with is a constant low grade exhaustion.
I'm sure that resonated.
This is also really hard for people to trace back to the cause. And, honestly,
this is something that
I can kind of feel out in the room with patients sometimes when I'm talking to them.
But in a doctor patient setting, it's oftentimes
I find it difficult at least to trace that back to the root cause as well.
This is really something that I'm making a video about because I think it's something that's best that you work through yourself.
But a good way, I think, to describe this feeling is like you sit down to do one thing, but you already feel worn out before you've even started.
Or maybe you get worn out within a few minutes. A lot of people think that this feeling of burnout that they feel is because they're lazy, but oftentimes,
I don't really think that's the case.
You just have way too much going on. You've been running way too many things at the same time for too long,
and it feels like nothing's moving. So here's the part that really surprised me the more I looked into this. The research on goals is pretty clear that having multiple competing goals,
things that require the same limited resources, your time, attention, your mental energy, this actually reduces performance.
When people are given quantity goals and quality goals at the same time,
more often than not, they sacrifice
quality for quantity.
People gravitate towards whatever feels completable rather than whatever actually matters.
And I see this a lot. I've made videos on how to set up a to do list, not just putting a million things on there to hit that dopamine hit every time. It's this similar concept.
People will hunt for easy wins, and the important stuff just gets pushed back and deferred. This is why I say that not everything on your list needs to be a priority. There's also some interesting research across organizations showing that companies with fewer strategic priorities
significantly outperformed those with a bunch of them. And listen.
I know you're not a growing company,
but I feel like the same dynamic plays out individually in most people every single day. When you're trying to run 10 things at the same time, you pretty much make process on everything but finish nothing or at least not the things that you should. So I know what you're probably thinking. I've heard the do less advice before,
particularly from this channel,
and it always feels
like they're telling me to be lazy. So let's address that directly because that is not what I'm saying at all. I wanna make sure I can articulate this correctly,
but
adding things
feels
like the effort. It feels like you're taking the problem seriously.
Subtracting something
gives you no feedback.
There's no moment of satisfaction when you remove a goal from your list. And if you spend any time on social media, which ironically is the context which most people are consuming self improvement content,
including this one,
the culture
there
rewards
this very visible effort.
The perfect morning routine,
reading a book a day or, like, five. I literally saw a video about someone who's like, I read seven books a day. No. You don't. But it rewards a growing list of things that you're working on. But you have to keep in mind, so many of the people saying that actually have a pretty small to do list themselves.
They are being rewarded
for looking good by telling you they're reading seven books a day.
That's, like, their one thing. The problem is doing less
doesn't look very ambitious
when it's usually the much more ambitious move because it's going to get you a lot further. The people that I have watched execute well over long stretches of time, and I mean really
freaking execute. Okay? Not just talk about it or post about it.
They protect
few things with significant intensity.
And I've adopted this in my life over the past year,
and my goodness has my life improved
astronomically.
They're not doing less because they're less serious than others.
They're doing it because putting a focused effort
compiles
way more over a longer period of time than this scattered fizzling out effort that's much more performative.
One thing done and then the next after the other consistently
at a nice depth. I wanna add that part. I mean, you really do need to commit.
This drastically changes things. 10 things done at a very surface level that don't move the needle forward
indefinitely
if you want
will just
make you feel busy and really not get you where you wanna be. We have turned ourselves
into
robots
that are just getting through tasks.
That is not what you were put on this earth to do. I don't have the answer to that probably,
but it's not that. I can confidently say that. Invest in things passionately in your life,
and your enjoyment will go up astronomically.
I actually just released a video on this about four things that I think are very important if you do want a goal, a target to aim for. It might be worth watching. I'll make sure it's at the end of this video.
You might really, really find a target here based on this conversation.
Alright. So let's get to the practical piece, and thank you for still being with me here. Your attention span is better than about 99%
of the population at this point, so drop a comment if you're still here. I'm really curious. Okay. So I actually do want you to try this, though. Okay? This is gonna be a really good exercise.
Write down everything that you're currently doing, every habit, every goal, every system, commitment that you've made to yourself. Don't filter it out. Just get it out on paper or a notes list or something. Then I want you to ask yourself,
in the last thirty days,
which of these have I done consistently?
Circle those or put a star next to Then ask,
of the things that I have actually done,
which ones have produced something real?
Better energy,
better output,
more happiness,
better health,
something
you can actually point to.
Circle those or put a star next to it. What's left after that second filter there?
That is probably what you should pay attention to and put some extra focus on.
Everything else,
you are paying a cognitive tax without any return. I went through a stretch during training in medical school and part of residency
where
I was trying to optimize everything at once. Look. You were around
superhumans.
We are in this field. Okay? Some of these people are absolutely
amazing.
They're just
leaps and bounds in productivity productivity above what you think a human is even capable of. And you're like, oh my gosh. I've gotta match that.
But priorities are different for different people. Okay? I was sleep tracking, nutrition logging, reading goals out loud. I was doing two workout protocols,
meditation,
journaling,
social media, and optimizing that to a t,
so much more. And I was doing all of it at
maybe,
at best, 40%.
My schedule was so intense and so loaded.
I hardly had any social life. I acted like I did. But the entire time I was with other people, I was thinking about the next post I was gonna make, how I can optimize this, what I'm doing here, how this is a waste of my time, horrible way to live. I was taking nuggets that I was reading from books every single day and trying to implement them into my life pretty much every day, making the list longer and longer of things to do. This got so bad that I actually passed out in clinic one day from exhaustion.
Quite a wake up call. I'm trying to stop you before you get there. And I know many of you watching this video aren't near as extreme,
but I do still think the principles really resonate. Once I cut back to two to three things that actually moved the needle for me, training consistently,
protecting my sleep,
not touching my phone in the morning, my output
went up drastically
because I stopped spending energy managing systems
that were way the heck too complex to actually maintain. The goal isn't to build the most impressive looking routine unless you're a social media influencer,
But the goal is to find the few things that genuinely move your life forward
and protect those at all cost.
That is what it actually looks like from the outside when someone is doing well.
It might be boring,
but it's simple and it works. So before you look for something else to add, and I know the temptation,
believe me, I do,
ask what you can remove first.
What's on your plate right now that isn't producing anything meaningful?
What are you holding on to
out of guilt
rather than because it's working for you?
What would actually happen if you just stopped?
Those questions alone can make more of a difference in your life than almost anything else. Now I did mention a lot of research here. And as always, when I mention research like this, I will post the link to the articles in the description. Check them out if you want. And if you wanna go much further and deeper than this video, because I can only post so much information in a YouTube video at this point,
if you want the full blueprint, the step by step version of how I stripped things back and rebuilt from the ground up,
That is in my book.
It took me three years to get this to you. I worked tirelessly on it. It is fully comprehensive across all aspects of your life. It is called from doll to doctor,
how I rewired my brain and body for success and how you can too.
This is everything that I wish I had when I was struggling in the thick of it,
going from tutoring
seven days a week to try to get through school
and being behind so many of my peers to
a medical doctor with multiple master's degrees, which one of which I got simultaneously while I was in medical school, thriving social media career, relationships,
and a beautiful life. I say that
because I deeply wish I had this guide,
and that is why I wrote it for you. I will link to the top of the description. I truly hope it helps. And I wanna meet people with where they're at. That's why I offer things like this. I do have a free thirty day blueprint that I'll also link in the description.
Truly, I'm trying to make health accessible.
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