So
did you know
that if you learn to talk better,
you will do better?
In fact,
the fastest,
best, and most
thorough way to level up your life is level up your ability to communicate.
The quality
of your life
is always going to be
in direct correlation to the quality of your communication.
Now, I talk about communication, you just think I'm talking about talking to people. Right? That's the first thing that comes to your mind, talking to people. That's only one
aspect of communication. See, we have internal communication, the things I say to myself.
We have external communication.
And our external communication has two directions. It's our there's our vertical
external communication,
that communication between us and God. And then there's our horizontal external communication, our communication between us and others. And most recently, our external communication between us and technology.
And or I should say,
more impactfully recently,
our external communication between us and technology.
And and
I remember
back in the eighties
when
I went to visit this church in Texas,
and I heard the pastor speak.
And I thought,
like, I don't know if I thought any of these words, but I remember feeling like, why is this so painful for me?
It
it seems like the people who have the least to say take the longest not to say it. And
one of the things I noticed about this particular preacher was
his
most
prolific description
of everything
was the word thing. Well, you gotta do that thing.
Make sure and I was like I was like, surely you can find another word.
But apparently,
he couldn't.
And
when I think about people
I had a conversation with a gentleman the other day,
and
I noticed that he mumbled a lot. And I thought, this is really a fascinating
way
to communicate. It's kind of like mumbling is kind of like
non
committed
verbal expression.
Like, I don't wanna say this too clearly.
I don't wanna enunciate and pronounce this, pronunciate these words too clearly because then I might have to take responsibility for them. Like I don't I don't really know what was going on, but I was like, why does this guy keep mumbling? It's so fascinating.
And then,
you hear some people communicate,
and
some are clearly intelligent, others clearly not so much.
And
they use a lot of profanity.
And I'm I'm like, this is fascinating.
It's fascinating to me
that you use non adjectives
to attempt to describe
what you mean,
and you think you're emphasizing something, but what you're really emphasizing is a lack of clarity. Yes. Because
the words that you're using are not describing anything that you're talking about
when you use profanity.
Like it's an expletive, but it's not an explanation.
And it's an expletive, but it's not an exclamation.
It's just an expletive.
It's it's
it's a demonstration
of verbal
laziness.
I
know there are people who disagree with me, but they would only disagree with me because they do it.
They wouldn't disagree with me because they thought about it. Because if they thought about it, they wouldn't do it.
Like, if you like, if anybody who uses profanity thought about
the negative effects of profanity, they wouldn't use it. In fact, anybody who uses negative
words
on rinse and repeat of any kind, not just profanity,
if they understood the negative impact on their life, they wouldn't use them. Like, even words like try and maybe. And I know people think, well, try is not that bad.
Really?
Like, every every time somebody says, well, is what I'm trying to do. I just I I
I have I have I have like this visceral physical reaction,
and I do everything inside of myself
to to resist
showing it on the outside.
I pull up all of my internal resources to not have a,
like, a reaction to the word try. Because there's no such thing
what I'm trying to do. I'm not trying to do anything. I'm doing it
or I'm not doing it. Now when I do it, it might do what I expected it to do.
And it might not do what I expected it to do, but I didn't try to do it. I did it.
It just didn't do what I thought it would do
when I decided I was gonna do it. Does that make sense? Yes. And and so,
I
Long time ago, Tony Robbins, I heard in one of his original cassette
tapes back in the nineties. Okay? He said, if you wanna model any form of human excellence,
you have to find somebody who's really good at the thing that you desire to be good at, and you have to model three things.
And those three things are, you find that person, you model their belief systems,
you model their
physiology, and you model their mental syntax.
And he said, model their belief systems. Well,
what is a belief anyway?
Think about that. What's a belief? What is a belief system?
A belief
is a story
that you tell yourself about an expected outcome. Is that right? Right? A belief is a story that you tell yourself about an expected outcome.
And so
most people, when they tell themselves stories about expected outcomes, they tell themselves
unfavorable stories.
And then wonder why they get undesirable outcomes.
I don't like, do you understand
that if you just got better at communicating with yourself, the stories you tell yourself
as you are creating and perpetuating your beliefs, if you just got better at that part of your life,
every other part of your life will get better.
Positive
thinking
doesn't
necessarily
help you achieve everything,
but it does necessarily
help you achieve everything better than negative thinking does.
And so you gotta learn to talk better. You gotta learn to talk better when you talk to yourself. You gotta learn how to stop calling yourself names. Like, oh, you're so stupid. Oh, you're such an idiot. Oh, I can't believe you're such a loser. Like, you like, there's there's no good that can come out of talking to yourself that way.
I listen to people talk to themselves, and I think to myself, if you had other friends who talk to you the way you talk to you, you wouldn't let them be your friend.
And so we we are so we
are so
either lazy with language or unintentional with language. What would happen
if you became
hyper
intentional
about every thought you think and every belief you have and every story you tell yourself, especially stories you tell yourself about yourself and your chances? What would happen if you leveled that up? You'd
talk better, you'd do better.
Even if I did believe something wasn't gonna work out for me, I wouldn't claim it.
I'm not talking about name it and claim it, blab it and grab it, say it. No. I'm not talking about that. I'm talking about
I'm talking about
empowering, using your words to empower your expectations.
Because
expectation
is your greatest superpower as a human being whether you know it or not. Yeshua himself said, he said, if you can believe,
all things
are possible to him that believes.
Now, all things are possible.
I I get it, but that doesn't mean every single solitary thing. Right? You're not gonna jump off the Empire State Building and land on your feet. I mean if you do,
pretty much your feet and everything else is gonna hurt.
But all things are possible means all types, all manner, all kinds of things are possible
that are not possible if you don't believe.
Okay.
So I'm gonna strengthen my internal communication.
I'm going to resist
the temptation
to put the past
on repeat
and expect
my past experiences as my future expectations.
I'm gonna I'm gonna resist that temptation.
As I was thinking about why do people,
most people have such disempowered expectations?
Why are why are most people so much better at expecting the worst
than they are at expecting the best? Is that a good question? Yes. And
I think most people are so much better at expecting the worst than they are expecting the best because
they know exactly
what the worst feels like, or at least the worst they felt feels like. They know
what it's like
when they go through pain and some like pain is an amplifier.
Right? When you go through something that's difficult and it's really, really painful for you, it amplifies
the feeling. And feelings are
the drivers of humanity.
Like human beings are singularly motivated.
And by that I mean, people do things for one reason and one reason only. What's that reason? Because they feel like it.
What if
what if the real reason that you procrastinate is not because you're a procrastinator?
What if the real reason you procrastinate is not because you have a procrastination problem? Because I've discovered that nobody has a procrastination problem.
Procrastination is nobody's problem. Procrastination is a symptom of a problem. What's the problem? The problem is anxiety.
What is anxiety? Anxiety
is that feeling I get when I'm expecting an unfavorable outcome.
Do you understand?
Have you ever have you ever walked up to a chair and got ready to sit down and then you noticed like one of the legs was wobbly?
You wouldn't let yourself sit down in that chair, would you? No.
You wouldn't let yourself sit down in that chair. Why? Because your expectation is this chair won't hold me, so you don't put all your weight down. Do you understand that when you look at a scenario
and the scenario looks unstable,
it doesn't let you put your subconscious mind will not let you put your weight in that scenario.
Are y'all tracking? Yes. And
so what I have to do is I have to learn how
to examine. First of all, I don't wanna put my weight down in a situation that won't hold me.
It's kinda like kinda like when when I I hated flying. You say, Marian, what does hated flying mean? It means I was scared.
Right? I was like I was like, this doesn't make sense. This is so dumb. Every time I got on a plane, I this is so dumb.
This thing weighs hundreds of thousands of pounds, and we're all up here in this tube acting like this is normal. And people are sleeping, and I'm looking at everybody. I'm like, are you all insane?
Absolutely. I was scared.
And I got on a plane, I never put all my weight down. I'm
locked I'm locked in.
Somebody tapped me on my shoulder. Hey, bro. You know that chair is on this plane too. Why you messing with me, man?
Right? And so so so like I hated flying because I was scared because it didn't make sense. So my expectation was, since it didn't make
plane weighs more than a city bus.
You've been flying around out there. You've seen other planes in the sky while you've been flying around. Right? Have you ever seen a city bus in the sky? No.
This don't make sense. I've
never even seen any cars up there.
It's making less and less sense by the I've not seen a stinking bicycle in there.
And this seven fifty seven that weighs 250,000
pounds is
40,000 feet in the air going 500 miles an hour, and everybody's acting like it makes sense. Oh,
right?
So my anxiety
would not allow me to relax every time there was a sound, a bump, and Right.
Didn't help that I watched a movie one time about that flight that was in Hawaii when the fuselage came off. Did anybody ever see that? It was so like, do not watch plane crash movies. I know. I'm not watching a movie about a plane crash. I'm not doing it. I spend too much time on planes to even think about that. Right?
So anyway,
so so I said, this is this is not healthy, Myron.
This is not healthy for you to be scared
every time you get on a plane, because you get on way too many planes, bro. This is not good.
I gotta fix this.
Okay. How you gonna fix it?
I'm gonna take flying lessons.
Gotta take flying lessons. I
can get on a plane now, fall asleep before it takes off,
and wake up after it lands.
Wow.
Why? Because it makes sense. So
what I did was, I educated myself at a higher level
by learning some principles that gave me the ability to tell myself a better story. In
fact, did you know that planes
are designed to fly,
and that design is so good that if a hurricane or a tornado is coming to an area, they have to remove the planes because the planes will fly with that much wind even if nobody's on them. Wow.
It's easier for a plane to fly
than it is for it to stay on the ground. In fact, if you leave a plane on the ground too much and it doesn't fly, the plane will eventually become worthless because of lack of use. Wow.
So, what did I do? I changed the story. Changed the story. When I changed the story, changed my belief. Ain't scared no more. In fact, I was I was the co pilot on a twin engine
prompt jet from
Tampa,
or from Lakeland to The Bahamas.
It was like two and a half hour flight. And I'm like, I got my I got my
headset on, my Bose my Bose headset on, and I'm I'm looking at the avionics, and I'm adjusting the trim, and I'm doing all the stuff the pilots tell me to do. We
we had to fly around storms and stuff. It was so cool.
This was from a guy who used to get on a plane and not put all his weight down.
Right?
So what am I telling you? I'm telling you I have to improve you have to improve your internal communication.
You have to improve your vertical communication
from the standpoint
that
this will change your life.
When
God has said something in scripture,
let that be the wrap. Let that be the end of it.
Just act as if it's true. The most fascinating
thing that I've observed in my life
in attending church and watching people who attend church is they feel real good about it while they're there, and do absolutely nothing about it when they leave. Blows
my mind.
People who read the bible
every day and apply,
apparently none of it,
or very little.
Like, they they give up a couple of things and take on a couple of things right after they come to Christ, and then what happens? After that, they're like, okay, I'm there. There is no there there.
That's
the point.
And so,
my internal my internal my vertical communication with God improves
when God
gives me an objective, and I line up my life with that objective. And I realize that when I'm praying and I'm talking to God,
I am not talking to God to get him to do my thing.
I'm talking to God to get me in tune with him so I can do his thing.
Changes the game.
It changes the game completely.
And then when I do that, my external communication
changes.
The quality
of your life
is gonna be in direct proportion to the quality of the communications you have with other people.
Because it's the communications that you have with other people that help you find a mate. It's the communications that you have with other people that help you raise responsible children. It's the communications that you have with other people that help you get a job if you want a job. It's the communications you have with other people that give you the ability to hire employees if you need delegation.
And the communication that you have with other people is what you is required for you to acquire business partners, and clients,
and business relationships of all kinds. Your ability to verbalize
a message
that shows the people you're talking to, what they get out of engaging with you, is gonna determine
the quality of your life. And and so, it's it's amazing.
The best time to think about what you're gonna get out of an a conversation
or an interaction is before the interaction starts.
Once the interaction starts, you have to make it all about them.
And you have to figure out before you engage with them, how you making it all about them is gonna be beneficial to them and beneficial to you. You have to figure it out before you engage in the conversation. And most people are terrible at that. It's quite
fascinating.
I I I I've often thought,
you know, this person had this really great idea. Maybe they're an inventor. Maybe they're a software developer. Maybe they're an author, and they're really, really good at coming up with a solution.
And then
they start talking to people about it,
and when you hear them talk about it, it's horrible.
Like, how could you take this beautiful thing and make it that ugly?
Well, what happens
is one of two things.
Either they fall in love with the trinkets that they've invented,
or the templates that they've designed,
or they fall in love with
the amount of time they put into becoming the expert.
So they think that the other person is going to fall in love with spending time with them, so they think time with them is the value of their offer.
Or
the other mistake they make is they realize that they've created something so good that they're gonna get paid a lot of money. And so now, instead of thinking about the transformation that they've created for other people, when they're talking to other people, they're thinking about the transaction, and they're not thinking about that person's transformation.
And so as soon as they realize they're getting paid, they mess up the story.
It's
so fascinating.
And so what you've gotta learn how to do is you gotta learn how to communicate with other people in such a way
that shows them
the value that they get from engaging with you,
while realizing and simultaneously
not caring.
I shouldn't say not caring.
Simultaneously
not being focused on the value that you get from that interaction.
It's really challenging to do, especially if you don't understand that it's the thing that you need to do in order to make the thing that you're working on do the thing that you intended to do when you started working on it. It's
so easy to get distracted
by the minutiae. It's so easy. No wonder most people are terrible. Which means, by the way though, which means most people are terrible at doing all this stuff I'm talking about. Which means if you get good at it, you'll be one of the best in the world. Wow.
This is why,
like, if you talk better, you do better. Now,
here's the latest place I realized this.
Artificial intelligence. Your
ability
to leverage AI to the fullest
is gonna be in direct proportion
to your ability to describe
exactly the outcome you desire.
And then challenge
the outputs that the AI gives you with more and better articulation.
Your
ability to communicate with AI is gonna determine
whether or not AI takes you along for the ride
or whether you get left behind.
Period.
So,
Myron,
I get all of that.
What's the best way for me to level up my communication? There are two things.
Here's the good thing about two.
All of us can count to two,
and all of us can remember two things. Now, aren't you glad I didn't say 200?
Not that you can't count to 200, but you it might be a little bit of a challenge for you to remember 200 things.
So two things.
Read more
well written
good books
with good ideas. Read more.
Number two.
Write more.
Write more what, Myron? When you're reading books
and you're listening to videos like this one right here,
and you're having conversations with intelligent people,
and they say something in those books, on those videos, in that conversation that really resonates with you, don't write down what they said.
Write down what you thought of as a result of what they said.
That will be your unique
content
that levels up your life
for the rest of your life.
Hope this video helps you. Talk better, do better. Level up your life by leveling up your communication. We'll see you in the next video. Peace out, Cub Scout.