WEBVTT 00:00:00.000 --> 00:00:09.440 What I really look for when I'm evaluating talent and people I want on my team is their self discipline levels because I know those people are going to max out their own capacity. 00:00:09.520 --> 00:00:10.400 Extremity 00:00:10.400 --> 00:00:11.760 expands capacity. 00:00:11.760 --> 00:00:22.605 The process of self discipline is like a muscle that you can grow. I think the mistake many people make is they start with these huge things that they think require self discipline. And unless they do these huge things, 00:00:22.925 --> 00:00:30.850 they lack it. You're 52. You're working harder than you've ever worked in your dadgum life. Why? Because I have built all these structures around me and eliminated 00:00:30.850 --> 00:01:04.050 most of the things that take my focus and discipline away so that I am wired, man, with a ton of energy to create and innovate and think and be present because I have self discipline. And self discipline is a process, is a habit. It is not something someone's born with. What has to happen is you gotta do it for a while. Why be self disciplined if it's never gonna mean anything? One of the reasons we're not selfless is it's never gonna mean anything. Who cares? No one's gonna notice. It's no big deal. What I do doesn't matter. It does matter. It's just your dadgum life. It's just the story of you. It's just your family name. It's just your reputation. 00:01:04.130 --> 00:01:13.765 Whether that means you're gonna win a world series or a master's golf tournament or just be the one in your family and change your family forever, you gotta have this sense that you're making history. 00:01:14.165 --> 00:01:15.445 Because by the way, 00:01:15.765 --> 00:01:16.645 you are. 00:01:22.805 --> 00:01:30.550 Today's topic is gonna be about self discipline, which I think is at the top of the list of everything you have to have in life if you're gonna achieve anything great. 00:01:30.790 --> 00:01:54.350 It's what allows you to do something that average ordinary people can't do. You know, I look at when I evaluate people and talent in my businesses, when I hire people or any sports team that I've had. Yeah. It'd be great if someone's got an amazing ability or some, you know, crazy proclivity. But what I really look for when I'm evaluating talent and people I want on my team is their self discipline levels because I know those people are going to max out their own capacity. 00:01:54.670 --> 00:01:56.590 And if you remember this, extremity 00:01:56.590 --> 00:01:57.870 expands capacity. 00:01:57.870 --> 00:02:00.270 Please remember that statement. Extremity 00:02:00.350 --> 00:02:01.710 expands capacity. 00:02:01.790 --> 00:02:04.350 So what that means is when you're self disciplined 00:02:04.350 --> 00:02:14.705 and you can get yourself to do all the way to the extreme of what you're capable of on a regular basis, not only you do what you're capable of, but you actually stretch out and expand your capacity 00:02:14.945 --> 00:02:18.225 to grow and to do more so that over time, 00:02:18.625 --> 00:02:24.120 those levels of maxing out actually increase. That's why, for example, like, on a bench press in the gym, 00:02:24.440 --> 00:02:30.440 when someone maxes out, one of the reasons we do that is because we've pushed to a new level, but that extremity 00:02:30.440 --> 00:02:45.205 expands your capacity to know bench press even more at a higher level. And the way we extend our capacity in life is to have the highest levels of self discipline, and it's something all of us struggle with, including me. I love Netflix. 00:02:45.445 --> 00:02:46.645 I love Cheetos. 00:02:47.045 --> 00:02:48.165 I love sleep. 00:02:48.405 --> 00:02:55.650 I love laying around. The challenge with that is those aren't the things that produce bliss in our life, that give us memories, that give us joy, 00:02:56.050 --> 00:03:00.530 nor do they produce maximum results in our businesses, in our bodies, relationships, 00:03:00.610 --> 00:03:08.215 and even our emotions, as I've said. So let's take a look at how do we expand our capacity. How do we increase our self discipline? 00:03:08.455 --> 00:03:10.855 For me, and what I would recommend for you, 00:03:11.175 --> 00:03:14.535 is that it starts out by taking an honest look and audit 00:03:14.535 --> 00:03:22.640 at the things that take away from our self disciplines. What are the things that rob you, that steal you from your disciplines? 00:03:22.720 --> 00:03:25.520 So in my case, for example, I'll give you some things 00:03:25.840 --> 00:03:27.840 that rob me of my disciplines, 00:03:28.000 --> 00:03:34.645 that take my focus away, take my attention away, that make it more easy to do than the things I need to do. 00:03:35.205 --> 00:03:37.365 For me, some of it's television. 00:03:37.685 --> 00:03:43.605 And in my own case, it is that. Like, I really do enjoy Netflix. I'll get captivated. When I wake up in the morning, 00:03:43.845 --> 00:03:46.805 one of the things I used to do is I would do a little bit of a morning routine, 00:03:47.340 --> 00:04:09.115 but then I'd find myself flipping sports center on. A lot of the guys can probably relate to that, or you flip on one of the morning TV shows. And all of a sudden, I've lost thirty, forty minutes into this abyss of things that really don't matter at that time. It's funny. My wife would say, haven't you already watched these highlights last night? You're watching the same exact highlights again the next morning, and I'm like, she's totally right. So for me, it's been sports. 00:04:09.195 --> 00:04:12.075 It's been Netflix. It's been watching sports on television. 00:04:12.690 --> 00:04:16.530 This this robs me of my self disciplines. 00:04:16.770 --> 00:04:19.490 Another thing for me is worry. 00:04:20.130 --> 00:04:23.650 Believe it or not, the emotion of worry or the emotion of fear 00:04:23.970 --> 00:04:34.175 steals my self discipline because I'm captivated in a problem that really hasn't even existed yet, probably won't exist, but I've given my attention and my energy off the task at hand. 00:04:34.575 --> 00:04:39.135 See, there's this fallacy. I've had people on my show that have taught this that you can multitask. 00:04:39.750 --> 00:04:42.390 The truth is there's really no such thing as multitasking. 00:04:42.710 --> 00:04:56.155 Your brain can only hold one process and one thought at one time. And so this idea that you can do three things at once, like, I'll have the TV on in the background, but I'm gonna write an effective chapter of my book. That is not true. That TV on in the background steals 00:04:56.235 --> 00:04:58.235 some of your self discipline from you. 00:04:58.635 --> 00:05:11.810 For you some of you, it might be that it's it's a a worry addiction. It might be, uh, addiction to a relationship. But these are the things. You have to make a list of the things. For me, in a given day, what takes my self discipline from me is worry, 00:05:11.890 --> 00:05:12.610 fear, 00:05:13.090 --> 00:05:15.250 and the process of watching screens, 00:05:15.970 --> 00:05:20.930 watching screens, scrolling through Instagram, scrolling through TikTok, watching YouTube, 00:05:20.930 --> 00:05:22.370 watching sports on television. 00:05:22.985 --> 00:05:25.465 So I've made lists of things 00:05:25.865 --> 00:05:27.545 that are my self disciplined 00:05:27.545 --> 00:05:28.425 steelers. 00:05:28.665 --> 00:05:34.025 And I haven't eliminated them, but I've reduced them, and I schedule them in nonproductive 00:05:34.265 --> 00:05:44.300 times. So it's not that I can't watch sports center. It's not that I can't scroll TikTok or Instagram. I can do that. But I have to schedule it in times that don't take away from moving the needle. 00:05:44.540 --> 00:05:49.580 You've gotta do moving the needle activities in your life. The most successful people 00:05:49.955 --> 00:06:07.150 do the highest impact things possible in any given moment or any given day. And the people that lose or that produce subpar results or average results, they still work very hard, but they don't do the needle moving things. So in my fitness, for example, one of the needle moving things is drinking water. 00:06:07.470 --> 00:06:16.270 That's a self discipline that is required of me to stay in my peak physical state in every given day. I'm gonna show you in a minute how I make sure I do that. And then I eliminate, 00:06:16.545 --> 00:06:25.185 and I make a list of the things that take that away from me. One of the other things is I have to do breath work. I have to control my breathing. I love yoga now. I'm doing a lot of yoga. 00:06:25.425 --> 00:06:37.070 And I have had to what is it that eliminates that for me? One, it's getting up too late. Two, it's turning on that television and watching sports. So I've made lists of the things that rob me of my disciplines. The second thing in self discipline 00:06:37.150 --> 00:06:50.265 is this. Show me your schedule. Show me your day timer, and I will show you your life. If you show me your schedule today and what you do consistently in a given day, what you have scheduled because what you schedule is a priority. Okay? 00:06:50.425 --> 00:06:52.265 So if you show me your schedule, 00:06:52.425 --> 00:06:59.530 I will show you your life a year to three years from now based on today's schedule. So second thing is self discipline is scheduling 00:06:59.530 --> 00:07:08.330 the things that matter, literally putting them in and having a time for them scheduled on a regular basis. This may seem trivial, but it's not because 00:07:08.650 --> 00:07:14.045 there are things I need self discipline for me. One of the areas is, like, my personal friendships 00:07:14.205 --> 00:07:15.485 and relationships, 00:07:15.565 --> 00:07:16.925 even with my own family. 00:07:17.245 --> 00:07:29.890 And so for me, if I'm not careful, I won't have the self discipline to make sure those aren't just maintained, but that they're growing and evolving in a way that's beautiful that those people deserve in my life. And although this may sound orchestrated, 00:07:30.050 --> 00:07:31.410 I schedule 00:07:31.490 --> 00:07:37.330 those things that that schedule makes me look like I've got self discipline. 00:07:37.570 --> 00:07:39.250 Okay? But truthfully, 00:07:39.250 --> 00:07:43.755 it's just scheduled. So I have things in my calendar that says, text Bella. 00:07:43.915 --> 00:07:45.115 Call Max. 00:07:45.355 --> 00:07:46.395 Call mom. 00:07:46.555 --> 00:07:48.955 I have scheduled these things in my calendar. 00:07:49.435 --> 00:07:57.380 When I'm in my schedule, I will do the things that are in there. So a lot of times, we just schedule our appointments, don't we? We just have appointments, 00:07:57.460 --> 00:08:09.605 and that's all we have on a calendar. At the end of the day, I didn't make my contacts. I didn't tell the people that I love that I love them. I didn't do the amount of emails I was supposed to do. I didn't take the time to write the chapter of my book. I didn't craft my social media captions. 00:08:09.845 --> 00:08:12.005 Things need to be scheduled. 00:08:12.485 --> 00:08:18.965 That's where self discipline comes from. And then the third thing is I built the habit of keeping the promises that I make to myself. 00:08:19.445 --> 00:08:30.010 The process of self discipline is like a muscle that you can grow. And so I think the mistake many people make is they start with these huge things that they think require self discipline. 00:08:30.250 --> 00:08:38.465 And unless they do these huge things, they lack it. Whereas I believe you start in the micro. You start small in life, 00:08:38.785 --> 00:08:42.065 and that's what builds a real discipline. So this may sound crazy, 00:08:42.385 --> 00:08:50.625 but I have eliminated and written down the things that take my my self discipline away. I have scheduled the things that make me look like I have self discipline. 00:08:51.830 --> 00:08:55.670 And then third, I start with the small promises I can keep to myself. 00:08:56.070 --> 00:08:57.510 And that's to this day, 00:08:57.830 --> 00:09:05.750 twenty five years later on this journey, thirty five years later on this journey, I still schedule things. I still do little things that create momentum 00:09:06.075 --> 00:09:21.675 because momentum, as I've said before, is a magnifier. Momentum can make an average ordinary person like me produce superhuman results. So I create what might be considered artificial momentum every single day. So let me give you an example of that. I make my bed every single day. 00:09:22.370 --> 00:09:35.090 I've been doing that for many, many years. That seems insignificant. Right? Because I could pay somebody to make my bed every single day. That's not why I do it. I do it because it starts my day with discipline, and it's something that I can control and I can maintain. 00:09:35.595 --> 00:09:43.035 I have a routine that I do, whatever your routine might be. For me, it could be the cold plunge or my prayer time or my meditation time, my stretching, 00:09:43.195 --> 00:09:44.395 my scripture reading. 00:09:44.555 --> 00:09:51.130 I do these things early in my day. These are promises that I can make to myself that create this identity 00:09:51.130 --> 00:09:55.130 of a self disciplined person when the truth is I am not one. 00:09:55.610 --> 00:10:01.050 I have not been one, but I have created an identity of a self disciplined person. Let me give you another one. 00:10:01.805 --> 00:10:11.645 I lay my clothes out the night before for the following day. I do this whether I'm staying in a hotel room or whether I'm staying at my own house. I know that sounds insignificant. 00:10:11.805 --> 00:10:13.085 It is extremely 00:10:13.085 --> 00:10:17.580 significant because now I've done something that I told myself I was going to do, 00:10:18.140 --> 00:10:46.190 and it's done. And when I wake up in the morning, I'm in autopilot mode. So these small things the second thing I do assuming the third thing I do, I have a big, uh, a gallon of water that I pour the night before. And when I get up, I drink half of that water. It doesn't matter if you drink 10% of it, but it's something to start my day. Whoops. Self discipline. I've done it. When I point my mind as a weapon at the small things in my life and I start stacking those up that I do over and over and over again, 00:10:46.430 --> 00:10:54.910 now the medium sized tasks are disciplined, and the big ones are disciplined. And so I'm gonna tell you that I don't think anyone has natural discipline. 00:10:55.295 --> 00:11:05.535 They build structures around them. They build systems around them. They schedule them, and they eliminate the things that take from it. And over time, they build this identity 00:11:05.615 --> 00:11:07.935 where they seem like they're incredibly disciplined people. 00:11:08.480 --> 00:11:13.200 Remember this for a second. Your brain is always trying to conserve energy. 00:11:13.520 --> 00:11:35.645 It's always trying to conserve energy. It's trying to build a habit. It is trying to do this so that it doesn't have to work to think. And so the more you do these little things, your brain wants to continue to do them. It's not just a muscle. It's how the brain functions. Because now that it's just stuff that you do every single day, it doesn't have to think about it anymore. And under pressure in life, we act reflexively. 00:11:36.250 --> 00:11:38.810 Under pressure, we act reflexively. 00:11:38.810 --> 00:11:45.210 So if your reflex is to have these habits that serve you, your life becomes very easy. It also 00:11:45.370 --> 00:11:49.370 frees your brain up to be much more creative and innovative 00:11:49.925 --> 00:11:51.365 and energized 00:11:51.445 --> 00:11:52.565 and aware 00:11:52.805 --> 00:11:55.205 than people who don't have discipline. 00:11:55.445 --> 00:11:58.405 See, the benefit of discipline and self discipline 00:11:58.805 --> 00:12:17.970 is not just that you get these things done. It's that your brain's not having to work so darn hard. See, when you don't have self discipline, when you don't have things you do early in your day, when you don't keep promises to yourself, when you don't schedule the things, right, when you don't do those things, when you don't eliminate the things that rob you of your self discipline, not only you're not getting stuff done, you're more tired. 00:12:18.815 --> 00:12:20.575 You're more physically exhausted. 00:12:21.055 --> 00:12:22.255 Here's the fallacy. 00:12:22.415 --> 00:12:38.500 People think self discipline, people that get up, that work out, that do their stuff, that make their calls, that have these relationships, that are sending out a bunch of emails, that are making a bunch of context, they're tired. That's not the case because after a while, this is automatic. Their brain's not having to think about it. It's just what they do. It's their routine. 00:12:38.820 --> 00:12:41.300 Your brain, on the other hand, if you're not disciplined, 00:12:41.460 --> 00:12:53.235 isn't nearly as organized. So it's having to work to think through, to get back up, to start over, to restart, to get going again. It's constantly having to work, and what you're doing is you're depleting yourself of the energies 00:12:53.235 --> 00:12:55.155 that could have gone towards creativity, 00:12:55.155 --> 00:12:57.635 focus, awareness, and intentional activities. 00:12:58.140 --> 00:13:00.940 Does that make sense? So, actually, undisciplined 00:13:00.940 --> 00:13:05.100 people are more tired at the end of the day than disciplined people. 00:13:05.340 --> 00:13:23.875 That's what I found. They say, you're 52. You're working harder than you've ever worked in your dadgum life. Why? Because I have built all these structures around me and eliminated most of the things that take my focus and discipline away so that I am wired, man, with a ton of energy to create and innovate and think and be present in the moment 00:13:24.195 --> 00:13:25.955 because I have self discipline. 00:13:26.480 --> 00:13:29.760 And self discipline is a process, is a habit. 00:13:29.920 --> 00:13:33.680 It is not something someone's born with, and it's not very complicated. 00:13:33.920 --> 00:13:41.920 What has to happen is you gotta do it for a while. But now the idea of not working out in a given day makes me sick to my stomach. 00:13:42.635 --> 00:14:01.100 I can't even imagine not working out. But way back in the day, I had to schedule it. I had to eliminate the sports center. I had to have the glass of water next to me. I had to have my workout clothes laid out the night before. I had to make my bed, then I had to do my do you follow what I'm saying? These things make the discipline part look 00:14:01.260 --> 00:14:11.340 much harder than it is. It's actually autopilot for me now. I don't have to think about it. So there's all these benefits to having self discipline. And I wanna share with you, like, almost my manifesto 00:14:11.865 --> 00:14:14.825 for self discipline, and it's it's quite old. 00:14:15.385 --> 00:14:18.185 So if you're watching this, you'll see this magazine. 00:14:18.265 --> 00:14:22.745 And if you're not, I'm gonna give you a gift. You're gonna hear it on the audio anyway. But here we go. 00:14:23.225 --> 00:14:25.625 This is from Newsweek magazine 00:14:25.890 --> 00:14:27.090 a little while ago, 00:14:27.410 --> 00:14:30.050 06/18/2001. 00:14:30.370 --> 00:14:32.370 So at the time that we're recording this 00:14:32.930 --> 00:14:45.535 and by the way, stay focused in growth day all the time. This is one of the best things you can do is be in an environment that's conducive to self discipline, that fosters it. That's what we're doing here. Right? This right here, what we're doing, this place you're doing this at, 00:14:45.855 --> 00:14:46.575 creates 00:14:46.815 --> 00:14:57.430 self discipline because the environment is constantly feeding you things that create the habits and rituals that make your life easier. But here we go. 06/18/2001 00:14:57.430 --> 00:14:58.790 Newsweek cover 00:14:58.950 --> 00:15:00.470 tiger rules. 00:15:01.670 --> 00:15:08.805 I have carried this magazine, two of them. I have two copies of them with me everywhere I have gone on business trips 00:15:09.685 --> 00:15:12.405 for twenty two going on twenty three years. 00:15:12.805 --> 00:15:16.725 I have read what I'm gonna share with you thousands of times 00:15:17.045 --> 00:15:17.925 because it's about 00:15:18.680 --> 00:15:19.560 discipline, 00:15:19.800 --> 00:15:23.880 self discipline, and the mindset that comes with being self disciplined. 00:15:24.200 --> 00:15:31.880 Tiger rules. This was the prime of Tiger Woods' career, one of the most disciplined people of all time. Now when I say discipline, 00:15:32.040 --> 00:15:40.345 in his sports life, anybody who knows anything about sports know the sports part of his life. In his prime, there was no more disciplined athlete in the history of sports. 00:15:40.745 --> 00:15:57.540 Would you agree with me on that? In his prime, in his sports life, there's never been an athlete more disciplined than Tiger Woods, and I wanted to be what he did. In golf, I wanted to do in the business part of my life. And so there was this article, and I've carried it now for almost twenty three years. K? Here's what it's called. 00:15:58.100 --> 00:15:59.300 The dominator. 00:15:59.860 --> 00:16:00.740 The dominator. 00:16:00.905 --> 00:16:04.025 And it's five rules for Tiger Woods domination 00:16:04.025 --> 00:16:08.265 and self discipline. Would you like to know what they are? Because this article 00:16:08.425 --> 00:16:11.785 the dude who read this article twenty two, twenty three years ago 00:16:12.265 --> 00:16:14.185 didn't have the mindset of self discipline. 00:16:14.800 --> 00:16:18.080 I had the desire for self discipline. I had some of the habits, 00:16:18.480 --> 00:16:23.360 but I didn't wanna just do well in business, do well in life. I wanted to dominate. 00:16:23.680 --> 00:16:38.345 How many of you would like to dominate? I mean, go from average ordinary, not just to winning, but dominance. Dominate in your life. Whatever that area is, dominating the love parts of your dominating your emotions, dominating business, dominating the financial part of your life. 00:16:38.985 --> 00:16:40.665 Maybe dominate your former self, 00:16:41.300 --> 00:16:52.980 but be dominant in your life. At the end of this life, now it's dominant. Right? I wanted to do that. And I don't think that that's a a male or female thing. I'm talking about being great, becoming a goat, doing something awesome. 00:16:53.635 --> 00:16:56.515 And here's what happens twenty two, twenty three years later. 00:16:56.915 --> 00:16:58.675 Stay with me on this. It's so awesome. 00:16:59.555 --> 00:17:00.435 I'm totally 00:17:00.915 --> 00:17:04.115 the guy that started twenty two, twenty three years ago is 00:17:04.515 --> 00:17:06.035 totally unrecognizable 00:17:06.035 --> 00:17:07.555 to me to the man that I am today. 00:17:08.660 --> 00:17:13.300 Would you like in twenty two or twenty three years, twenty five years from now to look back and go, 00:17:13.620 --> 00:17:20.740 Kenny, I don't even recognize that person. It's the same it's the same integrity. It's the same character. It's the same loving being, 00:17:21.785 --> 00:17:26.425 but I've become something so dominant. I've become almost like a machine. I I 00:17:26.745 --> 00:17:47.310 people look at me. You know, you heard, uh, audios I've done in the past where I say there's unaware people. That's one type of person. You don't wanna be them. There's motivational people who can motivate you. They play on your motives. You you if you do this, you get a Lamborghini. If you do this, you'll get a house. If you do this, you'll get a relationship. They play on your motives, which is a very it's a good thing. A lot of motivational speakers out there, motivational friends of yours. 00:17:47.790 --> 00:17:49.310 The third level is inspirational. 00:17:50.025 --> 00:17:52.825 Inspirational people take it to a different place. They can motivate you. 00:17:53.065 --> 00:17:54.425 They make you become aware, 00:17:54.665 --> 00:18:05.625 but they talk they speak to your spirit. The root of inspirational is to be in spirit. These people are special. These people, you feel something when you're with them and you're around them or you hear them communicate. 00:18:06.320 --> 00:18:08.320 And then even from there, there's another level. 00:18:08.880 --> 00:18:11.280 That fourth level is aspirational. 00:18:11.920 --> 00:18:16.960 Aspirational is not only did you motivate. You made me aware. You motivated me. I'm inspired, 00:18:17.280 --> 00:18:20.865 but I wanna be more like you. I wanna be more like you. 00:18:21.665 --> 00:18:26.305 To me, in the sports world, Tiger Woods was not only motivational, 00:18:26.305 --> 00:18:28.065 and he was incredibly motivational. 00:18:28.225 --> 00:18:29.345 He was inspiring. 00:18:29.345 --> 00:18:31.025 You would feel things when he would win, 00:18:31.740 --> 00:18:33.180 but he was aspirational. 00:18:33.180 --> 00:18:38.540 I'd like to be more like him in my business life. I'd like to be more like him. I wanna be a dominator. 00:18:38.780 --> 00:18:48.955 So I aspire to be a dominator, and I know you do too. You wanna know what the five rules are? I'm a give them to you. These are the mindsets, not just the behaviors. These are the mindsets of a self disciplined person. 00:18:49.675 --> 00:18:52.715 So here we go. Here's what he says. 00:18:53.115 --> 00:18:54.555 Here's the article, by the way. 00:18:55.035 --> 00:18:56.395 You believe I still carry this thing? 00:18:57.820 --> 00:19:01.660 Here we go. Number one, genius is 99% 00:19:01.660 --> 00:19:02.780 perspiration. 00:19:03.500 --> 00:19:04.620 Perspiration. 00:19:05.020 --> 00:19:11.980 I had to hear that. I had to have someone give me permission to work really, really hard. Now what they do in this article, by the way, is they interviewed other dominators. 00:19:12.445 --> 00:19:16.445 So they interviewed Martina Navratilova, the great tennis player. They interviewed Joe Montana, 00:19:16.845 --> 00:19:24.045 the incredible, uh, quarterback, football player. They interviewed Wayne Gretzky, the greatest hockey player of all time, all talking about Tiger 00:19:24.530 --> 00:19:29.490 and their similar mindsets. So this isn't just Tigers. This is the dominator mindset. 00:19:29.570 --> 00:19:30.370 99% 00:19:30.370 --> 00:19:31.330 perspiration. 00:19:31.650 --> 00:19:41.005 It begins, all the dominators agree, with good old fashioned hard work. There's no magic pill, no such thing as effortless grace. At this level, talent is a given. 00:19:41.245 --> 00:19:47.325 But Tiger works harder than anyone out there, and that's why he's kicking butt, says tennis great Martina Navratilova, 00:19:47.325 --> 00:19:48.845 winner of a 167 00:19:48.845 --> 00:19:51.485 women's titles, including a record nine Wimbledons. 00:19:52.540 --> 00:19:56.540 Every great shot you hit, you've already hit a bunch of times in practice. 00:19:56.860 --> 00:20:00.860 The vast majority of athletes have a much lower tolerance for preparation. 00:20:01.260 --> 00:20:03.980 It's not the pain. It's simpler than that. Listen to this. 00:20:05.385 --> 00:20:09.225 It's not the pain. It's simpler than that. Practice can be boring, 00:20:09.705 --> 00:20:27.310 says Joe Montana who led the San Francisco Forty Niners to four Super Bowl wins in the eighties. A lot of guys say, yeah. I watched two hours of game film last night, and that's enough. But they're not really studying what's going on. They may as well have been watching television. Tiger's habit of pounding golf ball after golf ball long into the twilight, 00:20:27.310 --> 00:20:30.270 often during tournament play, has already become part of his legend. 00:20:30.765 --> 00:20:32.445 This is twenty three years ago. 00:20:32.925 --> 00:20:39.965 During his so called slump earlier this year, Woods claimed to be working on something special for his new swing in the masters. People rolled their eyes 00:20:40.285 --> 00:20:41.885 until he won the masters. 00:20:42.205 --> 00:20:47.920 Montana, like Woods, understands that such preparation pays off biggest and critical situations, 00:20:48.160 --> 00:20:57.120 moments when a bout of nerves could disrupt even the most basic play. Dominators can be wondrously creative when they have to be, but they're also geniuses of simplicity. 00:20:58.495 --> 00:21:05.935 In his famous fourth quarter drive to beat the Super Bowl champion Bengals, Montana threw nothing but short passes. No big strike, no fireworks, 00:21:06.175 --> 00:21:07.295 and no mistakes. 00:21:07.375 --> 00:21:11.135 No matter who you are, no matter how good an athlete you are, we're creatures of 00:21:11.960 --> 00:21:12.600 habit, 00:21:13.000 --> 00:21:27.080 says Wayne Gretzky, hockey's leading scorer and four time Stanley Cup winner. The better your habits are, the better you'll be in pressure situations. I think I said that. I think I said that about ten minutes ago when I said under pressure, you react reflexively. 00:21:27.615 --> 00:21:32.095 And so although these great people that you see have these unbelievable geniuses and creativity, 00:21:32.415 --> 00:21:44.170 what they really are are greatest at the fundamentals, and they grind, and they hit more golf balls than everybody else. They throw more passes. They watch more game film. They make more contacts in business. They talk to more people. They see more people. 00:21:44.490 --> 00:21:57.505 And that number one rule gave me the permission and the habit of I've got to become self disciplined if I'm gonna be a dominator, and these are habits and rituals and routines. Everybody on the PGA tour could hit golf balls. There's nothing special about that. 00:21:58.305 --> 00:22:08.865 It's who hit the most with the most intention, with the most focus. Tiger Woods did. And that's why Tiger Woods became Tiger Woods, everybody else became everybody else. So if you wanna become aspirational level four, 00:22:09.410 --> 00:22:14.210 these self disciplined mindsets and thoughts in addition to the structural things I said earlier 00:22:14.610 --> 00:22:17.970 are the keys. How good is this? By the way, thousands 00:22:17.970 --> 00:22:21.250 of times I've read Tiger's Rules on domination. 00:22:21.975 --> 00:22:22.855 Number two, 00:22:23.495 --> 00:22:25.175 let the other guy get nervous. 00:22:26.375 --> 00:22:32.535 Gretzky and Woods have one more critical thing in common, an almost creepy ability to keep their cool. 00:22:33.655 --> 00:22:37.255 Believe it or not, the bigger the game, the calmer I got, said Gretzky. 00:22:37.570 --> 00:22:41.650 The dominators let the other guys flinch. The other guys get nervous, 00:22:42.050 --> 00:22:49.410 and that becomes a weapon on their behalf. I was comfortable because other people were nervous, says Yankee great Reggie Jackson, mister October, 00:22:49.570 --> 00:23:02.365 a title he earned with a startling spring of playoff runs, including the nineteen seventy seven World Series in which he homered a record five times. Sooner or later, you're gonna rush and you're gonna make a mistake, and I'm not gonna do that. 00:23:02.845 --> 00:23:11.200 That helps explain why Woods playing in a gentlemanly sport where the rivals directly can't affect each other's play has nonetheless become known for rattling his opponents. 00:23:11.440 --> 00:23:16.080 Being paired with Woods is akin to when the disciples tried to save their boat during a storm, 00:23:16.400 --> 00:23:24.825 only be distracted by the sight of Jesus walking on water. You're not only aware of his superior skills, you're also dealing with a whole new set of variables, 00:23:25.065 --> 00:23:27.945 such as bigger galleries, ooze and ahs, etcetera, etcetera. 00:23:28.665 --> 00:23:29.225 So 00:23:29.705 --> 00:23:38.960 listen, guys. What about you, your peers in your industry? Anybody getting nervous? Anybody worrying about you? Anybody up staying late at night thinking how they're gonna compete against you? 00:23:39.360 --> 00:23:42.400 Do you get people under pressure to crack and flinch and 00:23:42.720 --> 00:24:07.470 or are they not concerned about you at all? See, in business, not only did I wanna have the hardest work ethic, but I wanted people to think, man, I gotta be at my a game to beat this dude. I wanted the people around me that were on my team to wanna rise up to the standard that I was setting at any given time. I want everybody else to get nervous and flinch and under pressure. I was cool and calm. Remember this. Self discipline, one of the things that comes with it is in a sense of emotional 00:24:07.470 --> 00:24:08.030 control. 00:24:08.430 --> 00:24:22.705 You don't get too high, and you don't get too low. See, self disciplined people maintain emotional control. That's what they're saying in number two here, And I've learned that skill. Used to get very up and very down. Well, listen. When you're very up, your disciplines crack. 00:24:22.865 --> 00:24:29.425 Right? And when you're very down, it's very difficult to be disciplined. But when you can stay somewhere in the middle, up and down, maybe 25%, 00:24:30.200 --> 00:24:33.000 It allows you to stay self disciplined in those moments. 00:24:33.320 --> 00:24:34.360 Number three, 00:24:35.320 --> 00:24:37.480 don't just dominate. Intimidate. 00:24:38.280 --> 00:24:49.335 Yeah. Tiger's repeatedly said that intimidation is a part of his game, but that's once he's on the course. He's thinking about nothing but his own shot making. Sure. Once he's on the course. But what about when he's getting dressed in the morning? 00:24:49.895 --> 00:24:57.450 I love this, by the way. It's no coincidence that Tiger and off Tiger often pulls out a blood red sweater on his Sunday charges 00:24:57.450 --> 00:25:05.770 just as it wasn't by coincidence that Dale Earnhardt preferred dark sunglasses and drove a black and white stock car that looked like a 200 mile an hour pirate ship. 00:25:06.090 --> 00:25:38.530 Reggie Jackson during the seventy seven world series was the last Yankee every day to take batting practice just before the dodgers took the field. He claims he didn't care if they noticed, but you could tell he was watching. Before one game, Reggie crushed about 45 out of 60 balls over the fence. That night, he walked on four pitches in at first at bat and then hit three home runs. Bob Gibson, the ferocious pitcher from the Saint Louis cardinals, took intimidation a step further. He wouldn't even talk to guys on the other team, especially if they were hitters, says Gibson, who had a baffling 1.12 00:25:38.530 --> 00:25:39.410 ERA. 00:25:39.490 --> 00:25:40.530 So here's what I'm saying here. 00:25:41.355 --> 00:25:46.955 Here's what this means. You have to have the mindset that you are not gonna think like everybody else, 00:25:47.435 --> 00:25:48.955 that you're gonna think differently. 00:25:49.115 --> 00:25:54.395 And I'm letting you weigh on the inside here of self discipline. This is deep, deep, deep, deep into it. 00:25:55.160 --> 00:25:58.120 But if you keep thinking like everybody else thinks, 00:25:58.760 --> 00:25:59.400 right, 00:25:59.720 --> 00:26:01.160 you're not gonna be great. 00:26:01.640 --> 00:26:15.405 And I know this stuff isn't always pretty to hear, but I'm gonna tell you right now. This is what winning is. These are the little subtle thoughts. When you're, hey. Good to see you. Good to see you. But in your mind, you're like, they ain't getting to me. They don't know how to play it at this level. They don't know this game. 00:26:15.725 --> 00:26:23.325 These are all the things. You start doing all this stuff plus what I said in the very beginning, eliminating the distractions, scheduling the right things, 00:26:23.940 --> 00:26:28.820 You gotta be kidding me. Moving needle activities next, the big stuff, 00:26:29.060 --> 00:26:32.820 starting with simple practices that build self confidence and build momentum. 00:26:33.140 --> 00:26:35.860 How about number four? This is huge, guys. 00:26:36.340 --> 00:26:37.940 Have a sense of the historic. 00:26:39.295 --> 00:26:40.255 You hear that? 00:26:40.895 --> 00:26:59.290 Do you have a sense of the historic that what you're doing is something great? I tell my family since we were they were little kids. They the Myelettes are gonna do something awesome. The Myelettes are gonna do something girl, we're do something psycho as a family. We're gonna do something incredible. In business, I tell my colleagues, we're gonna do something so you guys are gonna believe when we get there. We're doing something awesome. This is a team of destiny. 00:26:59.370 --> 00:27:02.490 This is a company that the Mylette's a family of destiny. 00:27:02.650 --> 00:27:04.250 In a sense of the historic, 00:27:04.410 --> 00:27:11.455 this gives you a context to want to be self disciplined. Does that make sense? Why be self disciplined if it's never gonna mean anything? 00:27:11.775 --> 00:27:20.575 That's the problem. One of the reasons we're not self disciplined is it's never gonna mean anything. Who cares? No one's gonna notice. It's no big deal. What I do doesn't matter. It does matter. It's just your dadgum lie. 00:27:21.330 --> 00:27:24.770 It's just the story of you. It's just your family name. 00:27:25.090 --> 00:27:26.530 It's just your reputation. 00:27:27.090 --> 00:27:31.330 It's just what they're gonna talk about when you're gone is doing something historic. 00:27:31.810 --> 00:27:41.885 So whether that means you're gonna win a world series or a masters golf tournament or just be the one in your family and change your family forever, you gotta have this sense that you're making history. 00:27:42.285 --> 00:27:44.765 Because, by the way, you are. 00:27:45.565 --> 00:27:47.165 You're making some type of history. 00:27:48.240 --> 00:27:57.200 If you're a faith based person, you know someday you're gonna account for it. There's gonna be a history of your life. And even if you're not, you gotta believe somewhere along the road, there's some record of your existence. 00:27:57.840 --> 00:28:00.800 So you're making history, so you might as well have a sense of it. 00:28:01.515 --> 00:28:05.835 And we have a sense that that history is gonna be great instead of average and ordinary. 00:28:06.235 --> 00:28:08.075 You begin to automatically 00:28:08.075 --> 00:28:10.635 become compelled to be self disciplined. 00:28:11.035 --> 00:28:18.370 If you lack self discipline, it's there's nothing compelling you to have it other than wanting it. But if you have a sense of the historic, 00:28:18.610 --> 00:28:21.090 that's totally different. So he says this, 00:28:21.730 --> 00:28:24.930 do you have to be have to big win the big ones to be a dominator? 00:28:25.090 --> 00:28:38.105 It's a subject of eternal debate amongst sports fans, but it shouldn't be. Tiger is the proof. He's at the head of a heavenly crew of athletes, not because he's won five of his past six tournaments, but because he's won five of his past six major tournaments. 00:28:38.505 --> 00:28:41.145 Every athlete says he wants to win major championships, 00:28:41.225 --> 00:28:48.660 but Tiger doesn't just want those moments of glory. Listen to this. He has an innate sense that he can't be a legend without them. 00:28:49.940 --> 00:28:51.140 In our lives, 00:28:51.540 --> 00:28:53.860 there's gonna be a bunch of every single day meetings, 00:28:54.580 --> 00:28:56.340 every single day encounters with people, 00:28:57.445 --> 00:28:59.445 and they seem inconsequential. 00:28:59.765 --> 00:29:06.245 But when you have self discipline in these meetings and in these encounters with people and your relationships in business, in the gym, 00:29:06.805 --> 00:29:08.005 whatever it might be, 00:29:08.565 --> 00:29:09.605 on an everyday basis, 00:29:10.280 --> 00:29:11.880 every once in a while, 00:29:12.520 --> 00:29:19.480 there's gonna be a big one show up, and you're ready for it when it happens because it's your habit. It's because it's your discipline. 00:29:19.880 --> 00:29:21.960 But when you aren't day to day prepared, 00:29:22.335 --> 00:29:33.935 here's the truth in life. When you're doing something historic or when it's a big meeting, most times you won't know it until years later. But if you look back at your life right now, the person you're married to is probably a chance meeting, 00:29:34.590 --> 00:29:46.350 right, or something you weren't even sure was gonna be significant to me. The business you're in, the company you work for, probably you weren't even planning on working there or even being in that business. See, our dreams often show up in life in packages 00:29:46.350 --> 00:29:47.310 that we don't picture, 00:29:47.845 --> 00:29:49.205 that we didn't dream of. 00:29:49.605 --> 00:30:10.080 And so it's that day to day staying ready and being ready until the important meeting comes, the major appointment comes, the major relationship comes. I always say that you're one more meeting, one more decision, one more relationship, whatever it might be, one new emotion, one podcast away from changing your life, but the hook is you will never know when it's actually happening. 00:30:10.320 --> 00:30:19.040 Okay? You will not know when it's happening until it shows up. So you're not gonna know when it's the big one. You'll only know after you've done it. Now there are times in life where you're like, this one really matters. 00:30:19.735 --> 00:30:37.650 You will not feel the pressure in this one really mattering when you've been great day to day and self disciplined all the way along the way. You've heard great athletes say it's just another game. It's not just another game, but the great ones can perform just like it's another game, just like it's another meeting, just like it's another appointment. 00:30:37.890 --> 00:30:47.925 Whereas the average ordinary, the ones that fail, feel the pressure because they haven't been disciplined consistently throughout their life or their business or their fitness, and they blow the big one. 00:30:48.405 --> 00:30:52.805 And in it's true in life. The difference between winning and losing is so small, 00:30:53.285 --> 00:30:57.525 it really is almost too scary to talk about. If I look back at my own life, 00:30:58.005 --> 00:31:09.260 the very few occasions and meetings that took the massive difference in my life, It is scary to think about had I not shown up and performed in that meeting or I had not done the right thing on that first date. 00:31:09.980 --> 00:31:22.905 It's amazing even in your own life, isn't it? And so that's why day to day being ready, day to day having self discipline, day to day having these habits and the mindsets to go with them matter because you never know when it's coming. 00:31:23.145 --> 00:31:31.800 And the fifth one, this is big. This is why a 52 year old is just fired up today talking to you. You ready? Never ever be satisfied. 00:31:33.000 --> 00:31:34.520 Never ever be satisfied. 00:31:34.840 --> 00:31:41.160 Most athletes work the hardest when they're trying to reach the top, so do most business people. Try once they can get to that 100,000, 00:31:41.160 --> 00:31:45.205 they worked hard. Once they get to that million dollars, they worked as hard as they can work. 00:31:45.685 --> 00:31:54.965 The great ones work even harder after they get to the 100,000, harder after they get to the million, harder after they're famous, harder after they've got a big following, harder after they get that promotion. 00:31:55.125 --> 00:32:00.120 They work harder in their loving relationships after they've got the one that's the one. 00:32:00.680 --> 00:32:03.480 But most people work hardest to get them. 00:32:03.720 --> 00:32:06.520 And once they have them, they don't work as hard to keep them 00:32:06.840 --> 00:32:07.960 or to grow it. 00:32:08.360 --> 00:32:10.680 The great ones work even harder 00:32:10.840 --> 00:32:13.635 after they get what they want, who they want. 00:32:14.675 --> 00:32:22.035 Wouldn't you love to be in a relationship with somebody who works so hard to get you and then once they got you, worked even harder the rest of your life to keep loving you? 00:32:22.755 --> 00:32:27.715 Wouldn't you love in business someone who had a goal to get to a million dollars or a $100,000, 00:32:27.840 --> 00:32:30.080 and when they got there, they worked even harder. 00:32:30.560 --> 00:32:43.360 But we all know in life that's not true for most people. But the great ones, the dominators, the goats, the self disciplined people, they work even harder when they get there. So most athletes work the hardest when they're trying to reach the top, but Tiger 00:32:43.055 --> 00:32:47.615 has seemed only more committed to improving his game since leaving the competition in the dust. 00:32:47.855 --> 00:32:51.695 Woods won his first masters by the largest margin in history in 1997, 00:32:52.175 --> 00:33:06.950 but he knew that he wouldn't reach Jack Nicklaus Mark of six green jackets without a jolt of his game. So he spent the next eighteen months literally retooling his thunderous swing. And it goes on to give you more and more examples about that. Talks about Michael Jordan in here and compares him to Michael Jordan. 00:33:07.270 --> 00:33:12.885 But I want you to think about that in your own life, those of you listening to it. How hard did you work when you were totally broke? 00:33:13.525 --> 00:33:20.805 And now that you're not, do you have that same hunger and work ethic? How hard did you work to lose that first 20 pounds to get in pretty good shape? 00:33:21.285 --> 00:33:29.780 But are you working even harder now to get the ultimate health and vitality in your life? How hard did you work to get your spouse or your girlfriend or your boyfriend 00:33:30.020 --> 00:33:35.380 in your life? Are you working even harder now to love them more? Because that's what the dominators do. 00:33:35.995 --> 00:33:43.275 That's what self discipline is. And so these five steps of the tiger rules by the way, they wrote this article in 2001. 00:33:43.275 --> 00:34:01.580 They didn't know who Tiger Woods was gonna turn out to be. Turns out that this is, like, literally, for me, almost like a business bible of, uh, in some sense because all of these things proved to build the greatest golfer of all time or at least one of the two. And I watched this man in his sports life, not in every year of his life, but in his sports life 00:34:01.980 --> 00:34:18.915 implement these five things over and over again. And that's how he's come back from car accidents and unbelievable situations and still won the masters a few years ago on basically one leg, won a US Open on a broken leg. It's incredible. And these are the people we look at and go, they're so self disciplined. 00:34:19.075 --> 00:34:22.355 They're so amazing. Maybe you think that when you're listening to me sometimes. 00:34:22.800 --> 00:34:24.000 And now you know, 00:34:24.320 --> 00:34:25.520 naturally, I'm not. 00:34:25.920 --> 00:34:29.040 But I do have some steps and some strategies that I've shared with you today. 00:34:29.280 --> 00:34:30.480 Technical steps. 00:34:30.640 --> 00:34:31.760 That's the science. 00:34:31.920 --> 00:34:39.805 And then there's the art. And the art is the mindset. The art is the thinking. So today, I've tried to give you the best of both worlds, the science of self discipline 00:34:39.805 --> 00:34:41.885 and the art form, which is the mindset. 00:34:42.205 --> 00:35:01.640 And I hope that it's inspired you to make some of these changes today and to share this with as many people as you can. I really feel good about what we covered today. In fact, I want people that I love. I want my kids to hear this. I want people that I know that wanna win in life to hear this today because I know that it could really be transformative to many of you. So thank you so much, everybody. God bless you. Max out.