WEBVTT 00:00:00.480 --> 00:00:01.120 So 00:00:02.080 --> 00:00:03.120 did you know 00:00:04.160 --> 00:00:05.920 that if you learn to talk better, 00:00:06.720 --> 00:00:07.840 you will do better? 00:00:08.960 --> 00:00:09.840 In fact, 00:00:10.080 --> 00:00:11.360 the fastest, 00:00:11.440 --> 00:00:13.760 best, and most 00:00:13.225 --> 00:00:17.385 thorough way to level up your life is level up your ability to communicate. 00:00:18.185 --> 00:00:19.305 The quality 00:00:19.545 --> 00:00:20.665 of your life 00:00:21.945 --> 00:00:23.785 is always going to be 00:00:24.345 --> 00:00:28.320 in direct correlation to the quality of your communication. 00:00:28.560 --> 00:00:35.920 Now, I talk about communication, you just think I'm talking about talking to people. Right? That's the first thing that comes to your mind, talking to people. That's only one 00:00:36.160 --> 00:00:40.640 aspect of communication. See, we have internal communication, the things I say to myself. 00:00:41.200 --> 00:00:43.775 We have external communication. 00:00:43.935 --> 00:00:47.775 And our external communication has two directions. It's our there's our vertical 00:00:47.935 --> 00:00:49.375 external communication, 00:00:49.535 --> 00:01:00.870 that communication between us and God. And then there's our horizontal external communication, our communication between us and others. And most recently, our external communication between us and technology. 00:01:01.430 --> 00:01:02.870 And or I should say, 00:01:04.070 --> 00:01:05.990 more impactfully recently, 00:01:06.230 --> 00:01:09.670 our external communication between us and technology. 00:01:09.830 --> 00:01:10.630 And and 00:01:11.245 --> 00:01:12.285 I remember 00:01:13.805 --> 00:01:15.165 back in the eighties 00:01:15.645 --> 00:01:16.445 when 00:01:16.845 --> 00:01:19.885 I went to visit this church in Texas, 00:01:20.205 --> 00:01:21.965 and I heard the pastor speak. 00:01:22.525 --> 00:01:23.165 And I thought, 00:01:24.110 --> 00:01:30.190 like, I don't know if I thought any of these words, but I remember feeling like, why is this so painful for me? 00:01:31.230 --> 00:01:31.950 It 00:01:33.630 --> 00:01:40.665 it seems like the people who have the least to say take the longest not to say it. And 00:01:41.465 --> 00:01:44.985 one of the things I noticed about this particular preacher was 00:01:46.265 --> 00:01:47.065 his 00:01:49.065 --> 00:01:50.105 most 00:01:50.760 --> 00:01:52.360 prolific description 00:01:53.400 --> 00:01:54.600 of everything 00:01:54.760 --> 00:01:57.720 was the word thing. Well, you gotta do that thing. 00:01:57.960 --> 00:02:01.880 Make sure and I was like I was like, surely you can find another word. 00:02:03.175 --> 00:02:04.775 But apparently, 00:02:05.335 --> 00:02:06.135 he couldn't. 00:02:07.575 --> 00:02:08.215 And 00:02:09.495 --> 00:02:11.335 when I think about people 00:02:13.655 --> 00:02:15.655 I had a conversation with a gentleman the other day, 00:02:16.370 --> 00:02:17.010 and 00:02:17.650 --> 00:02:22.850 I noticed that he mumbled a lot. And I thought, this is really a fascinating 00:02:22.850 --> 00:02:23.570 way 00:02:23.890 --> 00:02:28.690 to communicate. It's kind of like mumbling is kind of like 00:02:31.405 --> 00:02:32.045 non 00:02:32.365 --> 00:02:33.245 committed 00:02:34.285 --> 00:02:35.485 verbal expression. 00:02:36.125 --> 00:02:38.925 Like, I don't wanna say this too clearly. 00:02:39.565 --> 00:02:52.460 I don't wanna enunciate and pronounce this, pronunciate these words too clearly because then I might have to take responsibility for them. Like I don't I don't really know what was going on, but I was like, why does this guy keep mumbling? It's so fascinating. 00:02:54.245 --> 00:02:55.125 And then, 00:02:55.365 --> 00:02:57.445 you hear some people communicate, 00:02:58.165 --> 00:02:58.725 and 00:03:01.205 --> 00:03:04.965 some are clearly intelligent, others clearly not so much. 00:03:05.445 --> 00:03:06.085 And 00:03:06.580 --> 00:03:08.500 they use a lot of profanity. 00:03:08.900 --> 00:03:11.860 And I'm I'm like, this is fascinating. 00:03:12.340 --> 00:03:13.860 It's fascinating to me 00:03:14.740 --> 00:03:17.060 that you use non adjectives 00:03:17.620 --> 00:03:19.380 to attempt to describe 00:03:19.540 --> 00:03:20.660 what you mean, 00:03:21.060 --> 00:03:27.325 and you think you're emphasizing something, but what you're really emphasizing is a lack of clarity. Yes. Because 00:03:28.045 --> 00:03:32.685 the words that you're using are not describing anything that you're talking about 00:03:33.085 --> 00:03:34.285 when you use profanity. 00:03:34.830 --> 00:03:37.550 Like it's an expletive, but it's not an explanation. 00:03:39.390 --> 00:03:42.030 And it's an expletive, but it's not an exclamation. 00:03:42.430 --> 00:03:44.190 It's just an expletive. 00:03:44.190 --> 00:03:45.470 It's it's 00:03:45.550 --> 00:03:47.070 it's a demonstration 00:03:48.395 --> 00:03:49.595 of verbal 00:03:50.075 --> 00:03:51.115 laziness. 00:03:51.195 --> 00:03:51.835 I 00:03:53.195 --> 00:03:58.555 know there are people who disagree with me, but they would only disagree with me because they do it. 00:03:58.875 --> 00:04:02.715 They wouldn't disagree with me because they thought about it. Because if they thought about it, they wouldn't do it. 00:04:03.360 --> 00:04:07.520 Like, if you like, if anybody who uses profanity thought about 00:04:08.000 --> 00:04:13.680 the negative effects of profanity, they wouldn't use it. In fact, anybody who uses negative 00:04:13.840 --> 00:04:14.560 words 00:04:14.640 --> 00:04:17.200 on rinse and repeat of any kind, not just profanity, 00:04:17.485 --> 00:04:25.405 if they understood the negative impact on their life, they wouldn't use them. Like, even words like try and maybe. And I know people think, well, try is not that bad. 00:04:25.885 --> 00:04:26.525 Really? 00:04:26.925 --> 00:04:31.165 Like, every every time somebody says, well, is what I'm trying to do. I just I I 00:04:31.410 --> 00:04:34.770 I have I have I have like this visceral physical reaction, 00:04:34.850 --> 00:04:37.250 and I do everything inside of myself 00:04:37.650 --> 00:04:39.650 to to resist 00:04:39.890 --> 00:04:42.210 showing it on the outside. 00:04:42.290 --> 00:04:46.765 I pull up all of my internal resources to not have a, 00:04:47.245 --> 00:04:51.965 like, a reaction to the word try. Because there's no such thing 00:04:52.365 --> 00:04:56.205 what I'm trying to do. I'm not trying to do anything. I'm doing it 00:04:56.685 --> 00:05:01.800 or I'm not doing it. Now when I do it, it might do what I expected it to do. 00:05:02.440 --> 00:05:06.120 And it might not do what I expected it to do, but I didn't try to do it. I did it. 00:05:06.600 --> 00:05:09.240 It just didn't do what I thought it would do 00:05:09.640 --> 00:05:14.405 when I decided I was gonna do it. Does that make sense? Yes. And and so, 00:05:15.365 --> 00:05:15.765 I 00:05:18.085 --> 00:05:22.405 Long time ago, Tony Robbins, I heard in one of his original cassette 00:05:22.405 --> 00:05:27.920 tapes back in the nineties. Okay? He said, if you wanna model any form of human excellence, 00:05:28.480 --> 00:05:33.280 you have to find somebody who's really good at the thing that you desire to be good at, and you have to model three things. 00:05:33.600 --> 00:05:37.760 And those three things are, you find that person, you model their belief systems, 00:05:38.080 --> 00:05:39.200 you model their 00:05:39.895 --> 00:05:42.695 physiology, and you model their mental syntax. 00:05:43.495 --> 00:05:45.655 And he said, model their belief systems. Well, 00:05:46.215 --> 00:05:47.895 what is a belief anyway? 00:05:48.055 --> 00:05:51.095 Think about that. What's a belief? What is a belief system? 00:05:51.815 --> 00:05:53.175 A belief 00:05:54.480 --> 00:05:55.760 is a story 00:05:56.080 --> 00:06:03.120 that you tell yourself about an expected outcome. Is that right? Right? A belief is a story that you tell yourself about an expected outcome. 00:06:03.920 --> 00:06:04.800 And so 00:06:05.360 --> 00:06:10.395 most people, when they tell themselves stories about expected outcomes, they tell themselves 00:06:10.475 --> 00:06:12.075 unfavorable stories. 00:06:13.275 --> 00:06:16.475 And then wonder why they get undesirable outcomes. 00:06:18.715 --> 00:06:21.035 I don't like, do you understand 00:06:21.820 --> 00:06:26.540 that if you just got better at communicating with yourself, the stories you tell yourself 00:06:26.780 --> 00:06:32.860 as you are creating and perpetuating your beliefs, if you just got better at that part of your life, 00:06:33.500 --> 00:06:35.100 every other part of your life will get better. 00:06:36.175 --> 00:06:37.935 Positive 00:06:38.095 --> 00:06:39.055 thinking 00:06:39.695 --> 00:06:40.575 doesn't 00:06:40.735 --> 00:06:41.775 necessarily 00:06:41.775 --> 00:06:43.615 help you achieve everything, 00:06:43.695 --> 00:06:45.375 but it does necessarily 00:06:45.375 --> 00:06:48.255 help you achieve everything better than negative thinking does. 00:06:51.100 --> 00:07:06.875 And so you gotta learn to talk better. You gotta learn to talk better when you talk to yourself. You gotta learn how to stop calling yourself names. Like, oh, you're so stupid. Oh, you're such an idiot. Oh, I can't believe you're such a loser. Like, you like, there's there's no good that can come out of talking to yourself that way. 00:07:07.595 --> 00:07:15.275 I listen to people talk to themselves, and I think to myself, if you had other friends who talk to you the way you talk to you, you wouldn't let them be your friend. 00:07:18.850 --> 00:07:21.970 And so we we are so we 00:07:21.970 --> 00:07:22.930 are so 00:07:23.490 --> 00:07:27.650 either lazy with language or unintentional with language. What would happen 00:07:28.050 --> 00:07:29.330 if you became 00:07:29.650 --> 00:07:31.410 hyper 00:07:30.625 --> 00:07:31.665 intentional 00:07:31.665 --> 00:07:43.105 about every thought you think and every belief you have and every story you tell yourself, especially stories you tell yourself about yourself and your chances? What would happen if you leveled that up? You'd 00:07:43.105 --> 00:07:44.305 talk better, you'd do better. 00:07:47.710 --> 00:07:52.030 Even if I did believe something wasn't gonna work out for me, I wouldn't claim it. 00:07:54.030 --> 00:07:59.550 I'm not talking about name it and claim it, blab it and grab it, say it. No. I'm not talking about that. I'm talking about 00:07:59.795 --> 00:08:01.235 I'm talking about 00:08:01.875 --> 00:08:05.635 empowering, using your words to empower your expectations. 00:08:05.635 --> 00:08:06.115 Because 00:08:06.995 --> 00:08:07.955 expectation 00:08:07.955 --> 00:08:15.610 is your greatest superpower as a human being whether you know it or not. Yeshua himself said, he said, if you can believe, 00:08:16.490 --> 00:08:17.450 all things 00:08:17.610 --> 00:08:19.290 are possible to him that believes. 00:08:19.690 --> 00:08:21.450 Now, all things are possible. 00:08:22.010 --> 00:08:30.485 I I get it, but that doesn't mean every single solitary thing. Right? You're not gonna jump off the Empire State Building and land on your feet. I mean if you do, 00:08:30.885 --> 00:08:33.045 pretty much your feet and everything else is gonna hurt. 00:08:34.165 --> 00:08:39.845 But all things are possible means all types, all manner, all kinds of things are possible 00:08:40.325 --> 00:08:42.805 that are not possible if you don't believe. 00:08:44.070 --> 00:08:45.350 Okay. 00:08:46.230 --> 00:08:49.030 So I'm gonna strengthen my internal communication. 00:08:50.310 --> 00:08:52.230 I'm going to resist 00:08:52.470 --> 00:08:53.990 the temptation 00:08:54.230 --> 00:08:55.990 to put the past 00:08:56.550 --> 00:08:57.590 on repeat 00:08:59.565 --> 00:09:00.845 and expect 00:09:00.925 --> 00:09:04.125 my past experiences as my future expectations. 00:09:04.285 --> 00:09:06.125 I'm gonna I'm gonna resist that temptation. 00:09:08.205 --> 00:09:10.685 As I was thinking about why do people, 00:09:11.005 --> 00:09:13.405 most people have such disempowered expectations? 00:09:14.240 --> 00:09:18.960 Why are why are most people so much better at expecting the worst 00:09:19.280 --> 00:09:23.280 than they are at expecting the best? Is that a good question? Yes. And 00:09:23.840 --> 00:09:29.585 I think most people are so much better at expecting the worst than they are expecting the best because 00:09:30.545 --> 00:09:32.145 they know exactly 00:09:32.705 --> 00:09:37.985 what the worst feels like, or at least the worst they felt feels like. They know 00:09:38.305 --> 00:09:39.505 what it's like 00:09:39.905 --> 00:09:43.425 when they go through pain and some like pain is an amplifier. 00:09:43.790 --> 00:09:49.790 Right? When you go through something that's difficult and it's really, really painful for you, it amplifies 00:09:49.790 --> 00:09:52.190 the feeling. And feelings are 00:09:52.510 --> 00:09:54.430 the drivers of humanity. 00:09:54.990 --> 00:09:57.870 Like human beings are singularly motivated. 00:09:58.325 --> 00:10:04.645 And by that I mean, people do things for one reason and one reason only. What's that reason? Because they feel like it. 00:10:07.925 --> 00:10:09.045 What if 00:10:10.450 --> 00:10:14.930 what if the real reason that you procrastinate is not because you're a procrastinator? 00:10:17.810 --> 00:10:23.250 What if the real reason you procrastinate is not because you have a procrastination problem? Because I've discovered that nobody has a procrastination problem. 00:10:24.135 --> 00:10:30.855 Procrastination is nobody's problem. Procrastination is a symptom of a problem. What's the problem? The problem is anxiety. 00:10:31.255 --> 00:10:33.255 What is anxiety? Anxiety 00:10:33.255 --> 00:10:36.535 is that feeling I get when I'm expecting an unfavorable outcome. 00:10:39.070 --> 00:10:40.190 Do you understand? 00:10:40.510 --> 00:10:45.230 Have you ever have you ever walked up to a chair and got ready to sit down and then you noticed like one of the legs was wobbly? 00:10:46.670 --> 00:10:49.630 You wouldn't let yourself sit down in that chair, would you? No. 00:10:49.790 --> 00:10:57.515 You wouldn't let yourself sit down in that chair. Why? Because your expectation is this chair won't hold me, so you don't put all your weight down. Do you understand that when you look at a scenario 00:10:57.835 --> 00:10:59.995 and the scenario looks unstable, 00:11:00.475 --> 00:11:05.195 it doesn't let you put your subconscious mind will not let you put your weight in that scenario. 00:11:08.350 --> 00:11:10.670 Are y'all tracking? Yes. And 00:11:10.670 --> 00:11:13.790 so what I have to do is I have to learn how 00:11:14.670 --> 00:11:18.910 to examine. First of all, I don't wanna put my weight down in a situation that won't hold me. 00:11:19.935 --> 00:11:26.495 It's kinda like kinda like when when I I hated flying. You say, Marian, what does hated flying mean? It means I was scared. 00:11:28.415 --> 00:11:35.295 Right? I was like I was like, this doesn't make sense. This is so dumb. Every time I got on a plane, I this is so dumb. 00:11:35.615 --> 00:11:44.870 This thing weighs hundreds of thousands of pounds, and we're all up here in this tube acting like this is normal. And people are sleeping, and I'm looking at everybody. I'm like, are you all insane? 00:11:45.270 --> 00:11:46.950 Absolutely. I was scared. 00:11:47.510 --> 00:11:51.585 And I got on a plane, I never put all my weight down. I'm 00:11:51.585 --> 00:11:53.025 locked I'm locked in. 00:11:54.465 --> 00:11:59.505 Somebody tapped me on my shoulder. Hey, bro. You know that chair is on this plane too. Why you messing with me, man? 00:12:00.145 --> 00:12:08.680 Right? And so so so like I hated flying because I was scared because it didn't make sense. So my expectation was, since it didn't make 00:12:09.400 --> 00:12:11.240 plane weighs more than a city bus. 00:12:12.040 --> 00:12:17.160 You've been flying around out there. You've seen other planes in the sky while you've been flying around. Right? Have you ever seen a city bus in the sky? No. 00:12:18.755 --> 00:12:21.795 This don't make sense. I've 00:12:21.795 --> 00:12:23.475 never even seen any cars up there. 00:12:24.195 --> 00:12:27.955 It's making less and less sense by the I've not seen a stinking bicycle in there. 00:12:29.635 --> 00:12:32.755 And this seven fifty seven that weighs 250,000 00:12:32.755 --> 00:12:33.795 pounds is 00:12:34.300 --> 00:12:39.820 40,000 feet in the air going 500 miles an hour, and everybody's acting like it makes sense. Oh, 00:12:41.660 --> 00:12:42.140 right? 00:12:44.380 --> 00:12:46.060 So my anxiety 00:12:46.955 --> 00:12:51.675 would not allow me to relax every time there was a sound, a bump, and Right. 00:12:54.635 --> 00:13:09.490 Didn't help that I watched a movie one time about that flight that was in Hawaii when the fuselage came off. Did anybody ever see that? It was so like, do not watch plane crash movies. I know. I'm not watching a movie about a plane crash. I'm not doing it. I spend too much time on planes to even think about that. Right? 00:13:09.650 --> 00:13:10.530 So anyway, 00:13:10.690 --> 00:13:14.370 so so I said, this is this is not healthy, Myron. 00:13:15.105 --> 00:13:17.105 This is not healthy for you to be scared 00:13:17.505 --> 00:13:22.625 every time you get on a plane, because you get on way too many planes, bro. This is not good. 00:13:23.665 --> 00:13:24.865 I gotta fix this. 00:13:25.905 --> 00:13:27.265 Okay. How you gonna fix it? 00:13:29.350 --> 00:13:30.870 I'm gonna take flying lessons. 00:13:34.310 --> 00:13:36.150 Gotta take flying lessons. I 00:13:40.710 --> 00:13:44.470 can get on a plane now, fall asleep before it takes off, 00:13:46.385 --> 00:13:48.465 and wake up after it lands. 00:13:48.705 --> 00:13:49.905 Wow. 00:13:50.385 --> 00:13:52.785 Why? Because it makes sense. So 00:13:53.105 --> 00:13:57.425 what I did was, I educated myself at a higher level 00:13:57.560 --> 00:14:03.080 by learning some principles that gave me the ability to tell myself a better story. In 00:14:04.040 --> 00:14:06.440 fact, did you know that planes 00:14:07.880 --> 00:14:09.640 are designed to fly, 00:14:11.595 --> 00:14:22.315 and that design is so good that if a hurricane or a tornado is coming to an area, they have to remove the planes because the planes will fly with that much wind even if nobody's on them. Wow. 00:14:23.500 --> 00:14:25.980 It's easier for a plane to fly 00:14:26.300 --> 00:14:34.860 than it is for it to stay on the ground. In fact, if you leave a plane on the ground too much and it doesn't fly, the plane will eventually become worthless because of lack of use. Wow. 00:14:37.805 --> 00:14:49.325 So, what did I do? I changed the story. Changed the story. When I changed the story, changed my belief. Ain't scared no more. In fact, I was I was the co pilot on a twin engine 00:14:50.730 --> 00:14:52.330 prompt jet from 00:14:53.930 --> 00:14:54.810 Tampa, 00:14:54.810 --> 00:14:56.810 or from Lakeland to The Bahamas. 00:14:57.530 --> 00:15:02.170 It was like two and a half hour flight. And I'm like, I got my I got my 00:15:03.305 --> 00:15:10.985 headset on, my Bose my Bose headset on, and I'm I'm looking at the avionics, and I'm adjusting the trim, and I'm doing all the stuff the pilots tell me to do. We 00:15:11.785 --> 00:15:14.425 we had to fly around storms and stuff. It was so cool. 00:15:16.710 --> 00:15:20.150 This was from a guy who used to get on a plane and not put all his weight down. 00:15:20.950 --> 00:15:21.670 Right? 00:15:23.430 --> 00:15:28.150 So what am I telling you? I'm telling you I have to improve you have to improve your internal communication. 00:15:30.295 --> 00:15:32.615 You have to improve your vertical communication 00:15:33.095 --> 00:15:34.215 from the standpoint 00:15:34.455 --> 00:15:35.095 that 00:15:35.335 --> 00:15:37.015 this will change your life. 00:15:37.655 --> 00:15:38.295 When 00:15:38.775 --> 00:15:41.415 God has said something in scripture, 00:15:42.055 --> 00:15:43.895 let that be the wrap. Let that be the end of it. 00:15:44.600 --> 00:15:48.680 Just act as if it's true. The most fascinating 00:15:48.680 --> 00:15:51.240 thing that I've observed in my life 00:15:51.800 --> 00:15:59.560 in attending church and watching people who attend church is they feel real good about it while they're there, and do absolutely nothing about it when they leave. Blows 00:15:59.560 --> 00:16:00.040 my mind. 00:16:00.735 --> 00:16:02.255 People who read the bible 00:16:03.055 --> 00:16:04.975 every day and apply, 00:16:05.135 --> 00:16:06.975 apparently none of it, 00:16:07.455 --> 00:16:08.575 or very little. 00:16:09.295 --> 00:16:19.340 Like, they they give up a couple of things and take on a couple of things right after they come to Christ, and then what happens? After that, they're like, okay, I'm there. There is no there there. 00:16:19.900 --> 00:16:21.020 That's 00:16:21.020 --> 00:16:21.740 the point. 00:16:22.380 --> 00:16:23.180 And so, 00:16:23.500 --> 00:16:28.540 my internal my internal my vertical communication with God improves 00:16:28.780 --> 00:16:30.140 when God 00:16:31.035 --> 00:16:38.235 gives me an objective, and I line up my life with that objective. And I realize that when I'm praying and I'm talking to God, 00:16:39.035 --> 00:16:41.435 I am not talking to God to get him to do my thing. 00:16:42.810 --> 00:16:46.810 I'm talking to God to get me in tune with him so I can do his thing. 00:16:48.570 --> 00:16:50.010 Changes the game. 00:16:51.050 --> 00:16:53.290 It changes the game completely. 00:16:55.155 --> 00:16:57.715 And then when I do that, my external communication 00:16:58.595 --> 00:16:59.475 changes. 00:17:00.435 --> 00:17:01.555 The quality 00:17:01.795 --> 00:17:02.995 of your life 00:17:03.315 --> 00:17:07.315 is gonna be in direct proportion to the quality of the communications you have with other people. 00:17:08.950 --> 00:17:28.645 Because it's the communications that you have with other people that help you find a mate. It's the communications that you have with other people that help you raise responsible children. It's the communications that you have with other people that help you get a job if you want a job. It's the communications you have with other people that give you the ability to hire employees if you need delegation. 00:17:28.645 --> 00:17:35.605 And the communication that you have with other people is what you is required for you to acquire business partners, and clients, 00:17:35.685 --> 00:17:40.320 and business relationships of all kinds. Your ability to verbalize 00:17:40.320 --> 00:17:41.360 a message 00:17:41.760 --> 00:17:48.320 that shows the people you're talking to, what they get out of engaging with you, is gonna determine 00:17:48.320 --> 00:17:51.680 the quality of your life. And and so, it's it's amazing. 00:17:52.435 --> 00:17:56.435 The best time to think about what you're gonna get out of an a conversation 00:17:56.435 --> 00:17:59.555 or an interaction is before the interaction starts. 00:17:59.795 --> 00:18:03.315 Once the interaction starts, you have to make it all about them. 00:18:03.875 --> 00:18:16.440 And you have to figure out before you engage with them, how you making it all about them is gonna be beneficial to them and beneficial to you. You have to figure it out before you engage in the conversation. And most people are terrible at that. It's quite 00:18:16.840 --> 00:18:17.800 fascinating. 00:18:18.280 --> 00:18:20.455 I I I I've often thought, 00:18:20.935 --> 00:18:30.775 you know, this person had this really great idea. Maybe they're an inventor. Maybe they're a software developer. Maybe they're an author, and they're really, really good at coming up with a solution. 00:18:31.575 --> 00:18:32.455 And then 00:18:33.020 --> 00:18:34.860 they start talking to people about it, 00:18:35.500 --> 00:18:38.060 and when you hear them talk about it, it's horrible. 00:18:39.100 --> 00:18:42.700 Like, how could you take this beautiful thing and make it that ugly? 00:18:43.980 --> 00:18:45.580 Well, what happens 00:18:46.380 --> 00:18:47.740 is one of two things. 00:18:48.665 --> 00:18:52.905 Either they fall in love with the trinkets that they've invented, 00:18:54.665 --> 00:18:56.585 or the templates that they've designed, 00:18:58.105 --> 00:18:59.945 or they fall in love with 00:19:00.680 --> 00:19:04.440 the amount of time they put into becoming the expert. 00:19:06.600 --> 00:19:13.160 So they think that the other person is going to fall in love with spending time with them, so they think time with them is the value of their offer. 00:19:13.480 --> 00:19:14.200 Or 00:19:14.465 --> 00:19:30.560 the other mistake they make is they realize that they've created something so good that they're gonna get paid a lot of money. And so now, instead of thinking about the transformation that they've created for other people, when they're talking to other people, they're thinking about the transaction, and they're not thinking about that person's transformation. 00:19:30.560 --> 00:19:34.320 And so as soon as they realize they're getting paid, they mess up the story. 00:19:34.640 --> 00:19:36.160 It's 00:19:36.160 --> 00:19:37.440 so fascinating. 00:19:39.680 --> 00:19:46.765 And so what you've gotta learn how to do is you gotta learn how to communicate with other people in such a way 00:19:47.725 --> 00:19:49.245 that shows them 00:19:50.525 --> 00:19:53.405 the value that they get from engaging with you, 00:19:54.410 --> 00:19:56.970 while realizing and simultaneously 00:19:56.970 --> 00:19:58.170 not caring. 00:19:59.370 --> 00:20:01.130 I shouldn't say not caring. 00:20:02.010 --> 00:20:03.050 Simultaneously 00:20:03.050 --> 00:20:06.490 not being focused on the value that you get from that interaction. 00:20:08.275 --> 00:20:19.715 It's really challenging to do, especially if you don't understand that it's the thing that you need to do in order to make the thing that you're working on do the thing that you intended to do when you started working on it. It's 00:20:19.715 --> 00:20:21.475 so easy to get distracted 00:20:22.130 --> 00:20:33.170 by the minutiae. It's so easy. No wonder most people are terrible. Which means, by the way though, which means most people are terrible at doing all this stuff I'm talking about. Which means if you get good at it, you'll be one of the best in the world. Wow. 00:20:33.810 --> 00:20:34.530 This is why, 00:20:35.425 --> 00:20:38.225 like, if you talk better, you do better. Now, 00:20:38.945 --> 00:20:41.105 here's the latest place I realized this. 00:20:42.865 --> 00:20:45.025 Artificial intelligence. Your 00:20:45.905 --> 00:20:46.785 ability 00:20:46.945 --> 00:20:49.585 to leverage AI to the fullest 00:20:50.190 --> 00:20:52.590 is gonna be in direct proportion 00:20:52.590 --> 00:20:55.710 to your ability to describe 00:20:55.710 --> 00:20:57.950 exactly the outcome you desire. 00:20:58.990 --> 00:21:00.910 And then challenge 00:21:00.990 --> 00:21:05.550 the outputs that the AI gives you with more and better articulation. 00:21:05.985 --> 00:21:06.705 Your 00:21:07.185 --> 00:21:10.305 ability to communicate with AI is gonna determine 00:21:10.305 --> 00:21:13.665 whether or not AI takes you along for the ride 00:21:14.465 --> 00:21:16.225 or whether you get left behind. 00:21:17.185 --> 00:21:17.505 Period. 00:21:19.270 --> 00:21:20.310 So, 00:21:20.310 --> 00:21:21.110 Myron, 00:21:21.270 --> 00:21:22.710 I get all of that. 00:21:23.430 --> 00:21:26.950 What's the best way for me to level up my communication? There are two things. 00:21:28.870 --> 00:21:30.390 Here's the good thing about two. 00:21:30.790 --> 00:21:32.230 All of us can count to two, 00:21:34.295 --> 00:21:37.975 and all of us can remember two things. Now, aren't you glad I didn't say 200? 00:21:38.055 --> 00:21:43.255 Not that you can't count to 200, but you it might be a little bit of a challenge for you to remember 200 things. 00:21:43.815 --> 00:21:45.175 So two things. 00:21:45.895 --> 00:21:46.935 Read more 00:21:47.660 --> 00:21:48.940 well written 00:21:49.420 --> 00:21:50.460 good books 00:21:50.940 --> 00:21:52.940 with good ideas. Read more. 00:21:53.260 --> 00:21:54.380 Number two. 00:21:55.580 --> 00:21:56.620 Write more. 00:21:57.580 --> 00:22:01.180 Write more what, Myron? When you're reading books 00:22:01.905 --> 00:22:04.705 and you're listening to videos like this one right here, 00:22:07.665 --> 00:22:10.145 and you're having conversations with intelligent people, 00:22:10.385 --> 00:22:18.340 and they say something in those books, on those videos, in that conversation that really resonates with you, don't write down what they said. 00:22:18.900 --> 00:22:22.820 Write down what you thought of as a result of what they said. 00:22:23.700 --> 00:22:26.420 That will be your unique 00:22:26.420 --> 00:22:27.220 content 00:22:27.460 --> 00:22:29.380 that levels up your life 00:22:29.809 --> 00:22:31.329 for the rest of your life. 00:22:32.049 --> 00:22:39.329 Hope this video helps you. Talk better, do better. Level up your life by leveling up your communication. We'll see you in the next video. Peace out, Cub Scout.